Minor rant: in Europe with completely useless in laws and a toddler

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Anonymous wrote:Update: MIL got mad because she had to walk up a short hill.
She also didn’t want to go into St Peter’s because “it’s just another church, right?”

Again — the issue is not cold drinks. It’s that she’s obsessed with getting ice in everything, when that’s simply not possible here.

St. Peter's Basilica? You're right, certainly not "just a church."

Were you signed up for a "skip the line" tour? Otherwise, it can be a very long wait in the line, which I could see might be off-putting for someone not in good health. We waited two and a half hours last winter, and that was during the off season.

I booked a skip the line audio tour.

So, they skipped something you had already paid for? Wow!

That really sucks OP if you and DH paid for something and they didnt want to go.

[Anonymous]

I never expect people to help me so I tell them what to do which is one of my more endearing traits I am sure. However, I learned long ago that we would not be traveling with my MIL. We offered over and over to take her on vacation with us. We offered a hotel room with her only grandchild and basically a week long sleepover. Go to dinner, have fun at one of the zillion activities at the resort or just go back to the room for movie time. We offered a beach trip with a rental house and regular one on one time with her only grandchild. Nope. So we stopped asking. No she is elderly, frail, a fall risk, and quite infirm in many other ways and she bellyaches any time we go on vacation anywhere, "I wish I could go!!!" "Are you all going away AGAIN???!!!" Uh. We asked you to join us for years and you said no. Now it is way too difficult to make sure you don't harm yourself so no, you won't be joining us.

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I think MIL is honestly just ignorant about things. We were talking about going to the catacombs and she said “My friend told me they’re just burial grounds. Do you know that?”

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Your superiority is so off-putting OP. We get it, your ILs are pathetic rubes, and you’re embarrassed by their ignorance and desire for family foods and TVs shoes on their first trip outside the country in their 65 years of life. Your well-traveled self deserves a huge pat on the back and a big old martyr medal for the sacrifice of going on this terrible trip with them. :roll

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Anonymous wrote:Your superiority is so off-putting OP. We get it, your ILs are pathetic rubes, and you’re embarrassed by their ignorance and desire for family foods and TVs shoes on their first trip outside the country in their 65 years of life. Your well-traveled self deserves a huge pat on the back and a big old martyr medal for the sacrifice of going on this terrible trip with them. :roll

It's 2018. Her ILs should have taken upon themselves to prepare for the trip. In terms of sightseeing and the kind of food options they'll have. Just reading about OP's ordeal annoys me already.

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Anonymous wrote:Your superiority is so off-putting OP. We get it, your ILs are pathetic rubes, and you’re embarrassed by their ignorance and desire for family foods and TVs shoes on their first trip outside the country in their 65 years of life. Your well-traveled self deserves a huge pat on the back and a big old martyr medal for the sacrifice of going on this terrible trip with them. :roll

Boom.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Your superiority is so off-putting OP. We get it, your ILs are pathetic rubes, and you’re embarrassed by their ignorance and desire for family foods and TVs shoes on their first trip outside the country in their 65 years of life. Your well-traveled self deserves a huge pat on the back and a big old martyr medal for the sacrifice of going on this terrible trip with them. :roll

It's 2018. Her ILs should have taken upon themselves to prepare for the trip. In terms of sightseeing and the kind of food options they'll have. Just reading about OP's ordeal annoys me already.

It is OP who annoys the H-E-double toothpicks out of me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your superiority is so off-putting OP. We get it, your ILs are pathetic rubes, and you’re embarrassed by their ignorance and desire for family foods and TVs shoes on their first trip outside the country in their 65 years of life. Your well-traveled self deserves a huge pat on the back and a big old martyr medal for the sacrifice of going on this terrible trip with them. :roll

It's 2018. Her ILs should have taken upon themselves to prepare for the trip. In terms of sightseeing and the kind of food options they'll have. Just reading about OP's ordeal annoys me already.

It is OP who annoys the H-E-double toothpicks out of me.

