Can’t have water, apparently

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That is way too much. I would leave. Weirdos.

You'd leave? People on DCUM amuse me. OP is the guest in this home and yes, MIL is being a fusspot but not nuts or OCD. If OP is this incensed to her core over this silly thing, OP is going to have one hell of a time when there's a baby and MIL (or, God forbid! DH himself, or anyone else remotely in OP's orbit) does something that gets on OP's apparently very easily upset nerves. OP seems to be a humor-free zone about this, which begs the question: About what else might she be so uptight?

MIL isn't demanding that OP wash all these glasses. MIL is being a neat freak, sure, but in her own home, and creating work for HERSELF, not for OP. But instead of rolling her eyes a bit and joking about it with DH and letting it go, OP has to make her water A Hill To Die On.

Before someone leaps in to yelp, "But! But but but what about the water bottle that is OP's ownnnn!" Yes, that was silly, but FFS, tell MIL once firmly, using your words like an adult: "Hey, I get that you worry about glasses being left around so that's why I brought in my bottle. Please don't move it or clean it -- I have a particular way of cleaning it and will do that myself. Just pretend it's invisible!" But nah, OP would rather be offended. .And again---MIL is not doing this at OP's own home. You can be a freak at your own place, and guests can leave if they want, but leaving over this? OP had better be ready to leave over every other quirk she encounters too. In fact, just send DH to see his folks solo from now on. OP must not find much to like in her MIL if this one ridiculous thing would be such a big deal to OP.

You know what? OP can also just not visit MIL, ever. And if her son remembers to visit her, then sure, he can do it alone.

Hey, OP, sounds like a good plan. You can all meet up at a neutral location or she can come to your place under your rules, if you are going to stay involved in this. Jesus.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That is way too much. I would leave. Weirdos.

You'd leave? People on DCUM amuse me. OP is the guest in this home and yes, MIL is being a fusspot but not nuts or OCD. If OP is this incensed to her core over this silly thing, OP is going to have one hell of a time when there's a baby and MIL (or, God forbid! DH himself, or anyone else remotely in OP's orbit) does something that gets on OP's apparently very easily upset nerves. OP seems to be a humor-free zone about this, which begs the question: About what else might she be so uptight?

MIL isn't demanding that OP wash all these glasses. MIL is being a neat freak, sure, but in her own home, and creating work for HERSELF, not for OP. But instead of rolling her eyes a bit and joking about it with DH and letting it go, OP has to make her water A Hill To Die On.

Before someone leaps in to yelp, "But! But but but what about the water bottle that is OP's ownnnn!" Yes, that was silly, but FFS, tell MIL once firmly, using your words like an adult: "Hey, I get that you worry about glasses being left around so that's why I brought in my bottle. Please don't move it or clean it -- I have a particular way of cleaning it and will do that myself. Just pretend it's invisible!" But nah, OP would rather be offended. .And again---MIL is not doing this at OP's own home. You can be a freak at your own place, and guests can leave if they want, but leaving over this? OP had better be ready to leave over every other quirk she encounters too. In fact, just send DH to see his folks solo from now on. OP must not find much to like in her MIL if this one ridiculous thing would be such a big deal to OP.

You know what? OP can also just not visit MIL, ever. And if her son remembers to visit her, then sure, he can do it alone.

Hey, OP, sounds like a good plan. You can all meet up at a neutral location or she can come to your place under your rules, if you are going to stay involved in this. Jesus.

You are wound very tight. Scarily so.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a neat freak and I hate clutter, but I would never clear a guest’s water glass (unless they have multiple glasses scattered around the house - my SIL does this) or go into their room and take their water bottle!

Does she “close the kitchen” too?

Thanks for that memory. I'm going to spend the rest of the day crying in the corner.

Just grab a delicious piece of fruit from the breakfast bar and EAT IT OUTSIDE!

On the stoop like THE DIRTY, CRUMBLY GIRl YOU ARE

In the FRESH AIR!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:MIL is going to lose her mind when the baby comes. Is she going to empty out and wash the bottles?

OP here. I guess we won’t be finding out, as DH and I left earlier than planned and have agreed that it’s best if we stay in a hotel going forward. We wouldn’t want MIL and FIL to be upset by any mess we might make with a new baby in their house. They can come to us, or perhaps we’ll stay with MIL’s sister, DH’s favorite aunt, who lives close to MIL. She’s a really easygoing hostess.

Thanks all for the perspectives!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Have your mother-in-law watch the movie Signs and learn the importance of unfinished glasses of water.

