List of Schools You are Declining and Where Will You Accept?

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Anonymous wrote:I know two kids declining Sidwell for 9th; two declining STA. All going to top 5 boarding schools.

It will be interesting to see how well they predicted their yields. They probably have these declines built into their estimates but time will tell.

I don’t know if I could ever send my children totally boarding school regardless of how good it is even if it was 100% free. No judgments I get the benefits it’s just not for me in particular.

We felt the same way until our DC went. She loves it, and she gets to come home for visits every 4 - 5 weeks.

We didn't send my two DCs to boarding school but I think of their friends who attended BS, their parents spent more time with their BS kids than I spent with my DCs. My DCs didn't want to spend time with me on the weekends, yet their BS friends would come home and spend time with the family. They would facetime regularly. The parents would visit and take the kids out to dinner. I opened my eyes that it might be a closer relationship than I had.

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Anonymous wrote:I know two kids declining Sidwell for 9th; two declining STA. All going to top 5 boarding schools.

It will be interesting to see how well they predicted their yields. They probably have these declines built into their estimates but time will tell.

I don’t know if I could ever send my children totally boarding school regardless of how good it is even if it was 100% free. No judgments I get the benefits it’s just not for me in particular.

We felt the same way until our DC went. She loves it, and she gets to come home for visits every 4 - 5 weeks.

We didn't send my two DCs to boarding school but I think of their friends who attended BS, their parents spent more time with their BS kids than I spent with my DCs. My DCs didn't want to spend time with me on the weekends, yet their BS friends would come home and spend time with the family. They would facetime regularly. The parents would visit and take the kids out to dinner. I opened my eyes that it might be a closer relationship than I had.

No, it sounds like your children just don’t want to spend time with you. My teens attend a private school in DC (where we live), and we’ve maintained a close relationship throughout high school. I see them 7 days/week, and they usually hang out with their friends for a few hours on Saturday. It’s a pretty balanced life.

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Anonymous wrote:I know two kids declining Sidwell for 9th; two declining STA. All going to top 5 boarding schools.

It will be interesting to see how well they predicted their yields. They probably have these declines built into their estimates but time will tell.

I don’t know if I could ever send my children totally boarding school regardless of how good it is even if it was 100% free. No judgments I get the benefits it’s just not for me in particular.

We felt the same way until our DC went. She loves it, and she gets to come home for visits every 4 - 5 weeks.

We didn't send my two DCs to boarding school but I think of their friends who attended BS, their parents spent more time with their BS kids than I spent with my DCs. My DCs didn't want to spend time with me on the weekends, yet their BS friends would come home and spend time with the family. They would facetime regularly. The parents would visit and take the kids out to dinner. I opened my eyes that it might be a closer relationship than I had.

No, it sounds like your children just don’t want to spend time with you. My teens attend a private school in DC (where we live), and we’ve maintained a close relationship throughout high school. I see them 7 days/week, and they usually hang out with their friends for a few hours on Saturday. It’s a pretty balanced life.

A bit judgmental no? If you’re so secure in your amazing relationship with your teenage kids, why put down others? Bottom line is for many of us, good, caring parents, these are the years where we basically become the Uber, chef, bank and laundress. That’s completely normal as kids separate from their parents and become more and more independent. Certainly there must be days where your students are “around” but they may as well be on the other side of the world because they’re so busy and engaged with schoolwork, friends etc. No need to bash others.

For the independent kid who is looking for a richer, deeper, more unique experience, boarding school is a once in a lifetime opportunity. While people love to say “I’d never ship my kid off to BS,” I challenge them to stand in the way of their independent-minded kid who is asking for the experience. We miss my son terribly. Our younger DS especially struggles with being an only child. But I’d be a horrible parent if I stood in the way of my kid and his hopes and dreams to serve my own needs.

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Every adult I know who went to boarding school is damaged in a unique way. Essentially, they were rejected by their parents at a young age and list a part of their soul.

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Anonymous wrote:Every adult I know who went to boarding school is damaged in a unique way. Essentially, they were rejected by their parents at a young age and list a part of their soul.

*lost

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Anonymous wrote:Every adult I know who went to boarding school is damaged in a unique way. Essentially, they were rejected by their parents at a young age and list a part of their soul.

I went to boarding school and don't at all feel like I was rejected. I am super close with both of my parents and thankful that they sacrificed to give me the best education possible.

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Anonymous wrote:I know two kids declining Sidwell for 9th; two declining STA. All going to top 5 boarding schools.

It will be interesting to see how well they predicted their yields. They probably have these declines built into their estimates but time will tell.

I don’t know if I could ever send my children totally boarding school regardless of how good it is even if it was 100% free. No judgments I get the benefits it’s just not for me in particular.

We felt the same way until our DC went. She loves it, and she gets to come home for visits every 4 - 5 weeks.

