Asking guests to walk between ceremony and reception

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Anonymous wrote:I am in the midst of planning a summer wedding. Our ceremony and reception are at different venues but the two are a ten minute walk from each other (five minute drive) and both in downtown DC. My usual instinct is that when a wedding has two venues, it's incumbent upon the hosts to provide transportation but I'm not sure if that's true here.
Would it be unreasonable to ask guests to walk from one venue to the next? Or otherwise make their own way?
I have not made my mind up either way so would love advice on balance cost (of transportation) and etiquette.

I've never been to a wedding that provided transportation to guests to a reception from the ceremony. Ever. And I don't think I've ever been to a wedding on the same premises as a ceremony. Maybe provide it to elderly or if you know someone has a health issue but the vast majority can figure it out.

WTF? Is this a troll?

Um, this is VERY typical where I am from in the midwest.

I was invited to a friend's wedding in the Midwest (not Midwest as in Chicago, Midwest as in farm country), and she was describing the day's events as including a "typical cake-punch-mints reception" at the church afterwards. And I rolled with it, but it was not typical to me (East Coast farm country). The most perplexing part to me was that the mints merited a special credit.

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Anonymous wrote:You’ve got to be kidding me. 10 minutes is like 5 blocks. Sure, arrange transport for the elderly and disabled but most should be fine.

+1 have done this at tons of weddings.... not a big deal at all, just get help for elderly/guests with health matters

In downtown DC in summer? I suspect not. You'd remember how those sweat stains (not just under your arms) forever wrecked your clothing, and how miserable you were by the time you got to the reception. Yeah, after just 10 minutes. It's literally swamp weather here in summer. Even in the evenings, many days.

I mean, is this any different than the numerous outdoor weddings we have all been to in the mid-Atlantic in July? So I'm going to sweat while I walk from the church to the reception hall? No worse than sweating to death during the ceremony and/or cocktail hour in that beautiful sunny, hot and humid garden because a hotel ballroom wasn't good enough for you.

I'm the PP to whom you're responding. Haven't been to a single outdoor wedding in this area in the 35 years I've lived here and attended many a wedding. Most couples who are from the area know better than to do this, especially in summer. At least the folks I've known. The only thing that came close was a reception at a winery that was on a large, partially covered patio, and that was in September, not July.

Lucky you! For a while in my 20s I felt like every August I was at a wedding that had either the ceremony or the reception outdoors. I hate outdoor weddings.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is multiple venues a Christian thing?
I’ve been to mostly Jewish weddings, and lots of them, and they’re always all in one place.

I went to one Christian wedding years ago where the ceremony was at a church and then we all had to go to some other place. I can’t remember how I got there. I was mostly stunned that I was wildly overdressed in a plain cocktail dress and that there was a cash bar.

Yes. Jewish people usually have their wedding in one place. Christian people usually have their wedding ceremony in one place, and their reception in another, traditionally.

However, the current 20 and 30-somethings are more often having their wedding in one place, as they are not really attending church, and their grandparents' (to whom the ceremony may or may not matter, depending if the grandparent/s regularly attend church or not; also depending if if the grandparent/s are looking to pass on their own personal religion of their own upbringing - if not, the ceremony is a non-issue) church is usually in a different part of the country, altogether. Instead of marrying at their grandparents' church, they just marry in one place, because there are plenty of places to accommodate that - places that actually have parking, that is. Parents who have kids' of marrying age really could not care less, from my experience, especially if they have converted or fallen off of religion, along the way.

But then, I don't know of anyone who has wedding ceremonies or receptions where there is not enough parking, because that is just ridiculous. Right OP?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Is multiple venues a Christian thing?
I’ve been to mostly Jewish weddings, and lots of them, and they’re always all in one place.

I went to one Christian wedding years ago where the ceremony was at a church and then we all had to go to some other place. I can’t remember how I got there. I was mostly stunned that I was wildly overdressed in a plain cocktail dress and that there was a cash bar.

Yes. Jewish people usually have their wedding in one place. Christian people usually have their wedding ceremony in one place, and their reception in another, traditionally.