Your mother in law is an Alien.

https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0286106/
Signs - 2002
The Hess family lives on a farm in Doylestown, Bucks County, Pennsylvania. Graham Hess (Mel Gibson) is a former Episcopal priest who lost his faith in God after his wife, Colleen, died in a horrific traffic accident caused by a veterinarian named Ray Reddy (played by M. Night Shyamalan). Additionally, Graham cannot come to terms with his son Morgan's (Rory Culkin) asthma condition which causes great suffering. No longer practicing religiously, Graham and Morgan live with Graham's daughter, Bo (Abigail Breslin), who has a strange habit of leaving unfinished glasses of water around the house, and Graham's younger brother, Merrill (Joaquin Phoenix), a former minor league baseball star who never made it to the big leagues because of a habit of swinging at whatever pitch came his way....
Merrill quickly realizes that water is deadly to the alien and uses the unfinished glasses of water Bo left all over the house to defeat the alien while Graham takes Morgan outside and administers his asthma medication

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Doing something on a regular basis or being a “neat freak” does not mean someone has OCD.

The MIL was rude for taking Op’s water bottle and going into her room. People can be rude without having OCD. My dd is very open about her OCD. She is also one of the messiest people I know.

As long as Op isn’t leaving glasses in each room so she always has a drink available, MIL needs to relax. If Op is doing that, she needs to use one at a time.

Perhaps stay somewhere else next time since there are no boundaries (entering the guest room) and odd “rules.”

Not everyone's OCD presents the same way. I have a relative who's OCD is all about things that have been set down on surfaces and is constantly putting things in the dishwashers (they have to have more than one).

I know that not everyone’s OCD presents the same way and there certainly are people with OCD who require order. My point was that people shouldn’t be diagnosing the MIL based on that behavior alone - there is a lot more to OCD. People with OCD can act like the MIL and people without OCD can too. It can be a very debilitating disorder and Op has given no indication that her MIL has this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That is way too much. I would leave. Weirdos.

You'd leave? People on DCUM amuse me. OP is the guest in this home and yes, MIL is being a fusspot but not nuts or OCD. If OP is this incensed to her core over this silly thing, OP is going to have one hell of a time when there's a baby and MIL (or, God forbid! DH himself, or anyone else remotely in OP's orbit) does something that gets on OP's apparently very easily upset nerves. OP seems to be a humor-free zone about this, which begs the question: About what else might she be so uptight?

MIL isn't demanding that OP wash all these glasses. MIL is being a neat freak, sure, but in her own home, and creating work for HERSELF, not for OP. But instead of rolling her eyes a bit and joking about it with DH and letting it go, OP has to make her water A Hill To Die On.

Before someone leaps in to yelp, "But! But but but what about the water bottle that is OP's ownnnn!" Yes, that was silly, but FFS, tell MIL once firmly, using your words like an adult: "Hey, I get that you worry about glasses being left around so that's why I brought in my bottle. Please don't move it or clean it -- I have a particular way of cleaning it and will do that myself. Just pretend it's invisible!" But nah, OP would rather be offended. .And again---MIL is not doing this at OP's own home. You can be a freak at your own place, and guests can leave if they want, but leaving over this? OP had better be ready to leave over every other quirk she encounters too. In fact, just send DH to see his folks solo from now on. OP must not find much to like in her MIL if this one ridiculous thing would be such a big deal to OP.

You know what? OP can also just not visit MIL, ever. And if her son remembers to visit her, then sure, he can do it alone.

Hey, OP, sounds like a good plan. You can all meet up at a neutral location or she can come to your place under your rules, if you are going to stay involved in this. Jesus.

You are wound very tight. Scarily so.

Yeah, I can bear seeing a glass on a coaster for more than three minutes, so.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:MIL is going to lose her mind when the baby comes. Is she going to empty out and wash the bottles?

OP here. I guess we won’t be finding out, as DH and I left earlier than planned and have agreed that it’s best if we stay in a hotel going forward. We wouldn’t want MIL and FIL to be upset by any mess we might make with a new baby in their house. They can come to us, or perhaps we’ll stay with MIL’s sister, DH’s favorite aunt, who lives close to MIL. She’s a really easygoing hostess.

Thanks all for the perspectives!

Niiiice.

Team OP all the way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That is way too much. I would leave. Weirdos.

You'd leave? People on DCUM amuse me. OP is the guest in this home and yes, MIL is being a fusspot but not nuts or OCD. If OP is this incensed to her core over this silly thing, OP is going to have one hell of a time when there's a baby and MIL (or, God forbid! DH himself, or anyone else remotely in OP's orbit) does something that gets on OP's apparently very easily upset nerves. OP seems to be a humor-free zone about this, which begs the question: About what else might she be so uptight?

