Nobody brought us food

[Anonymous]

How hard is it to just buy freezer stuff beforehand and order grocery delivery? It's nice to get food, but I wouldn't be upset if nobody brought stuff and I certainly wouldn't count on it or expect it.

[Anonymous]

How hard is it to just buy freezer stuff beforehand and order grocery delivery? It's nice to get food, but I wouldn't be upset if nobody brought stuff and I certainly wouldn't count on it or expect it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I see both sides here. It would be nice if people dropping in to see new baby brought food. But no one brought me food, and I didn't even think to expect it. But I also did not have a lot of visitors since he was 4 weeks early (but no NICU time).
I don't see a "need" to bring food with the birth of the first child. The newborn sleeps all the time. The new mom rests and recovers. The new dad takes care of new mom - like cooking the meals.
It seems a bit dramatic that you were starving and your husband just now figured out how to order pizza.

Or your husband is feeding the kid from a finger and SNS because he has a poor suckle reflex while you try to pump and are crying and bleeding hard from a placenta accretia. Which of course is repeated every 2 hours. Don't forget washing the pump parts!!

And you are also crying because he failed his Newborn Screening test and has bad jaundice which is making him sleepy which makes it even harder to feed him.

So yeah...you are greatful AF for the lasagna someone brought over.

I
If I was in that state I’d be doing formula and Uber eats.

Don’t forget to order Uber eats for all your family visitors who show up hungry and don’t offer to help. Please come back and tell us how easy it is to take care of an infant, clean your house and still have time to leave a chocolate on your guests pillows.

It was fine. I’ve already had one child. First of all I didn’t have any moocher family or friends. I also know how to set boundaries and tell people when and when not to come. I also don’t mind being a goood host and buying a friend a meal either if it came to that. I had a rough long recovery that put me back on the hospital a week later but with a great husband, parents, the ability to order take out and a clearing lady that came every few weeks it was actually easy. Not stressed about doing it again in a few weeks. Infants are a breeze. Toddlers are a different story...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How hard is it to just buy freezer stuff beforehand and order grocery delivery? It's nice to get food, but I wouldn't be upset if nobody brought stuff and I certainly wouldn't count on it or expect it.

It’s not had. Plus you know what you are eating.

[Anonymous]

OP, you sound like you expected it. And since you are the type of person who expected it, your "friends" probably aren't your friends. Be a better person and see how that works out for you. I can't even IMAGINE complaining about this. You probably also complained that all your bridesmaids didn't fly across the country for a bachelorette party AND the wedding.

[Anonymous]

With my first, my Mom was alive and cooked and took care of me for a month afterwards. With my 2nd 10 years later, she is deceased and I have no family so no one visited, brought food or anythung. I was lonely, anxious and depressed.