I will always secretly hate beautiful women

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, let me tell you a secret which I discovered on DCUM. As the beautiful women get older and "lose their looks," they start to notice it and they feel the loss. I see people talking about that on DCUM pretty regularly and that's hard for them. But people like us who weren't beautiful when we were young, hey, it's no big deal and I'm enjoying the heck out of being old. It's liberating.

I understand that that makes no difference to you now but chances are it will down the road. In the meantime, live your life now and forget about them.

This is true. I didn't get really pretty until my 30s then something that I cannot explain happened. People see pictures of me and say that is not you! I get stopped on the street.

All that being said, I'm now 51. Yes, I am still really pretty, but I know it won't last forever and I'm actually having a hard time coming to terms with that. I've become accustomed to being notice and in shape. I suspect that I will always work out, but working out for 90 minutes daily is not sustainable.

[Anonymous]

Another secret: all those beautiful women spend a lot their time at their vanity table asking all sorts of questions of their mirror mirror on the wall about their beauty and others' but a lot of women don't give a s**t. They find their beauty in the eye of their lovers, or their worth in pretty much anything but the reflection in the mirror. Yes, it does happen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Another secret: all those beautiful women spend a lot their time at their vanity table asking all sorts of questions of their mirror mirror on the wall about their beauty and others' but a lot of women don't give a s**t. They find their beauty in the eye of their lovers, or their worth in pretty much anything but the reflection in the mirror. Yes, it does happen.

This is me. I have always had self-confidence in my intelligence and ability to speak well. I think I even overestimated my appearance for years because I felt good about myself so, I concluded, I must be fairly attractive.

It was only once I had a professional stumble and lost my confidence for a bit that I realized I'm not particularly pretty. It was not a great discovery. Since then, I've just had lower self-esteem overall and feel embarrassed about my appearance at times. I wish I could go back to the way I was before. I'd rather be deluded about my looks than feel like I don't measure up.

[Anonymous]

O.p. While we may feel your pain-- you have to find what makes you special. Yes, good looks are advantageous, but so is being born in the U.S., not being poor, etc. Life is never fair. In order to sane, one has to accept that + deal with it.

[Anonymous]

I have no clue what you're talking about.