MIL isn't demanding that OP wash all these glasses. MIL is being a neat freak, sure, but in her own home, and creating work for HERSELF, not for OP. But instead of rolling her eyes a bit and joking about it with DH and letting it go, OP has to make her water A Hill To Die On.

Before someone leaps in to yelp, "But! But but but what about the water bottle that is OP's ownnnn!" Yes, that was silly, but FFS, tell MIL once firmly, using your words like an adult: "Hey, I get that you worry about glasses being left around so that's why I brought in my bottle. Please don't move it or clean it -- I have a particular way of cleaning it and will do that myself. Just pretend it's invisible!" But nah, OP would rather be offended. .And again---MIL is not doing this at OP's own home. You can be a freak at your own place, and guests can leave if they want, but leaving over this? OP had better be ready to leave over every other quirk she encounters too. In fact, just send DH to see his folks solo from now on. OP must not find much to like in her MIL if this one ridiculous thing would be such a big deal to OP.

You know what? OP can also just not visit MIL, ever. And if her son remembers to visit her, then sure, he can do it alone.

Hey, OP, sounds like a good plan. You can all meet up at a neutral location or she can come to your place under your rules, if you are going to stay involved in this. Jesus.

You are wound very tight. Scarily so.

Yeah, I can bear seeing a glass on a coaster for more than three minutes, so.

Nah, that's not it. The extreme over reaction to a glass being moved is bizarre. If you're so chill to be cool with a a glass resting then what's with the rage with it being moved?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:MIL is going to lose her mind when the baby comes. Is she going to empty out and wash the bottles?

OP here. I guess we won’t be finding out, as DH and I left earlier than planned and have agreed that it’s best if we stay in a hotel going forward. We wouldn’t want MIL and FIL to be upset by any mess we might make with a new baby in their house. They can come to us, or perhaps we’ll stay with MIL’s sister, DH’s favorite aunt, who lives close to MIL. She’s a really easygoing hostess.

Thanks all for the perspectives!

Niiiice.

Team OP all the way.

+1

Team OP. Winning.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That is way too much. I would leave. Weirdos.

You'd leave? People on DCUM amuse me. OP is the guest in this home and yes, MIL is being a fusspot but not nuts or OCD. If OP is this incensed to her core over this silly thing, OP is going to have one hell of a time when there's a baby and MIL (or, God forbid! DH himself, or anyone else remotely in OP's orbit) does something that gets on OP's apparently very easily upset nerves. OP seems to be a humor-free zone about this, which begs the question: About what else might she be so uptight?

MIL isn't demanding that OP wash all these glasses. MIL is being a neat freak, sure, but in her own home, and creating work for HERSELF, not for OP. But instead of rolling her eyes a bit and joking about it with DH and letting it go, OP has to make her water A Hill To Die On.

Before someone leaps in to yelp, "But! But but but what about the water bottle that is OP's ownnnn!" Yes, that was silly, but FFS, tell MIL once firmly, using your words like an adult: "Hey, I get that you worry about glasses being left around so that's why I brought in my bottle. Please don't move it or clean it -- I have a particular way of cleaning it and will do that myself. Just pretend it's invisible!" But nah, OP would rather be offended. .And again---MIL is not doing this at OP's own home. You can be a freak at your own place, and guests can leave if they want, but leaving over this? OP had better be ready to leave over every other quirk she encounters too. In fact, just send DH to see his folks solo from now on. OP must not find much to like in her MIL if this one ridiculous thing would be such a big deal to OP.

You know what? OP can also just not visit MIL, ever. And if her son remembers to visit her, then sure, he can do it alone.

Hey, OP, sounds like a good plan. You can all meet up at a neutral location or she can come to your place under your rules, if you are going to stay involved in this. Jesus.

You are wound very tight. Scarily so.

Yeah, I can bear seeing a glass on a coaster for more than three minutes, so.

Nah, that's not it. The extreme over reaction to a glass being moved is bizarre. If you're so chill to be cool with a a glass resting then what's with the rage with it being moved?

Are we talking about one glass, or six glasses in a row every time I put it down, plus you going through the guest room to confiscate my water bottle? Because you may be reading a different thread.

[Anonymous]

PS: It's not extreme to just decline your invitation to stay in your weird house with your weird compulsive rules. That's just life. Sometimes people won't like you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That is way too much. I would leave. Weirdos.

You'd leave? People on DCUM amuse me. OP is the guest in this home and yes, MIL is being a fusspot but not nuts or OCD. If OP is this incensed to her core over this silly thing, OP is going to have one hell of a time when there's a baby and MIL (or, God forbid! DH himself, or anyone else remotely in OP's orbit) does something that gets on OP's apparently very easily upset nerves. OP seems to be a humor-free zone about this, which begs the question: About what else might she be so uptight?

