Why do grown women post photos of social events?

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Anonymous wrote:So it is offensive if I post a pic with my friends at dinner/concert/party/whatever? What if we haven’t seen each other in many months/years and rarely post such things?

I don’t think it’s offensive. I think some people are just wondering who is it for when you do that?

It could be for us?

It could be for our friends who couldn’t join us (maybe they live far away)?

I mean, who are pictures generally for? Aren’t they a way to capture a moment?

The reality of that moment exists only for the people who were there. When you share a pic publicly, the moment doesn’t belong to you anymore—it’s open to interpretation by anyone who can see it. Some might feel happy, some might feel jealous, some might mock it. Some might act like they’re happy about it, but silently mock it. You can’t feel bad about that though, because you put it out there.

And yes, you are deliberately participating in a platform whose addictive properties have been documented repeatedly. So even if you’re not addicted, you’re still part of a societal problem.

Cool. Now do alcohol. Let me guess, ThAt's DiFfeReNT!

Would you stand outside an AA meeting handing out cocktails?

Analogy fail. Your claim is that my drinking cocktails at home is harming alcoholics. Don't want to see my FB posts? Don't visit my FB page.

Again, if you’re participating in the platform, you’re part of the societal problem. No one cares if you drink cocktails at home or take pictures of your girls night out and just keep them for your own enjoyment.

Can I have a beer in a restaurant?

Yes. Order your beer and enjoy it. But if you keep ordering beers repeatedly—that buzz does feel pretty good after all—the fun will wear off and you’re going to start to act like an idiot. You’ll probably feel like you’re the life of the party, but everyone around you will be giving you the side eye and want to get away from you.

So, I can post one picture on social media per night. That's OK?

Do you drink a beer in a restaurant every single night?

Yes. Is that a problem?

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Anonymous wrote:So it is offensive if I post a pic with my friends at dinner/concert/party/whatever? What if we haven’t seen each other in many months/years and rarely post such things?

I don’t think it’s offensive. I think some people are just wondering who is it for when you do that?

It could be for us?

It could be for our friends who couldn’t join us (maybe they live far away)?

I mean, who are pictures generally for? Aren’t they a way to capture a moment?

Well, see that’s the thing. I have a group of friends that’s pretty large and not everyone can make the gatherings we have several times a year. We take a group photo at every gathering and then someone texts it to the group chat. The people who couldn’t go see the photo (although they often feel sad bc they couldn’t attend), and the people who were there also see the photo. The question remains, when you post it on social media- who is it for? Why do people who aren’t connected to the group need to see the photos? That is the basic question.

You’re just a small person. You really are.

I’m retired and have traveled a lot, often solo, and have met a lot of people in my life. Many are in far different positions than me in terms of age, economics, life experience, nationalities, etc. I’ve ended up following many of them on social media and they follow me.

When one of them posts something cool or interesting or fun—including them getting together with their friends—I think it’s just great. I don’t think they’re doing it to make me or others who can’t be there jealous. That never occurs to me, and I know they’re not thinking that that’s why I post what I post either.

We’re sharing the human experience with others who are interested. That’s it. If you’re not interested, don’t look. No reason to take it all so personally.

DP. One of the reasons I stopped posting many years ago, in addition to asking myself who was it for, was imagining so many people just scrolling by carelessly something that felt so meaningful to me. (As they should feel free to do, obviously.) Why would I put my own precious memories and experiences out there for people to judge or ignore or mock? It cheapens the human experience for me.

You’ve totally missed my point. I’m confident that my “followers” and the people I follow aren’t judging or mocking or affirmatively ignoring. The people I know simply aren’t wired that way. If they were I wouldn’t follow them in the first place.

Oh, honey.

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Anonymous wrote:What it boils down to for me: if I like you in real life, your moderate posting behavior—while not my own cup of tea—doesn’t bother me. If you’re annoying in real life, your social media posts are annoying, too. Probably more so.

