What would you really like to tell your spouse or partner but can't or won't?

[Anonymous]

That as I get older I have less time to deal with her anger issues, lack of financial responsibility, that she sleeps all day and does nothing with the kids, and constantly plays the victim.

[Anonymous]

Channeling my best Taylor Swift here: We are never, ever, ever getting back together. Throughout our trial separation you've been a total narcissistic prick (just like the marriage). I'm being nice now only to get a fair settlement agreement so you won't screw me over when I file. Oh, and you have a small penis. Trust me, darling - ALL my girlfriends know. And you were not my best ever either - not even in the top five. So good luck in the dating scene. You'll do ok if you stand on your wallet - at least until they find out I bought more than half of everything you own. Your last girlfriend was trashy, by the way. I'll take the kids if you bring a skank like that around again. Enjoy your freedom without my money!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wafting ball stench is the worst kind of ball stench.

I have to ask because I have never smelled "ball stench". Is it different from allover male sweatiness in the way that say "foot funk" is? Would I know it if I smelled it. My fiance showers twice a day. Once to go to work and once after he returns from exercise. He has a very pleasant male smell when he sweats. When we are intimate, I notice that his...equipment...has a scent, but it's basically "him" only stronger. Not unpleasant.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Wafting ball stench is the worst kind of ball stench.

I have to ask because I have never smelled "ball stench". Is it different from allover male sweatiness in the way that say "foot funk" is? Would I know it if I smelled it. My fiance showers twice a day. Once to go to work and once after he returns from exercise. He has a very pleasant male smell when he sweats. When we are intimate, I notice that his...equipment...has a scent, but it's basically "him" only stronger. Not unpleasant.

For my DH (I'm the ball stench poster) it is different than allover male sweatiness. It's hard to describe but you know it when you smell it. It doesn't smell like sweat--just pure nastiness. You're lucky if your fiance doesn't have the stench.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Wafting ball stench is the worst kind of ball stench.

I have to ask because I have never smelled "ball stench". Is it different from allover male sweatiness in the way that say "foot funk" is? Would I know it if I smelled it. My fiance showers twice a day. Once to go to work and once after he returns from exercise. He has a very pleasant male smell when he sweats. When we are intimate, I notice that his...equipment...has a scent, but it's basically "him" only stronger. Not unpleasant.

For my DH (I'm the ball stench poster) it is different than allover male sweatiness. It's hard to describe but you know it when you smell it. It doesn't smell like sweat--just pure nastiness. You're lucky if your fiance doesn't have the stench.

Is this a common male thing? Is it lack of hygiene or is it natural?

[Anonymous]

As a male, I scrub really well all around the sack towards the hole. If it's not done, I'm sure there would be lingering dingleberries.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a male, I scrub really well all around the sack towards the hole. If it's not done, I'm sure there would be lingering dingleberries.

Is this what you'd like to tell your spouse but can't? LMAO

[Anonymous]

That I really hope I don't stay and do all this work to make myself whole again while putting up with his crap and he end up leaving in 20 years. I want DD to have 2 parents as an adult.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Wafting ball stench is the worst kind of ball stench.

I have to ask because I have never smelled "ball stench". Is it different from allover male sweatiness in the way that say "foot funk" is? Would I know it if I smelled it. My fiance showers twice a day. Once to go to work and once after he returns from exercise. He has a very pleasant male smell when he sweats. When we are intimate, I notice that his...equipment...has a scent, but it's basically "him" only stronger. Not unpleasant.

For my DH (I'm the ball stench poster) it is different than allover male sweatiness. It's hard to describe but you know it when you smell it. It doesn't smell like sweat--just pure nastiness. You're lucky if your fiance doesn't have the stench.

The ball stench guy wins 'most likely to convert his woman to a lesbian' award.

What he needs, probably, is a good liquid soap (hard to not lather up with that), all new all cotton underwear (Ralph Lauren makes some - if you are on a budget they usually have them at Marshalls) and most likely some jock itch spray - you think?

I'd send him to his doctor too to ask about that it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Wafting ball stench is the worst kind of ball stench.

I have to ask because I have never smelled "ball stench". Is it different from allover male sweatiness in the way that say "foot funk" is? Would I know it if I smelled it. My fiance showers twice a day. Once to go to work and once after he returns from exercise. He has a very pleasant male smell when he sweats. When we are intimate, I notice that his...equipment...has a scent, but it's basically "him" only stronger. Not unpleasant.

For my DH (I'm the ball stench poster) it is different than allover male sweatiness. It's hard to describe but you know it when you smell it. It doesn't smell like sweat--just pure nastiness. You're lucky if your fiance doesn't have the stench.

The ball stench guy wins 'most likely to convert his woman to a lesbian' award.

What he needs, probably, is a good liquid soap (hard to not lather up with that), all new all cotton underwear (Ralph Lauren makes some - if you are on a budget they usually have them at Marshalls) and most likely some jock itch spray - you think?

I'd send him to his doctor too to ask about that it.

http://deadspin.com/help-my-balls-smell-512326887

http://mashable.com/2015/06/13/defunk-your-junk/

[Anonymous]

That dealing with your neurotic behavior would go down more easily if the neuroses include hypersexuality as a characteristic.

[Anonymous]

That your father is one of the reasons I am planning to leave the marriage. Tired of this mandatory attendance crap where I have to go to family events 2-3 times a month and put up with him. He is an evil, condescending, belittling, critical excuse of a man who can go f'ck himself.

[Anonymous]

That I worry at some point our 10 year age difference (I'm older) may impact her level of attraction to me.

[Anonymous]

That staging a 6000 sf house and keeping it perfect nearly killed me as I had to do it all solo with three young kids while he was constantly traveling. I know he appreciates me but I don't think he appreciated the hours of backbreaking work it took to do this all on my own. I wish he appreciated it more.

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Anonymous wrote:I have lied about my number of sexual partners for almost 20 years. Told the lie once and never found a way to tell the truth. And he is totally one that will be hurt by the dishonesty even 20 years later. Wish that I was mature enough to go with the "none of your business" line at the time.

I am convinced that when I am old and forgetful that I will let it slip.

What did you tell him vs. the true number?

Told him 2, real number is 7.

Um, you're wasting a whole lot of angst over 5 partners?

Goes to honesty. My DW told me two then a few years later let slip that there was a third. Why would she have lied about him to begin with? I have to assume that there were more than that.

Correct answer. It's not the number, it's the dishonesty surrounding the number. Why lie unless there was a reason? What else has she felt a reason to lie about?

She lied because women have been told that if you ever have more than 1 sexual partner, you are a not a woman worth dating or marrying. You've lost your value. That's why she kept the number low, and now she feels guilty for it. Which she shouldn't. We don't usually ask men how many sexual partners they've had because in our society, men can be as promiscuous as they want and it's fine. Really, who cares? It's not that big of a deal, and it doesn't impact your character. Her lying because of societal expectations doesn't mean that she's lying on moral or ethical grounds.