Why do some women choose to be a sidepiece?

[Anonymous]

I’m married.

I wish I had taken a different path and just settled for being a side piece. Sounds fun. No mess. And a lot less stress than being married.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That might be all the relationship they are capable of

+1

Nailed it.

[Anonymous]

Question for cheaters:

Do you secretly think the other cheater is somewhat slimey, morally? Like would you want your DC to marry someone with their character?

Also, how long can these relationships go on before one seeks more than the sex part of things, and is hurt or sabotages the secrecy?

Finally, I think the word "piece" should be retired, since it stems from "piece of meat" or "Piece of ass" both of which are extremely disrespectful ways to refer to human beings.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The meanest and most bitter people on this thread are the wives. Makes perfect sense. Lol

How do you know who’s a wife and who’s not?

You can absolutely tell.

Especially when you really have no way of knowing, but make assumptions that reinforce your existing biases.

Funny how that works.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m married.

I wish I had taken a different path and just settled for being a side piece. Sounds fun. No mess. And a lot less stress than being married.

I am a single, independent adult who is tired of all the whiny married people on this site. No one is making you stay married. Either own the fact that the pros make up for the cons (in your accounting of things ) or get divorced.

The alternative is to make everyone around you miserable for years.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The meanest and most bitter people on this thread are the wives. Makes perfect sense. Lol

How do you know who’s a wife and who’s not?

You can absolutely tell.

Especially when you really have no way of knowing, but make assumptions that reinforce your existing biases.

Funny how that works.

^^ wife

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m married.

I wish I had taken a different path and just settled for being a side piece. Sounds fun. No mess. And a lot less stress than being married.

I am a single, independent adult who is tired of all the whiny married people on this site. No one is making you stay married. Either own the fact that the pros make up for the cons (in your accounting of things ) or get divorced.

The alternative is to make everyone around you miserable for years.

I mean, it’s first and foremost a parenting website. And most parents are married.

I’m happily married, but i can understand that divorce is complicated especially when there are children involved. But I guess that’s not something that would concern you.... eff those kids, right!?! Sleep with their dad while you’re at it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The wining and dining are also pretty fun. I have a very nice collection of some fine wines.

You know there’s literally a word for selling sex for expensive stuff right?

Wine this gets funnier by the post, so cheap, is that all it takes. He scored with this one.

Seriously. I was the OW for a very brief period (I didn't know and broke up with him as soon as I found out) and he gifted me david yurman pave diamonds earrings and a tiffany t bracelet.

How very basic.

Basic is exactly what I was thinking.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The meanest and most bitter people on this thread are the wives. Makes perfect sense. Lol

How do you know who’s a wife and who’s not?

You can absolutely tell.

+1. Although I’m a wife making fun of the other wives getting mad over stuff like this. And my ex cheated. But humans are gonna human.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The wining and dining are also pretty fun. I have a very nice collection of some fine wines.

You know there’s literally a word for selling sex for expensive stuff right?

Wine this gets funnier by the post, so cheap, is that all it takes. He scored with this one.

Seriously. I was the OW for a very brief period (I didn't know and broke up with him as soon as I found out) and he gifted me david yurman pave diamonds earrings and a tiffany t bracelet.

How very basic.

Basic is exactly what I was thinking.

“There’s levels to this shit!”

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The wining and dining are also pretty fun. I have a very nice collection of some fine wines.

You know there’s literally a word for selling sex for expensive stuff right?

Wine this gets funnier by the post, so cheap, is that all it takes. He scored with this one.

Seriously. I was the OW for a very brief period (I didn't know and broke up with him as soon as I found out) and he gifted me david yurman pave diamonds earrings and a tiffany t bracelet.

And you didn't find it weird that he was buying sex off you. Did you ever feel like a prostitute because normal dating doesn't include guys buying those things, maybe a meal and that's it. It's like with sugar daddies they buy stuff for the college girls in return for sex.

Do you look back and feel good about yourself over this? Do you feel proud you got those things? Or do you not equate it with him buying you? Do you then not care if you are bought for sex? Is this how the younger generation of women date now, transactional?

What? This is normal dating for us. My dad was a cardiologist, I was first year associate IB coming from an Ivy, so making the equivalent of $110K today at 22 years old. He was MD at a big consulting firm (think Bain). And I'm almost 50 years old lol.

Sorry, you married your father? You’ve got bigger problems than DCUM can address.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is it low self-esteem? Trauma? Are they just gullible to the "my wife won't do xyz" crap? Why would any woman willfully choose to share a man?

It can be neither of these things. Sometimes you just aren't in the market for a relationship, you like the guy who happens to be married, and you enjoy it for a time, knowing fully it will end soon and will occupy only a small part of your life.

I've been with a few married men under these circumstances - short term, with definite time limits, just for fun. I didn't want to date any of them seriously. Life is long.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:The meanest and most bitter people on this thread are the wives. Makes perfect sense. Lol

How do you know who’s a wife and who’s not?

You can absolutely tell.

It's sooo easy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m married.

I wish I had taken a different path and just settled for being a side piece. Sounds fun. No mess. And a lot less stress than being married.

I am a single, independent adult who is tired of all the whiny married people on this site. No one is making you stay married. Either own the fact that the pros make up for the cons (in your accounting of things ) or get divorced.

The alternative is to make everyone around you miserable for years.

I mean, it’s first and foremost a parenting website. And most parents are married.

I’m happily married, but i can understand that divorce is complicated especially when there are children involved. But I guess that’s not something that would concern you.... eff those kids, right!?! Sleep with their dad while you’re at it.

The men might be thinking the same thing - divorce is hard on kids, so they figure they can not get caught. It’s usually not 100% the fault of the person who had extramarital sex that the relationship is bad. But everyone always seems to focus on the location of his pen*s.

[Anonymous]

Thots gonna thot