But to be honest, I don’t know anyone who still posts pics of friend groups like it’s 2010. My FB feed is mostly pets for adoption and car crashes.

Why are you following the social media of people you find annoying in real life?

Not gonna lie, there’s an entertainment factor there.

And you don’t think that that makes you part of the problem?

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Instead of improving yourself, your plan is to fix everyone else. Good luck wiht that.

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Anonymous wrote:So it is offensive if I post a pic with my friends at dinner/concert/party/whatever? What if we haven’t seen each other in many months/years and rarely post such things?

I don’t think it’s offensive. I think some people are just wondering who is it for when you do that?

It could be for us?

It could be for our friends who couldn’t join us (maybe they live far away)?

I mean, who are pictures generally for? Aren’t they a way to capture a moment?

Well, see that’s the thing. I have a group of friends that’s pretty large and not everyone can make the gatherings we have several times a year. We take a group photo at every gathering and then someone texts it to the group chat. The people who couldn’t go see the photo (although they often feel sad bc they couldn’t attend), and the people who were there also see the photo. The question remains, when you post it on social media- who is it for? Why do people who aren’t connected to the group need to see the photos? That is the basic question.

You’re just a small person. You really are.

I’m retired and have traveled a lot, often solo, and have met a lot of people in my life. Many are in far different positions than me in terms of age, economics, life experience, nationalities, etc. I’ve ended up following many of them on social media and they follow me.

When one of them posts something cool or interesting or fun—including them getting together with their friends—I think it’s just great. I don’t think they’re doing it to make me or others who can’t be there jealous. That never occurs to me, and I know they’re not thinking that that’s why I post what I post either.

We’re sharing the human experience with others who are interested. That’s it. If you’re not interested, don’t look. No reason to take it all so personally.

DP. One of the reasons I stopped posting many years ago, in addition to asking myself who was it for, was imagining so many people just scrolling by carelessly something that felt so meaningful to me. (As they should feel free to do, obviously.) Why would I put my own precious memories and experiences out there for people to judge or ignore or mock? It cheapens the human experience for me.

You’ve totally missed my point. I’m confident that my “followers” and the people I follow aren’t judging or mocking or affirmatively ignoring. The people I know simply aren’t wired that way. If they were I wouldn’t follow them in the first place.

Oh, honey.

“Oh, honey” also went out in 2012. Believe me, I’d never follow you on social media. I have no room in my life for nasty people.

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Anonymous wrote:So it is offensive if I post a pic with my friends at dinner/concert/party/whatever? What if we haven’t seen each other in many months/years and rarely post such things?

I don’t think it’s offensive. I think some people are just wondering who is it for when you do that?

It could be for us?

It could be for our friends who couldn’t join us (maybe they live far away)?

I mean, who are pictures generally for? Aren’t they a way to capture a moment?

The reality of that moment exists only for the people who were there. When you share a pic publicly, the moment doesn’t belong to you anymore—it’s open to interpretation by anyone who can see it. Some might feel happy, some might feel jealous, some might mock it. Some might act like they’re happy about it, but silently mock it. You can’t feel bad about that though, because you put it out there.

And yes, you are deliberately participating in a platform whose addictive properties have been documented repeatedly. So even if you’re not addicted, you’re still part of a societal problem.

Cool. Now do alcohol. Let me guess, ThAt's DiFfeReNT!

Would you stand outside an AA meeting handing out cocktails?

Analogy fail. Your claim is that my drinking cocktails at home is harming alcoholics. Don't want to see my FB posts? Don't visit my FB page.

Again, if you’re participating in the platform, you’re part of the societal problem. No one cares if you drink cocktails at home or take pictures of your girls night out and just keep them for your own enjoyment.

Can I have a beer in a restaurant?

Yes. Order your beer and enjoy it. But if you keep ordering beers repeatedly—that buzz does feel pretty good after all—the fun will wear off and you’re going to start to act like an idiot. You’ll probably feel like you’re the life of the party, but everyone around you will be giving you the side eye and want to get away from you.

