
Isn't that hard to diagnose with a "hands off" approach and with the presenting parts being smaller? If the baby hypothetically was CPD and presented normally, he would have failed to descend. Instead it became entrapment and death. As I understand it, CPD can't be diagnosed until labor, and at that point was Carr even checking for it? |
This is pretty funny, considering you are posting anonymously. You are free to log in and give us your name, so that we may address you correctly, mama. |
And what *I* am going to continue to complain about, is the arrogance that people on this forum think they have enough information to make a decision about this birth. You have no idea how much and what kind of research the mother did, you have no idea how good or bad Karen is, and you don't actually know the specifics of who decided what in this case. I maintain that Karen Carr is an excellent and capable midwife, that the family in this case did plenty of good research, and what happened to them was a horrible accident. |
You know, I was trying to be helpful. I just have hard time giving anyone credibility who uses words that should be used by children, especially when it is mentioned in the same sentence as "non-evidence based "medicine"". That, my friend, makes ME laugh. Now excuse me while I kindly die in a fire. |
Again, why do you insist that you must call people by a name they don't like? Power trip? You think you know better than other women? What is behind this insistence that you're right and they're wrong? |
After the story of how the baby last November died and she doesn't know why, I think I have all the information I need about how good a midwife Karen Carr is. Your standards may vary. |
You obviously do not get it, at all. YOU HAVE NO INFORMATION AT ALL regarding what happened with the baby in St. Mary's County. Can you, just for once, imagine that you just might not have some important information about this? |
As the original personwho started using the term "Mama" here, I have to say this wasn't me who specifically called a poster Mama (though, I did giggle a bit when reading it). |
What's your name, then, genius? |
You really have to call people by names on an anonymous forum, genious? How have you been surviving the past 2 weeks? |
If in your world, you have to be an educated attorney to find the strength to do what you want and not be a shrinking violet when they separate you and your spouse for a few minutes to try to convince you of something, then god be with you b/c you're a f* idiot.
Carr's own words discredit her when she admits to never knowing or following up to learn why one of her "kids" died, and figure out if she should have let EMTs take that child to the NICU (gee... I bet yes). She shows where her focus is when it's all about how things torment HER soul thereafter. She's NOT getting great reviews from ALL her former patients and it makes me wonder - when a homebirth isn't good, who is even willing to hear the story? Not the community that fears it would discredit its movement or the one she supposedly shunned to then "bring it on herself". So might the stories be missing from the interwebs? (Though I have certainly found plenty). If most births go well no matter what, then the "things going wrong" should be the tie-breaker. For me, that means hospital. If i want extra, less "medical" support, i'll bring it with me. I wouldn't want to risk my child (or me) needing something that transfer time impedes and i CERTAINLY wouldn't want to, with all my research and all the rhetoric from both sides, end up with someone like Carr because I had no way of ever knowing that she is what she is. I indeed have a right to choose. I also have a right for the information i gather to make this choice be valid and true, verified and bonafide, and rigulously scrutinized and accounted for via a system that tracks everything involved. Since I know that's not currently the case for home births (at least hospitals fear bad press while HB seems to feed off it!), i'll take the hospital. Thanks for the right to choose. Sorry I choose against you. Deal. |
I was actually referring to the baby from Alexandria who died as a result of head entrapment. |
You were correcting the doctors around you? Just curious, what type of "correction" did they need? Also, how did you research your midwife's "stats", since there is no publicly available data? |
Although we all came out fine and I really really loved the birth, I wasn't totally confident in homebirth after my first child's birth with Karen for various reasons. She was very caring and obviously very passionate about babies and mothers and what she does for them. I went on to have my second and third in a hospital with a CNM.
I was really surprised to read that Karen kisses mothers on the forehead. I found her to be very much hands off. Much more hands off than my hospital CNM (who in fact herself had all of her children at home). I originally chose a homebirth after repeatedly hearing my friends coming home with induction and emergency c-section stories and not a single one was able to go unmedicated. After I had an OB tell me I was too young to have complications (I was 25) so stop asking so many questions (this is an OB who gets rave reviews from everyone else it seems) and my second OB literally tell me "oh honey, you are more than welcome to try natural childbirth if you want to, but as soon as you're ready for an epidural, we'll be there." yeah, check please! I had to fight hard for my unmedicated hospital births and fight hard to keep my babies with me at all times (and in fact had one nurse obviously think I was an idiot for wanting to stay with my babies. |
The NICU is notorious for following non-evidence-based practices. For example, one family I worked with was only allowed to hold their preemie twins for 10 minutes a day, when ALL of the available evidence says long periods of skin-to-skin, kangaroo care improves preemies health. Kangaroo care has saved lives, but many NICUs don't allow it. Also there are practices regarding bottle vs. breast feeding, how to train preemies to latch onto the breast or prevent nipple confusion altogether, and feeding of formula vs. donated breastmilk and the use of the various human milk fortifiers that are not evidence-based, and parents really, really need to advocate for themselves on those things if they know what the evidence says. |