Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:NP. When I saw the story on the WaPo website (
https://www.washingtonpost.com/investigations/interactive/2023/home-birth-midwife-karen-carr/) right now, I remembered this thread and wondered if the midwife in today's story was the same as the one I'd read about on DCUM so many years ago, when I was pregnant with my midwife-delievered VBAC baby. I'm shocked that yet another baby has died, but in a way I'm relieved to know that there's only one notoriously dangerous midwife in our area. Maybe now something will be done.
My heart goes out to this family.
If you think that there is only one dangerous midwife in our area, you are sorely mistaken. There are CNMs in this area who are just as narcissistic and egomaniacal as Karen Carr. If you want to search you can find some cases in the DC Superior Court records - and those are just the instances of poor outcomes where the women filed suit, not the ones where women had bad outcomes and advocated against the negligence or mistreatment they experienced in other ways.
I’m not anti midwife. There are also some who are truly fantastic. But I could list off, by name, several CNMs in the DMV that I had care from personally who suffer from the same hubris as Carr did.
There was a great comment on the article by a retired OB or L and D nurse that said something to the effect of, there are women in this profession who really enjoy having power over other women, and it is so true. It’s not true of every provider, but it’s definitely true of some.
I have suffered terrible abuse at the hands of male and female OBs and female midwives.
Male OB/RE: botched saline sono and caused a horrific high risk pregnancy (very thin C section scar that was threatening to spontaneously rupture before the due date) against my wishes, horded records in an attempt to cover it up. The abnormality is so large is plainly visible on the memory FET ultrasound the nurse gave me not realizing what happened right in front of her
Male OB: asked if I needed to take my pants off for an ultrasound (which the above condition needed), he said "No, I'm keeping mine on" and told me to "trust me" about extremely dangerous VBAC, lied to me and said my uterus was normal, fired him and went to-->
Three female midwives: engaged in a group conspiracy to "run out the clock" on the above pregnancy, pretending the issue was being addressed when it was not
Male OB who did 2nd C section: Told him in plain English I thought I had an infection, gave me a deer in the headlight look then didn't do anything to help me. Refused to see me in person after because he's "high risk". Sent me to below OB-->
Female OB: "It doesn't matter" when I told her my baby almost died, tried to bully me out of having my uterus fixed. I walked on on this b--ch
Finally met a competent surgeon, turns out my uterine edges were 100% separated, spanned by thin adhesion only, and my uterus was infected with poop bacteria for over a year, and yes I did have symptoms and complained about them, everybody blew me off
As for this midwife, I am shocked she's being charged with a crime when partial birth abortions are legal. It's wrong to bully a woman for getting an abortion but it's fine to bully her for her birth choice? Total BS. This will just cause women to give birth at home unassisted. Why is there no consequences for the horrific behavior of these providers? Why is this culture of treating women like absolute s--t institutionalized in obstetrics? Those are the real questions that need to be asked.
Are we just BANNING all vaginal breech births? So mom has ONLY the choice between surgery or a late term abortion? What happened to that baby could have easily happened in a hospital attempted vaginal breech delivery. The baby was only stuck for 20 minutes and chances are even in a hospital a C section would not have been done in only 20 minutes
I have done alot of research on this topic and I am convinced that C sections cause more babies to not be born due to maternal choice and silent infertility than they save from fetal loss during birth, probably a 10:1 ratio. Just look at countries with the worst healthcare systems, they are teaming with babies.
99% of women who are asked to choose between TOLAC and repeat C are not being given the most critical piece of information to make that decision, namely
their residual myometrium/lower uterine segment thickness, which highly inversely correlates with uterine rupture risk. There is a conspiracy to keep this information away from women because routinely scanning would expose the OBs with incompetent surgical technique and open them up to lawsuits. OBs would rather babies just die or bully women into repeat Cs, which carry a risk to their lives. "Just cut everybody" cannot and should not be the solution to every obstetric problem in the world.