However, the current 20 and 30-somethings are more often having their wedding in one place, as they are not really attending church, and their grandparents' (to whom the ceremony may or may not matter, depending if the grandparent/s regularly attend church or not; also depending if if the grandparent/s are looking to pass on their own personal religion of their own upbringing - if not, the ceremony is a non-issue) church is usually in a different part of the country, altogether. Instead of marrying at their grandparents' church, they just marry in one place, because there are plenty of places to accommodate that - places that actually have parking, that is. Parents who have kids' of marrying age really could not care less, from my experience, especially if they have converted or fallen off of religion, along the way.

But then, I don't know of anyone who has wedding ceremonies or receptions where there is not enough parking, because that is just ridiculous. Right OP?

Do churches not have reception halls and kitchens?
The majority of the Jewish weddings I’ve attended have been at hotels but many have been at synagogues and they can have a large, elegant reception there.
I can’t imagine expecting my guests to travel to a different venue.
In fact, at many Jewish weddings, there is a significant break between the ceremony and the reception because that is when photos are taken. This actually would enable guests to travel to another location but it’s just not done. Usually there’s an interim cocktail reception with live music to keep the guests fed and entertained while the family and wedding party are doing photos.

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Anonymous wrote:I am in the midst of planning a summer wedding. Our ceremony and reception are at different venues but the two are a ten minute walk from each other (five minute drive) and both in downtown DC. My usual instinct is that when a wedding has two venues, it's incumbent upon the hosts to provide transportation but I'm not sure if that's true here.
Would it be unreasonable to ask guests to walk from one venue to the next? Or otherwise make their own way?
I have not made my mind up either way so would love advice on balance cost (of transportation) and etiquette.

I've never been to a wedding that provided transportation to guests to a reception from the ceremony. Ever. And I don't think I've ever been to a wedding on the same premises as a ceremony. Maybe provide it to elderly or if you know someone has a health issue but the vast majority can figure it out.

Then you’ve only been to some cheap a** weddings. 🤔

+1

Exactly this. OP has to be a troll, or really has not been to as many weddings as she thinks.

OP, your best bet us to ask someone who has been both innand actually part of 30+ weddings, because you have been getting some terrible information.

No transportation = cheap ass.

First of all, you both are condescending, smug little pricks. "Cheap a-- weddings?" Well, aren't you a peach.

Second of all, I come from a large family, with many weddings, as well as have been in at LEAST 8 weddings as an adult (not including flower girls as a child). And I've attended dozens more as a guest. In only 1 was transportation provided and that was a trolley to the wedding party only. All weddings were at a religious houses (church or synagogue) and party offset at a variety of types of venues.

My husband - same on his side.

So the exception may be you.

I've been to well over a hundred weddings in my lifetime and not one has been at multiple venues.

NP: I truly don't understand this. Are you saying that you've been to 100 weddings and each wedding ceremony was held in the same location as the reception afterwards?! I have only been at a shared ceremony/reception wedding in just a few cases - like on a beach or in a restaurant - but 99% have been held at two different venues. I've been provided transportation from a hotel to a church and then to the reception, and I've been shuttled around as a member of the wedding party, but I've never once been provided transport just from the ceremony to the reception and back again.

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Anonymous wrote:You will also have to provide directions to the reception. Out of towners aren’t going to know how to get there.

Everyone has a phone now and can look up the address. This isn't 1980 where people have to pull out a paper map. They will see it's a short walk away and can take an Uber if they don't feel like walking.

DP. I have to laugh at you Uber boosters who always come on threads to say airily, "Just take an Uber." Are you just blissfully unaware that in DC at least, it can be difficult to book an Uber for such a short ride as OP is talking about? And that factors like the day of the week, the time and the locations involved can all make it more difficult to "just take an Uber"?

As someone with a vision impairment that prevents driving, so I uber all the times, I have never once found it hard to "just call an Uber" in DC. In some more isolated areas? Yes. But in the city on an evening? Never. Sometimes, there is a little longer wait, but not as long as it usually takes a bridal party to get from one place to the other with pictures etc . . .

Apparently you haven’t attended sporting events or concerts. Last time I did, we had a 45 minute wait just to get in the car and gridlock after.

