Asking guests to walk between ceremony and reception

[Anonymous]

I don't know why everyone is saying there is no parking. There has to be parking somewhere, or else how is everyone getting to the wedding at all? Or is the OP supposed to send a party bus to pick up everyone from their house?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is interesting - I feel like most weddings I’ve been to (or at least half) have had different locations for the ceremony and the reception. I’ve been to 4 (late spring / summer) weddings in DC area. One (suburban MD) everything was in one location, one (downtown DC) was a short (4-5 blocks). We took a cab to the ceremony and I don’t remember if we walked or cabbed between sites - I thought it was totally fine that we had to make our own way. One (VA just outside DC) was a short drive (no transportation provided) and the last had a kind of long / unusual gap. The ceremony was at a church from about 1-2 and the reception started at 5 elsewhere. I was pregnant at the time so very happy to go home and nap between the events!

Weddings that are local are usually destination weddngs for at least some of the guests. The suburban MD all in one place hould have had transportation if it was not at a hotel for hotel to venue. The DC 4-5 blocks was ok with no transportation if the start point for out of towners was the hotel which also held the reception.

The VA gap wedding should have had transport to/from ceremony - hotel and to-from reception hotel if the reception wasn't at the main hotel. That gap wedding planning? Maybe it worked for some but imagine a 40 minutes each way from for example Silver Spring to Alexandria.

I don't remember if OP is a bride, groom, or other person planning that 10 minute DC summer walk. If maxxed out on the budget then some line items need to be reduced to provide guest transportation.

[Anonymous]

We did not provide transportation for a 6-block walk from the hotel/reception site and the church.

The groom paid for anyone who wanted to park in the lot adjacent to the church.

It was August. It worked out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is interesting - I feel like most weddings I’ve been to (or at least half) have had different locations for the ceremony and the reception. I’ve been to 4 (late spring / summer) weddings in DC area. One (suburban MD) everything was in one location, one (downtown DC) was a short (4-5 blocks). We took a cab to the ceremony and I don’t remember if we walked or cabbed between sites - I thought it was totally fine that we had to make our own way. One (VA just outside DC) was a short drive (no transportation provided) and the last had a kind of long / unusual gap. The ceremony was at a church from about 1-2 and the reception started at 5 elsewhere. I was pregnant at the time so very happy to go home and nap between the events!

Weddings that are local are usually destination weddngs for at least some of the guests. The suburban MD all in one place hould have had transportation if it was not at a hotel for hotel to venue. The DC 4-5 blocks was ok with no transportation if the start point for out of towners was the hotel which also held the reception.

The VA gap wedding should have had transport to/from ceremony - hotel and to-from reception hotel if the reception wasn't at the main hotel. That gap wedding planning? Maybe it worked for some but imagine a 40 minutes each way from for example Silver Spring to Alexandria.

I don't remember if OP is a bride, groom, or other person planning that 10 minute DC summer walk. If maxxed out on the budget then some line items need to be reduced to provide guest transportation.

+1

I don't understand leaving guests on their own, unless there is adequate parking at both the wedding and also at the reception. If not - it is on the bride and groom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't know why everyone is saying there is no parking. There has to be parking somewhere, or else how is everyone getting to the wedding at all? Or is the OP supposed to send a party bus to pick up everyone from their house?

Have you ever tried to park downtown? Have you ever tried parking downtown at the same time that dozens or even hundreds of people are also doing the exact same thing? If people are having to find street parking — twice, or pay for parking at different lots — twice, that’s asking a lot of their guests so that they can save a few dollars. Many people might have taken a cab or an Uber. Again, as others have said, dozens of people trying to get a ride share for a very short distance, all at the same time, will not work well. It’s putting a burden on the guests that a decent host would try to avoid.

Now maybe each site has a dedicated lot available, but that’s not likely. Many people do have a party bus to pick up out of town guests— and anyone else who needs a ride — when people are staying at a designated hotel.

I’m sure that the trolling OP will enjoy your last little bit of snark.

[Anonymous]

Horrible idea. Walking in heals on city streets increases the chances of twisted ankles. Plus, it will damage nice and pricey shoes and I would be ticked.

[Anonymous]

Don’t cheap out. Provide transportation. No one wants to walk around in wedding attire in summer weather.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We did not provide transportation for a 6-block walk from the hotel/reception site and the church.

The groom paid for anyone who wanted to park in the lot adjacent to the church.

It was August. It worked out.

That because no one is going to be rude enough to tell you to yourself how irritating it was to walk six blocks in the heat

[Anonymous]

OP, it's nearly March - what is your decision?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, it's nearly March - what is your decision?

OP has decided that each of the guests are indeed, on their own. That is why OP has not come back - isn't that the definition of a troll? Nice job, OP?

Is your wedding going to be as much of a complete cluster f*ck as you made this thread? Because you obviously could not care less. Why bother asking?

Are you trying to justify making 99% of your guests walk, while everyone else fights for an Uber?

Keep it Klassy, OP. The majority has spoken, and you have proven that you could not care less. Nice job, I guess?

[Anonymous]

Why are people on this thread so nasty? I know DCUM is not the nicest place, but these responses are just so unnecessarily aggressive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why are people on this thread so nasty? I know DCUM is not the nicest place, but these responses are just so unnecessarily aggressive.

I think OP was the nasty one, since OP had no intention of providing transportation for 99% of her guests, and she knew that, but was trying to poll DCUM to her advantage, and it backfired, so now OP thinks that people are being "nasty", when in reality, people are being honest with OP, and OP does not like hearing the truth. If OP had no intention of providing transportation, or trying to put the oneness on the guests, she should have not polled people (in the spirit of trying to get them to agree with her).

If anything, the anonymous poll shows that OP absolutely should be taking care of her guests, but OP could not care less about her guests, and had no intention of providing transportation, at all. Also, OP did not even come back to give more information or provide their thought process to a thread that OP started, so now everyone thinks that OP is a selfish bridezilla who only cares about "appearances", and not her guests.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We did not provide transportation for a 6-block walk from the hotel/reception site and the church.

The groom paid for anyone who wanted to park in the lot adjacent to the church.

It was August. It worked out.

That because no one is going to be rude enough to tell you to yourself how irritating it was to walk six blocks in the heat

Or in heels, dresses and suits and dress shoes. Or all dressed up, with hair and makeup done. It really is just a modicum of common sense not to do this, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Horrible idea. Walking in heals on city streets increases the chances of twisted ankles. Plus, it will damage nice and pricey shoes and I would be ticked.

Oh good grief. As if no one has ever walked in the city in heels!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Horrible idea. Walking in heals on city streets increases the chances of twisted ankles. Plus, it will damage nice and pricey shoes and I would be ticked.

Oh good grief. As if no one has ever walked in the city in heels!

It is a wedding, and you know that it is an issue, you just want to be a jerk about it. Which is fine, but you should really own it, at this point. You kind of sound like a selfish jerk, OP.