Should single women over 35 settle if they want children?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No. Wait for finance bro who is 6'.5", blonde haired, blue eyed with a trust fund.

OP.
I'm not looking for an objectivle attractive man. I just want someone I have chemistry with even if the guy isn't conventionally hot

That's not a high bar, do not lower it.

This is complete BS. OP would not date a guy who is a cashier from Walmart, even if she has chemistry with him.

[Anonymous]

Settling? If a woman can't even find a viable mate then maybe her genes just aren't necessary to pass on. It's fun to read articles claiming men are sitting around doing nothing, but in the DMV everyone is busy at work and home. Take a look around at all the dual income couples in this area, they didn't settle and are successful both financially and biologically.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Settling? If a woman can't even find a viable mate then maybe her genes just aren't necessary to pass on. It's fun to read articles claiming men are sitting around doing nothing, but in the DMV everyone is busy at work and home. Take a look around at all the dual income couples in this area, they didn't settle and are successful both financially and biologically.

here here! swings beer.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Just go the sperm bank and do it yourself.

Not everyone wants or can be a single mother. This is a very privileged take.

Seriously. You need a very high income/NW and/or support network to pull off becoming a single parent by choice while remaining comfortable.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Just go the sperm bank and do it yourself.

Not everyone wants or can be a single mother. This is a very privileged take.

Not really. Even if you are married you can become a single mom at anytime (death, divorce, etc.) Do you really think all single mom out there are privileged?

Anyone can become a single mom and survive. But those situations are not intentional and if you’re responsible and planned for the future there will be some kind of contingency to make life bearable (CS, alimony, life insurance) in the event of becoming a single mom not by choice.

How much does the avg woman of childbearing age earn? 70k-100k. That’s not enough to pay for cost of living including daycare and housing. Realistically you need to make 250k+ to be comfortable, have millions, or have family willing to go above and beyond to help you. So yeah you need to be privileged

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Settling? If a woman can't even find a viable mate then maybe her genes just aren't necessary to pass on. It's fun to read articles claiming men are sitting around doing nothing, but in the DMV everyone is busy at work and home. Take a look around at all the dual income couples in this area, they didn't settle and are successful both financially and biologically.

this is a reach, hahaha…let’s get you escorted back down to safety.

[Anonymous]

I am not sure many men are waiting for OP and her old eggs so I’m not sure who is settling here.

Not everyone has to have kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am not sure many men are waiting for OP and her old eggs so I’m not sure who is settling here.

Not everyone has to have kids.

They aren't. Everytime I'm at daycare drop off or an elementary event it's packed with tall, fit parents who are involved in their kids lives. There aren't any DIY single parents that's for sure.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am not sure many men are waiting for OP and her old eggs so I’m not sure who is settling here.

Not everyone has to have kids.

They aren't. Everytime I'm at daycare drop off or an elementary event it's packed with tall, fit parents who are involved in their kids lives. There aren't any DIY single parents that's for sure.

Pp here. I had three kids in my thirties but I met DH in my twenties. If OP is 35+ and single, that means she hasn’t even met the guy yet so she will have to meet him, get engaged, married and have a kid. That puts her in late thirties.

There are plenty of professional women who have kids in their late thirties. It is definitely doable. I just don’t think a woman who has limited options should say they are settling. Dating is kind of like musical chairs. At the same time, if op was a great catch, guys would be fighting over her and she wouldn’t have to settle. I looked pretty amazing at age 40 after having 3 kids. She can be hot at age 35.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I looked pretty amazing at age 40 after having 3 kids. She can be hot at age 35.

Totally delusional. You are NOT going to look amazing after popping out 4 kids.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I looked pretty amazing at age 40 after having 3 kids. She can be hot at age 35.

Totally delusional. You are NOT going to look amazing after popping out 4 kids.

Except I did. I had 3 kids, not 4. I weighed the same at age 40 as 30 before I had my first child. I was the fittest at age 40. I can honestly say I looked amazing at 40.

I don’t feel so hot at age 48…

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I looked pretty amazing at age 40 after having 3 kids. She can be hot at age 35.

Totally delusional. You are NOT going to look amazing after popping out 4 kids.

I run with a women who is In her mid 50s and she is clearly a baddie

Obviously weathered skin as she’s white but she’s in kicking shape

A white yoga instructor of mine is in her late 50s and has a insane poppin body - even better than the runner woman

And she has 3 children also full grown. Her daughter is in her 20s and comes to class sometimes and mom has a better body…

Lotta fitness women in their mid to late 50s mog their daughters in their 20s and 30s

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am not sure many men are waiting for OP and her old eggs so I’m not sure who is settling here.

Not everyone has to have kids.

+1

Either you are able to develop a stable groundwork suitable for raising a child, or you are not able. If you are not able, dont have children without stable well-established groundwork.

This “get pregnant because you want to and hope for the best because it’s a crapshoot anyway” mentality is child abuse.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I looked pretty amazing at age 40 after having 3 kids. She can be hot at age 35.

Totally delusional. You are NOT going to look amazing after popping out 4 kids.

I run with a women who is In her mid 50s and she is clearly a baddie

Obviously weathered skin as she’s white but she’s in kicking shape

A white yoga instructor of mine is in her late 50s and has a insane poppin body - even better than the runner woman

And she has 3 children also full grown. Her daughter is in her 20s and comes to class sometimes and mom has a better body…

Lotta fitness women in their mid to late 50s mog their daughters in their 20s and 30s

I’m the pp who said I looked my best at 40. I’m hoping to be one of those super fit women in her fifties.

OP, you can always adopt or foster. I would not marry someone I’m not attracted to just to have a kid.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I looked pretty amazing at age 40 after having 3 kids. She can be hot at age 35.

Totally delusional. You are NOT going to look amazing after popping out 4 kids.

Except I did. I had 3 kids, not 4. I weighed the same at age 40 as 30 before I had my first child. I was the fittest at age 40. I can honestly say I looked amazing at 40.

I don’t feel so hot at age 48…

No you do NOT. You might look good at 40 when you compare yourself to other 40 years old women, but you are 1/30th when you compare between the 40 you and the 23 years old you. Please stop kidding yourself.