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I would hate that, esp. if in heels and hot, DC humid summer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is multiple venues a Christian thing?
I’ve been to mostly Jewish weddings, and lots of them, and they’re always all in one place.

I went to one Christian wedding years ago where the ceremony was at a church and then we all had to go to some other place. I can’t remember how I got there. I was mostly stunned that I was wildly overdressed in a plain cocktail dress and that there was a cash bar.

Yes. Jewish people usually have their wedding in one place. Christian people usually have their wedding ceremony in one place, and their reception in another, traditionally.

However, the current 20 and 30-somethings are more often having their wedding in one place, as they are not really attending church, and their grandparents' (to whom the ceremony may or may not matter, depending if the grandparent/s regularly attend church or not; also depending if if the grandparent/s are looking to pass on their own personal religion of their own upbringing - if not, the ceremony is a non-issue) church is usually in a different part of the country, altogether. Instead of marrying at their grandparents' church, they just marry in one place, because there are plenty of places to accommodate that - places that actually have parking, that is. Parents who have kids' of marrying age really could not care less, from my experience, especially if they have converted or fallen off of religion, along the way.

But then, I don't know of anyone who has wedding ceremonies or receptions where there is not enough parking, because that is just ridiculous. Right OP?

Do churches not have reception halls and kitchens?
The majority of the Jewish weddings I’ve attended have been at hotels but many have been at synagogues and they can have a large, elegant reception there.
I can’t imagine expecting my guests to travel to a different venue.
In fact, at many Jewish weddings, there is a significant break between the ceremony and the reception because that is when photos are taken. This actually would enable guests to travel to another location but it’s just not done. Usually there’s an interim cocktail reception with live music to keep the guests fed and entertained while the family and wedding party are doing photos.

Most churches do not have an "elegant" space to hold a reception...in fact, most have a dank, dingy space with a bit of a dungeon vibe. I cannot imagine having a reception in my current church unless I had literally no other options.

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Anonymous wrote:You will also have to provide directions to the reception. Out of towners aren’t going to know how to get there.

Everyone has a phone now and can look up the address. This isn't 1980 where people have to pull out a paper map. They will see it's a short walk away and can take an Uber if they don't feel like walking.

DP. I have to laugh at you Uber boosters who always come on threads to say airily, "Just take an Uber." Are you just blissfully unaware that in DC at least, it can be difficult to book an Uber for such a short ride as OP is talking about? And that factors like the day of the week, the time and the locations involved can all make it more difficult to "just take an Uber"?

As someone with a vision impairment that prevents driving, so I uber all the times, I have never once found it hard to "just call an Uber" in DC. In some more isolated areas? Yes. But in the city on an evening? Never. Sometimes, there is a little longer wait, but not as long as it usually takes a bridal party to get from one place to the other with pictures etc . . .

Apparently you haven’t attended sporting events or concerts. Last time I did, we had a 45 minute wait just to get in the car and gridlock after.

I don't suppose OP is planning her wedding to coincide with, say, the Taylor Swift concert letting out. I suspect people can get ubers with relatively little trouble.

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Anonymous wrote:I am in the midst of planning a summer wedding. Our ceremony and reception are at different venues but the two are a ten minute walk from each other (five minute drive) and both in downtown DC. My usual instinct is that when a wedding has two venues, it's incumbent upon the hosts to provide transportation but I'm not sure if that's true here.
Would it be unreasonable to ask guests to walk from one venue to the next? Or otherwise make their own way?
I have not made my mind up either way so would love advice on balance cost (of transportation) and etiquette.

I've never been to a wedding that provided transportation to guests to a reception from the ceremony. Ever. And I don't think I've ever been to a wedding on the same premises as a ceremony. Maybe provide it to elderly or if you know someone has a health issue but the vast majority can figure it out.

Then you’ve only been to some cheap a** weddings. 🤔

+1

Exactly this. OP has to be a troll, or really has not been to as many weddings as she thinks.

OP, your best bet us to ask someone who has been both innand actually part of 30+ weddings, because you have been getting some terrible information.

No transportation = cheap ass.