No one is forcing you to read this thread. What is your bloody problem?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: I never expect people to help me so I tell them what to do which is one of my more endearing traits I am sure. However, I learned long ago that we would not be traveling with my MIL. We offered over and over to take her on vacation with us. We offered a hotel room with her only grandchild and basically a week long sleepover. Go to dinner, have fun at one of the zillion activities at the resort or just go back to the room for movie time. We offered a beach trip with a rental house and regular one on one time with her only grandchild. Nope. So we stopped asking. No she is elderly, frail, a fall risk, and quite infirm in many other ways and she bellyaches any time we go on vacation anywhere, "I wish I could go!!!" "Are you all going away AGAIN???!!!" Uh. We asked you to join us for years and you said no. Now it is way too difficult to make sure you don't harm yourself so no, you won't be joining us.

You asked your MIL over and over to come be your babysitter on vacation. She continually turned you down so now you don’t invite her anymore? You’re crazy!

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OP ignore the haters. Good for you for keeping a good face through this. I had a similar experience with my in-laws about 10 years ago. I wish I had been kinder, but they drove me crazy!!! They’ll be talking about this trip for the rest of their lives so keep up the good work in being positive. It will pay off. Hugs to you and keep us updated!!!

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Anonymous wrote:OP ignore the haters. Good for you for keeping a good face through this. I had a similar experience with my in-laws about 10 years ago. I wish I had been kinder, but they drove me crazy!!! They’ll be talking about this trip for the rest of their lives so keep up the good work in being positive. It will pay off. Hugs to you and keep us updated!!!

Last night before we head to the airport. They did thank us for “being our tour guides.” Aside from the complaining, I think they did appreciate it.

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Anonymous wrote:1. I post during nap time when I’m at the hotel.

2. We’ve done cabs when we can, but DD needing a car seat is a big hindrance to using cabs as much as we would like.

3. These weren’t my plans; this entire trip was DH’s idea.

4. I’ve gone to a huge effort to try to make this trip great for the ILs. Not once have I rolled my eyes when she wanted something cold. It’s the obsession with ice that is ridiculous.

5. We’ve spent thousands on this trip. We’re at a hotel that’s in the top 20 for the entire city. Hardly cheap.

The in-laws paid their own expenses, so who cares how great your hotel is.

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Anonymous wrote:I think MIL is honestly just ignorant about things. We were talking about going to the catacombs and she said “My friend told me they’re just burial grounds. Do you know that?”

You are just the worst. Your poor in-laws. I hate they are stuck with you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote: I never expect people to help me so I tell them what to do which is one of my more endearing traits I am sure. However, I learned long ago that we would not be traveling with my MIL. We offered over and over to take her on vacation with us. We offered a hotel room with her only grandchild and basically a week long sleepover. Go to dinner, have fun at one of the zillion activities at the resort or just go back to the room for movie time. We offered a beach trip with a rental house and regular one on one time with her only grandchild. Nope. So we stopped asking. No she is elderly, frail, a fall risk, and quite infirm in many other ways and she bellyaches any time we go on vacation anywhere, "I wish I could go!!!" "Are you all going away AGAIN???!!!" Uh. We asked you to join us for years and you said no. Now it is way too difficult to make sure you don't harm yourself so no, you won't be joining us.

You asked your MIL over and over to come be your babysitter on vacation. She continually turned you down so now you don’t invite her anymore? You’re crazy!

Well, they don't invite her because she's no use to them anymore! Why invite a presumably loved one who raised either you or your spouse when she not only can't earn her keep, but in addition would need some help and care from you?

You take the cake, OP of this post!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:1. I post during nap time when I’m at the hotel.

2. We’ve done cabs when we can, but DD needing a car seat is a big hindrance to using cabs as much as we would like.

3. These weren’t my plans; this entire trip was DH’s idea.

4. I’ve gone to a huge effort to try to make this trip great for the ILs. Not once have I rolled my eyes when she wanted something cold. It’s the obsession with ice that is ridiculous.

5. We’ve spent thousands on this trip. We’re at a hotel that’s in the top 20 for the entire city. Hardly cheap.

The in-laws paid their own expenses, so who cares how great your hotel is.

I pointed that out because people were saying we’re being cheap.