Why have people given up on looking attractive when they go out?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So many of these replies focus on how other people should treat you respectfully, regardless of how slovenly your appearance (and for the record I agree).

However, very few will engage with the idea that by dressing like an absolute slob (not even being bothered to find the middle ground between slovenly and dressed to the nines), the slob is the one treating others disrespectfully.

“I want to dress however I want regardless of occasion AND I want to dictate how others should feel or not feel about that, and how they should react to me.”

I, I, I, me, me, me. This is the world we live in, folks.

Are you the person who thinks it’s disrespectful to others to go out in public without earrings on?

[Anonymous]

Because Americans are slobs?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You live in the DMV. This is why.

This is part of it. It's a frumpy crowd who doesn't care much about looks. Hit up Miami or LA and you'll see a higher percentage of people who at least avoided wearing stained clothing out that day.

I moved to Greenwich, CT a few years ago and it's like a different world. People dress up to go to the post office here. Or their friend's house for tea. A constant fashion show in town. It took me a while to get used to but I actually love it.

Is this an ad for Don't Worry Darling?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You live in the DMV. This is why.

This is part of it. It's a frumpy crowd who doesn't care much about looks. Hit up Miami or LA and you'll see a higher percentage of people who at least avoided wearing stained clothing out that day.

I moved to Greenwich, CT a few years ago and it's like a different world. People dress up to go to the post office here. Or their friend's house for tea. A constant fashion show in town. It took me a while to get used to but I actually love it.

LOL. It’s easy to look good when you are wealthy and can focus all of your energy on personal care. If I could outsource all cleaning, laundry, children, errands, grocery shopping, cooking and landscaping I’d look fantastic!

My poor, uneducated immigrant mom always found a way to dress well, so there goes that excuse….

[Anonymous]

Civilization ended a while ago. I am happy for you that you are just now noticing. How charming.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So many of these replies focus on how other people should treat you respectfully, regardless of how slovenly your appearance (and for the record I agree).

However, very few will engage with the idea that by dressing like an absolute slob (not even being bothered to find the middle ground between slovenly and dressed to the nines), the slob is the one treating others disrespectfully.

“I want to dress however I want regardless of occasion AND I want to dictate how others should feel or not feel about that, and how they should react to me.”

I, I, I, me, me, me. This is the world we live in, folks.

Are you the person who thinks it’s disrespectful to others to go out in public without earrings on?

No. I am more of an “in the middle” type. You don’t have to look fashionable or attractive, but at least look like you can be bothered to put in the tiniest amount of effort. (Example: wear actual clothes instead of pajamas)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So many of these replies focus on how other people should treat you respectfully, regardless of how slovenly your appearance (and for the record I agree).

However, very few will engage with the idea that by dressing like an absolute slob (not even being bothered to find the middle ground between slovenly and dressed to the nines), the slob is the one treating others disrespectfully.

“I want to dress however I want regardless of occasion AND I want to dictate how others should feel or not feel about that, and how they should react to me.”

I, I, I, me, me, me. This is the world we live in, folks.

Are you the person who thinks it’s disrespectful to others to go out in public without earrings on?

No. I am more of an “in the middle” type. You don’t have to look fashionable or attractive, but at least look like you can be bothered to put in the tiniest amount of effort. (Example: wear actual clothes instead of pajamas)

And at least comb your hair.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Cuz I don’t careeeee

No kidding.

[Anonymous]

I do actually try to look pulled together most days, though I think you can look pulled together in leggings or joggers or other comfy, practical clothes (and you can look sloppy in work separates if they are ill-fitting or poorly cared for).

I am SO GRATEFUL to live in a time when beauty standards for women are more humane and In can were no or minimal makeup, comfortable and supportive undergarments, and clothes that conform to my actual body shape and not some ideal. Like let's not idealize the era of girdles, here. Also, I have a less-than-A cup chest and I'm thrilled that the pressure to wear padding and augment my chest has pretty much disappeared, as that was never comfortable or practical for me.

I'm a big fan of uniform dressing and routines to make it easier to look presentable with minimal effort. I do feel more confident and am more social when I know I look decent.

[Anonymous]

Are the pajama wearers putting on fresh pj pants in the morning or just rolling out of bed? Do they shower at night?

[Anonymous]

What’s hilarious about this thread is that we’re all born naked.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are the pajama wearers putting on fresh pj pants in the morning or just rolling out of bed? Do they shower at night?

I’ve seen women at the grocery store that look like they literally just rolled out of bed and came to the store. And this is for afternoon grocery runs. Hair scarfs, pajama bottoms and slippers. I think this looks so trashy and low class. I cannot imagine that they bothered to take a shower and still come to the store dressed like that.

[Anonymous]

Im always clean when I leave the house, but I’m not dressing up to go to the grocery store. But if you want to, good for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What’s hilarious about this thread is that we’re all born naked.

Thankfully life is conducted in clothes

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because Americans are slobs?

Many Americans are slobs, fat, and lazy. "Convenience for me me me" attitude.
Europeans still put in more effort. It is self-respect and respect towards others. I am sure it is the same in South America, Africa, Middle East, Asia as well.