First of all, you both are condescending, smug little pricks. "Cheap a-- weddings?" Well, aren't you a peach.

Second of all, I come from a large family, with many weddings, as well as have been in at LEAST 8 weddings as an adult (not including flower girls as a child). And I've attended dozens more as a guest. In only 1 was transportation provided and that was a trolley to the wedding party only. All weddings were at a religious houses (church or synagogue) and party offset at a variety of types of venues.

My husband - same on his side.

So the exception may be you.

I've been to well over a hundred weddings in my lifetime and not one has been at multiple venues.

NP: I truly don't understand this. Are you saying that you've been to 100 weddings and each wedding ceremony was held in the same location as the reception afterwards?! I have only been at a shared ceremony/reception wedding in just a few cases - like on a beach or in a restaurant - but 99% have been held at two different venues. I've been provided transportation from a hotel to a church and then to the reception, and I've been shuttled around as a member of the wedding party, but I've never once been provided transport just from the ceremony to the reception and back again.

Yes, they’ve always been in the same place. Always.
Generally a hotel, but I’ve also attended weddings at restaurants, clubs, museums and even a baseball stadium.

I’d find it very odd to be expected to go to a different venue.

[Anonymous]

Something that is a five minute drive is not usually a ten minute walk. A ten minute walk would be a 1-2 minute drive unless strange traffic. Are you sure your numbers are right

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am in the midst of planning a summer wedding. Our ceremony and reception are at different venues but the two are a ten minute walk from each other (five minute drive) and both in downtown DC. My usual instinct is that when a wedding has two venues, it's incumbent upon the hosts to provide transportation but I'm not sure if that's true here.
Would it be unreasonable to ask guests to walk from one venue to the next? Or otherwise make their own way?
I have not made my mind up either way so would love advice on balance cost (of transportation) and etiquette.

I've never been to a wedding that provided transportation to guests to a reception from the ceremony. Ever. And I don't think I've ever been to a wedding on the same premises as a ceremony. Maybe provide it to elderly or if you know someone has a health issue but the vast majority can figure it out.

Then you’ve only been to some cheap a** weddings. 🤔

+1

Exactly this. OP has to be a troll, or really has not been to as many weddings as she thinks.

OP, your best bet us to ask someone who has been both innand actually part of 30+ weddings, because you have been getting some terrible information.

No transportation = cheap ass.

First of all, you both are condescending, smug little pricks. "Cheap a-- weddings?" Well, aren't you a peach.

Second of all, I come from a large family, with many weddings, as well as have been in at LEAST 8 weddings as an adult (not including flower girls as a child). And I've attended dozens more as a guest. In only 1 was transportation provided and that was a trolley to the wedding party only. All weddings were at a religious houses (church or synagogue) and party offset at a variety of types of venues.

My husband - same on his side.

So the exception may be you.

I've been to well over a hundred weddings in my lifetime and not one has been at multiple venues.

NP: I truly don't understand this. Are you saying that you've been to 100 weddings and each wedding ceremony was held in the same location as the reception afterwards?! I have only been at a shared ceremony/reception wedding in just a few cases - like on a beach or in a restaurant - but 99% have been held at two different venues. I've been provided transportation from a hotel to a church and then to the reception, and I've been shuttled around as a member of the wedding party, but I've never once been provided transport just from the ceremony to the reception and back again.

Yes, they’ve always been in the same place. Always.
Generally a hotel, but I’ve also attended weddings at restaurants, clubs, museums and even a baseball stadium.

I’d find it very odd to be expected to go to a different venue.

You have never been to a church wedding?

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Did OP ever come back after the original question? On page 14? That has to be some kind of record.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am in the midst of planning a summer wedding. Our ceremony and reception are at different venues but the two are a ten minute walk from each other (five minute drive) and both in downtown DC. My usual instinct is that when a wedding has two venues, it's incumbent upon the hosts to provide transportation but I'm not sure if that's true here.
Would it be unreasonable to ask guests to walk from one venue to the next? Or otherwise make their own way?
I have not made my mind up either way so would love advice on balance cost (of transportation) and etiquette.