We didn't send my two DCs to boarding school but I think of their friends who attended BS, their parents spent more time with their BS kids than I spent with my DCs. My DCs didn't want to spend time with me on the weekends, yet their BS friends would come home and spend time with the family. They would facetime regularly. The parents would visit and take the kids out to dinner. I opened my eyes that it might be a closer relationship than I had.

We looked at some boarding schools. The schools offer structure, plenty of study halls, everything they want is right there on campus, and it’s an experience that would get them ready for college. I would have liked a boarding school like that when I was a teen. However, my kids didn’t want to go. And I don’t want them to go so despite getting admitted to some nice boarding schools, we selected a local day schools.

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Anonymous wrote:Every adult I know who went to boarding school is damaged in a unique way. Essentially, they were rejected by their parents at a young age and list a part of their soul.

You sound damaged.

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Anonymous wrote:Every adult I know who went to boarding school is damaged in a unique way. Essentially, they were rejected by their parents at a young age and list a part of their soul.

Sad but I kind of agree. There is a certain lack of joy.

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I would be very sad to send a 14yr old to boarding school. You’d miss out on so much as a parent.

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Anonymous wrote:I would be very sad to send a 14yr old to boarding school. You’d miss out on so much as a parent.

Exactly! What’s the hurry to push your kid out?!? Wait four years and then them off to college.

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Anonymous wrote:I know two kids declining Sidwell for 9th; two declining STA. All going to top 5 boarding schools.

It will be interesting to see how well they predicted their yields. They probably have these declines built into their estimates but time will tell.

I don’t know if I could ever send my children totally boarding school regardless of how good it is even if it was 100% free. No judgments I get the benefits it’s just not for me in particular.

We felt the same way until our DC went. She loves it, and she gets to come home for visits every 4 - 5 weeks.

We didn't send my two DCs to boarding school but I think of their friends who attended BS, their parents spent more time with their BS kids than I spent with my DCs. My DCs didn't want to spend time with me on the weekends, yet their BS friends would come home and spend time with the family. They would facetime regularly. The parents would visit and take the kids out to dinner. I opened my eyes that it might be a closer relationship than I had.

No, it sounds like your children just don’t want to spend time with you. My teens attend a private school in DC (where we live), and we’ve maintained a close relationship throughout high school. I see them 7 days/week, and they usually hang out with their friends for a few hours on Saturday. It’s a pretty balanced life.

A bit judgmental no? If you’re so secure in your amazing relationship with your teenage kids, why put down others? Bottom line is for many of us, good, caring parents, these are the years where we basically become the Uber, chef, bank and laundress. That’s completely normal as kids separate from their parents and become more and more independent. Certainly there must be days where your students are “around” but they may as well be on the other side of the world because they’re so busy and engaged with schoolwork, friends etc. No need to bash others.

For the independent kid who is looking for a richer, deeper, more unique experience, boarding school is a once in a lifetime opportunity. While people love to say “I’d never ship my kid off to BS,” I challenge them to stand in the way of their independent-minded kid who is asking for the experience. We miss my son terribly. Our younger DS especially struggles with being an only child. But I’d be a horrible parent if I stood in the way of my kid and his hopes and dreams to serve my own needs.

I’m not bashing anyone. However, a hit dog will holler.

No, my children do not treat me like an Uber driver/chef/maid/hired help…nor would I allow it. My oldest child spent a semester abroad and had the time of her life. She certainly had a “rich, deep, and unique experience” in Spain, but she was also happy to return home to the unconditional love, care, and support of her family. She has her entire adult life to live independently, so our family doesn’t feel the need to hasten the process. My children can attend “boarding school” when they go off to college.

Of course you’re free to do whatever works best for your family.

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Anonymous wrote:Accepted SSFS!

Us too

Us three! Excited!

Us four! For 9th grade.

Us five - for 9th grade also

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know two kids declining Sidwell for 9th; two declining STA. All going to top 5 boarding schools.

It will be interesting to see how well they predicted their yields. They probably have these declines built into their estimates but time will tell.

I don’t know if I could ever send my children totally boarding school regardless of how good it is even if it was 100% free. No judgments I get the benefits it’s just not for me in particular.

We felt the same way until our DC went. She loves it, and she gets to come home for visits every 4 - 5 weeks.

We didn't send my two DCs to boarding school but I think of their friends who attended BS, their parents spent more time with their BS kids than I spent with my DCs. My DCs didn't want to spend time with me on the weekends, yet their BS friends would come home and spend time with the family. They would facetime regularly. The parents would visit and take the kids out to dinner. I opened my eyes that it might be a closer relationship than I had.

No, it sounds like your children just don’t want to spend time with you. My teens attend a private school in DC (where we live), and we’ve maintained a close relationship throughout high school. I see them 7 days/week, and they usually hang out with their friends for a few hours on Saturday. It’s a pretty balanced life.

