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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I know two kids declining Sidwell for 9th; two declining STA. All going to top 5 boarding schools.

It will be interesting to see how well they predicted their yields.  They probably have these declines built into their estimates but time will tell.  [/quote]

I don’t know if I could ever send my children totally boarding school regardless of how good it is even if it was 100% free. No judgments I get the benefits it’s just not for me in particular.[/quote]

We felt the same way until our DC went.  She loves it, and she gets to come home for visits every 4 - 5 weeks.[/quote]

We didn't send my two DCs to boarding school but I think of their friends who attended BS, their parents spent more time with their BS kids than I spent with my DCs. My DCs didn't want to spend time with me on the weekends, yet their BS friends would come home and spend time with the family. They would facetime regularly. The parents would visit and take the kids out to dinner. I opened my eyes that it might be a closer relationship than I had.
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No, it sounds like your children just don’t want to spend time with you.  My teens attend a private school in DC (where we live), and we’ve maintained a close relationship throughout high school.  I see them 7 days/week, and they usually hang out with their friends for a few hours on Saturday.  It’s a pretty balanced life.[/quote]

A bit judgmental no? If you’re so secure in your amazing relationship with your teenage kids, why put down others? Bottom line is for many of us, good, caring parents, these are the years where we basically become the Uber, chef, bank and laundress. That’s completely normal as kids separate from their parents and become more and more independent. Certainly there must be days where your students are “around” but they may as well be on the other side of the world because they’re so busy and engaged with schoolwork, friends etc. No need to bash others.

For the independent kid who is looking for a richer, deeper, more unique experience, boarding school is a once in a lifetime opportunity. While people love to say “I’d never ship my kid off to BS,” I challenge them to stand in the way of their independent-minded kid who is asking for the experience. We miss my son terribly. Our younger DS especially struggles with being an only child. But I’d be a horrible parent if I stood in the way of my kid and his hopes and dreams to serve my own needs. [/quote]

I’m not bashing anyone.  However, a hit dog will holler.

No, my children do not treat me like an Uber driver/chef/maid/hired help…nor would I allow it.  My oldest child spent a semester abroad and had the time of her life. She certainly had a “rich, deep, and unique experience” in Spain, but she was also happy to return home to the unconditional love, care, and support of her family.  She has her entire adult life to live independently, so our family doesn’t feel the need to hasten the process.  My children can attend “boarding school” when they go off to college.

Of course you’re free to do whatever works best for your family.

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