I've never been to a wedding that provided transportation to guests to a reception from the ceremony. Ever. And I don't think I've ever been to a wedding on the same premises as a ceremony. Maybe provide it to elderly or if you know someone has a health issue but the vast majority can figure it out.

Then you’ve only been to some cheap a** weddings. 🤔

+1

Exactly this. OP has to be a troll, or really has not been to as many weddings as she thinks.

OP, your best bet us to ask someone who has been both innand actually part of 30+ weddings, because you have been getting some terrible information.

No transportation = cheap ass.

First of all, you both are condescending, smug little pricks. "Cheap a-- weddings?" Well, aren't you a peach.

Second of all, I come from a large family, with many weddings, as well as have been in at LEAST 8 weddings as an adult (not including flower girls as a child). And I've attended dozens more as a guest. In only 1 was transportation provided and that was a trolley to the wedding party only. All weddings were at a religious houses (church or synagogue) and party offset at a variety of types of venues.

My husband - same on his side.

So the exception may be you.

I've been to well over a hundred weddings in my lifetime and not one has been at multiple venues.

NP: I truly don't understand this. Are you saying that you've been to 100 weddings and each wedding ceremony was held in the same location as the reception afterwards?! I have only been at a shared ceremony/reception wedding in just a few cases - like on a beach or in a restaurant - but 99% have been held at two different venues. I've been provided transportation from a hotel to a church and then to the reception, and I've been shuttled around as a member of the wedding party, but I've never once been provided transport just from the ceremony to the reception and back again.

Yes, they’ve always been in the same place. Always.
Generally a hotel, but I’ve also attended weddings at restaurants, clubs, museums and even a baseball stadium.

I’d find it very odd to be expected to go to a different venue.

You have never been to a church wedding?

No

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am in the midst of planning a summer wedding. Our ceremony and reception are at different venues but the two are a ten minute walk from each other (five minute drive) and both in downtown DC. My usual instinct is that when a wedding has two venues, it's incumbent upon the hosts to provide transportation but I'm not sure if that's true here.
Would it be unreasonable to ask guests to walk from one venue to the next? Or otherwise make their own way?
I have not made my mind up either way so would love advice on balance cost (of transportation) and etiquette.

I've never been to a wedding that provided transportation to guests to a reception from the ceremony. Ever. And I don't think I've ever been to a wedding on the same premises as a ceremony. Maybe provide it to elderly or if you know someone has a health issue but the vast majority can figure it out.

Then you’ve only been to some cheap a** weddings. 🤔

+1

Exactly this. OP has to be a troll, or really has not been to as many weddings as she thinks.

OP, your best bet us to ask someone who has been both innand actually part of 30+ weddings, because you have been getting some terrible information.

No transportation = cheap ass.

First of all, you both are condescending, smug little pricks. "Cheap a-- weddings?" Well, aren't you a peach.

Second of all, I come from a large family, with many weddings, as well as have been in at LEAST 8 weddings as an adult (not including flower girls as a child). And I've attended dozens more as a guest. In only 1 was transportation provided and that was a trolley to the wedding party only. All weddings were at a religious houses (church or synagogue) and party offset at a variety of types of venues.

My husband - same on his side.

So the exception may be you.

I've been to well over a hundred weddings in my lifetime and not one has been at multiple venues.

NP: I truly don't understand this. Are you saying that you've been to 100 weddings and each wedding ceremony was held in the same location as the reception afterwards?! I have only been at a shared ceremony/reception wedding in just a few cases - like on a beach or in a restaurant - but 99% have been held at two different venues. I've been provided transportation from a hotel to a church and then to the reception, and I've been shuttled around as a member of the wedding party, but I've never once been provided transport just from the ceremony to the reception and back again.

:Hand up:

DP here. I have easily been to about 100 weddings, and each and every one was not only a separate venue for church and reception, but each and every one had more than enough parking at each church and each reception place for parking. Guests were never expected to walk, and guests always had decent parking.

Too many unknown variables otherwise, and you would not want to invite people, only to leave them hanging.

OP seems to be trolling because she never offered any further pertinent info, except to call someone a name. LOL.