MIL isn't demanding that OP wash all these glasses. MIL is being a neat freak, sure, but in her own home, and creating work for HERSELF, not for OP. But instead of rolling her eyes a bit and joking about it with DH and letting it go, OP has to make her water A Hill To Die On.

Before someone leaps in to yelp, "But! But but but what about the water bottle that is OP's ownnnn!" Yes, that was silly, but FFS, tell MIL once firmly, using your words like an adult: "Hey, I get that you worry about glasses being left around so that's why I brought in my bottle. Please don't move it or clean it -- I have a particular way of cleaning it and will do that myself. Just pretend it's invisible!" But nah, OP would rather be offended. .And again---MIL is not doing this at OP's own home. You can be a freak at your own place, and guests can leave if they want, but leaving over this? OP had better be ready to leave over every other quirk she encounters too. In fact, just send DH to see his folks solo from now on. OP must not find much to like in her MIL if this one ridiculous thing would be such a big deal to OP.

You know what? OP can also just not visit MIL, ever. And if her son remembers to visit her, then sure, he can do it alone.

Hey, OP, sounds like a good plan. You can all meet up at a neutral location or she can come to your place under your rules, if you are going to stay involved in this. Jesus.

You are wound very tight. Scarily so.

Yeah, I can bear seeing a glass on a coaster for more than three minutes, so.

Nah, that's not it. The extreme over reaction to a glass being moved is bizarre. If you're so chill to be cool with a a glass resting then what's with the rage with it being moved?

Are we talking about one glass, or six glasses in a row every time I put it down, plus you going through the guest room to confiscate my water bottle? Because you may be reading a different thread.

It's a freaking water glass. Who really cares? The people raging about it being moved are as nut as the MIL. Different side of the same coin.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:MIL is going to lose her mind when the baby comes. Is she going to empty out and wash the bottles?

OP here. I guess we won’t be finding out, as DH and I left earlier than planned and have agreed that it’s best if we stay in a hotel going forward. We wouldn’t want MIL and FIL to be upset by any mess we might make with a new baby in their house. They can come to us, or perhaps we’ll stay with MIL’s sister, DH’s favorite aunt, who lives close to MIL. She’s a really easygoing hostess.

Thanks all for the perspectives!

So was it more than the water glasses that was causing a problem?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That is way too much. I would leave. Weirdos.

You'd leave? People on DCUM amuse me. OP is the guest in this home and yes, MIL is being a fusspot but not nuts or OCD. If OP is this incensed to her core over this silly thing, OP is going to have one hell of a time when there's a baby and MIL (or, God forbid! DH himself, or anyone else remotely in OP's orbit) does something that gets on OP's apparently very easily upset nerves. OP seems to be a humor-free zone about this, which begs the question: About what else might she be so uptight?

MIL isn't demanding that OP wash all these glasses. MIL is being a neat freak, sure, but in her own home, and creating work for HERSELF, not for OP. But instead of rolling her eyes a bit and joking about it with DH and letting it go, OP has to make her water A Hill To Die On.

Before someone leaps in to yelp, "But! But but but what about the water bottle that is OP's ownnnn!" Yes, that was silly, but FFS, tell MIL once firmly, using your words like an adult: "Hey, I get that you worry about glasses being left around so that's why I brought in my bottle. Please don't move it or clean it -- I have a particular way of cleaning it and will do that myself. Just pretend it's invisible!" But nah, OP would rather be offended. .And again---MIL is not doing this at OP's own home. You can be a freak at your own place, and guests can leave if they want, but leaving over this? OP had better be ready to leave over every other quirk she encounters too. In fact, just send DH to see his folks solo from now on. OP must not find much to like in her MIL if this one ridiculous thing would be such a big deal to OP.

You know what? OP can also just not visit MIL, ever. And if her son remembers to visit her, then sure, he can do it alone.

Hey, OP, sounds like a good plan. You can all meet up at a neutral location or she can come to your place under your rules, if you are going to stay involved in this. Jesus.

You are wound very tight. Scarily so.

Yeah, I can bear seeing a glass on a coaster for more than three minutes, so.

Nah, that's not it. The extreme over reaction to a glass being moved is bizarre. If you're so chill to be cool with a a glass resting then what's with the rage with it being moved?

Are we talking about one glass, or six glasses in a row every time I put it down, plus you going through the guest room to confiscate my water bottle? Because you may be reading a different thread.

It's a freaking water glass. Who really cares? The people raging about it being moved are as nut as the MIL. Different side of the same coin.

Hey, it's probably time for you to count the number of screws in your cabinets again. Better get on that.