A bit judgmental no? If you’re so secure in your amazing relationship with your teenage kids, why put down others? Bottom line is for many of us, good, caring parents, these are the years where we basically become the Uber, chef, bank and laundress. That’s completely normal as kids separate from their parents and become more and more independent. Certainly there must be days where your students are “around” but they may as well be on the other side of the world because they’re so busy and engaged with schoolwork, friends etc. No need to bash others.

For the independent kid who is looking for a richer, deeper, more unique experience, boarding school is a once in a lifetime opportunity. While people love to say “I’d never ship my kid off to BS,” I challenge them to stand in the way of their independent-minded kid who is asking for the experience. We miss my son terribly. Our younger DS especially struggles with being an only child. But I’d be a horrible parent if I stood in the way of my kid and his hopes and dreams to serve my own needs.

I’m not bashing anyone. However, a hit dog will holler.

No, my children do not treat me like an Uber driver/chef/maid/hired help…nor would I allow it. My oldest child spent a semester abroad and had the time of her life. She certainly had a “rich, deep, and unique experience” in Spain, but she was also happy to return home to the unconditional love, care, and support of her family. She has her entire adult life to live independently, so our family doesn’t feel the need to hasten the process. My children can attend “boarding school” when they go off to college.

Of course you’re free to do whatever works best for your family.

Your daughter wanted to spend an entire semester in a foreign country?!!! Wow, she really must have wanted to get as far away from you as possible.

And, hitting your dog is abusive. I don’t like the analogy.

I stand by my position. Your daughter sounds a lot like my son… independent, confident, savvy. The fact that she wanted to spend a semester of HS in Spain embracing other cultures and expanding her worldview shows that she is well on her way to being a successful adult. Hope you’re able to cut the cord… there appears to be an underlying dependency on your part.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know two kids declining Sidwell for 9th; two declining STA. All going to top 5 boarding schools.

It will be interesting to see how well they predicted their yields. They probably have these declines built into their estimates but time will tell.

I don’t know if I could ever send my children totally boarding school regardless of how good it is even if it was 100% free. No judgments I get the benefits it’s just not for me in particular.

We felt the same way until our DC went. She loves it, and she gets to come home for visits every 4 - 5 weeks.

We didn't send my two DCs to boarding school but I think of their friends who attended BS, their parents spent more time with their BS kids than I spent with my DCs. My DCs didn't want to spend time with me on the weekends, yet their BS friends would come home and spend time with the family. They would facetime regularly. The parents would visit and take the kids out to dinner. I opened my eyes that it might be a closer relationship than I had.

No, it sounds like your children just don’t want to spend time with you. My teens attend a private school in DC (where we live), and we’ve maintained a close relationship throughout high school. I see them 7 days/week, and they usually hang out with their friends for a few hours on Saturday. It’s a pretty balanced life.

A bit judgmental no? If you’re so secure in your amazing relationship with your teenage kids, why put down others? Bottom line is for many of us, good, caring parents, these are the years where we basically become the Uber, chef, bank and laundress. That’s completely normal as kids separate from their parents and become more and more independent. Certainly there must be days where your students are “around” but they may as well be on the other side of the world because they’re so busy and engaged with schoolwork, friends etc. No need to bash others.

For the independent kid who is looking for a richer, deeper, more unique experience, boarding school is a once in a lifetime opportunity. While people love to say “I’d never ship my kid off to BS,” I challenge them to stand in the way of their independent-minded kid who is asking for the experience. We miss my son terribly. Our younger DS especially struggles with being an only child. But I’d be a horrible parent if I stood in the way of my kid and his hopes and dreams to serve my own needs.

I’m not bashing anyone. However, a hit dog will holler.

No, my children do not treat me like an Uber driver/chef/maid/hired help…nor would I allow it. My oldest child spent a semester abroad and had the time of her life. She certainly had a “rich, deep, and unique experience” in Spain, but she was also happy to return home to the unconditional love, care, and support of her family. She has her entire adult life to live independently, so our family doesn’t feel the need to hasten the process. My children can attend “boarding school” when they go off to college.

Of course you’re free to do whatever works best for your family.

Your daughter wanted to spend an entire semester in a foreign country?!!! Wow, she really must have wanted to get as far away from you as possible.

And, hitting your dog is abusive. I don’t like the analogy.

I stand by my position. Your daughter sounds a lot like my son… independent, confident, savvy. The fact that she wanted to spend a semester of HS in Spain embracing other cultures and expanding her worldview shows that she is well on her way to being a successful adult. Hope you’re able to cut the cord… there appears to be an underlying dependency on your part.

You sound extremely insecure and defensive. Spending a semester away in Spain (after attending immersion schools her entire life) is not the same as your son wanting to spend FOUR YEARS away from you.

You and I are not the same. Our situations are completely different.