So, I can post one picture on social media per night. That's OK?

Do you drink a beer in a restaurant every single night?

Yes. Is that a problem?

I guess not. Carry on. One beer, one post a night. Enjoy.

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Anonymous wrote:Here’s my take. If you really have a problem with this you’re just a small and jealous person with no friends who needs to get off of social media. I don’t buy the posters who will insist otherwise and say their concern is either with the overly exuberant social media posters or other people they might unknowingly be hurting because y’all are too nasty to really care about other people and it’s really all about you.

You're just another online bully. Nothing new.

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Anonymous wrote:So it is offensive if I post a pic with my friends at dinner/concert/party/whatever? What if we haven’t seen each other in many months/years and rarely post such things?

I don’t think it’s offensive. I think some people are just wondering who is it for when you do that?

It could be for us?

It could be for our friends who couldn’t join us (maybe they live far away)?

I mean, who are pictures generally for? Aren’t they a way to capture a moment?

Well, see that’s the thing. I have a group of friends that’s pretty large and not everyone can make the gatherings we have several times a year. We take a group photo at every gathering and then someone texts it to the group chat. The people who couldn’t go see the photo (although they often feel sad bc they couldn’t attend), and the people who were there also see the photo. The question remains, when you post it on social media- who is it for? Why do people who aren’t connected to the group need to see the photos? That is the basic question.

You’re just a small person. You really are.

I’m retired and have traveled a lot, often solo, and have met a lot of people in my life. Many are in far different positions than me in terms of age, economics, life experience, nationalities, etc. I’ve ended up following many of them on social media and they follow me.

When one of them posts something cool or interesting or fun—including them getting together with their friends—I think it’s just great. I don’t think they’re doing it to make me or others who can’t be there jealous. That never occurs to me, and I know they’re not thinking that that’s why I post what I post either.

We’re sharing the human experience with others who are interested. That’s it. If you’re not interested, don’t look. No reason to take it all so personally.

DP. One of the reasons I stopped posting many years ago, in addition to asking myself who was it for, was imagining so many people just scrolling by carelessly something that felt so meaningful to me. (As they should feel free to do, obviously.) Why would I put my own precious memories and experiences out there for people to judge or ignore or mock? It cheapens the human experience for me.

You’ve totally missed my point. I’m confident that my “followers” and the people I follow aren’t judging or mocking or affirmatively ignoring. The people I know simply aren’t wired that way. If they were I wouldn’t follow them in the first place.

Oh, honey.

“Oh, honey” also went out in 2012. Believe me, I’d never follow you on social media. I have no room in my life for nasty people.

lol, do you realize what site you’re on right now?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What it boils down to for me: if I like you in real life, your moderate posting behavior—while not my own cup of tea—doesn’t bother me. If you’re annoying in real life, your social media posts are annoying, too. Probably more so.

But to be honest, I don’t know anyone who still posts pics of friend groups like it’s 2010. My FB feed is mostly pets for adoption and car crashes.

Why are you following the social media of people you find annoying in real life?

Not gonna lie, there’s an entertainment factor there.

And you don’t think that that makes you part of the problem?

I am definitely part of the problem. See how easy it is to admit it?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So it is offensive if I post a pic with my friends at dinner/concert/party/whatever? What if we haven’t seen each other in many months/years and rarely post such things?

I don’t think it’s offensive. I think some people are just wondering who is it for when you do that?

It could be for us?

It could be for our friends who couldn’t join us (maybe they live far away)?

I mean, who are pictures generally for? Aren’t they a way to capture a moment?

Well, see that’s the thing. I have a group of friends that’s pretty large and not everyone can make the gatherings we have several times a year. We take a group photo at every gathering and then someone texts it to the group chat. The people who couldn’t go see the photo (although they often feel sad bc they couldn’t attend), and the people who were there also see the photo. The question remains, when you post it on social media- who is it for? Why do people who aren’t connected to the group need to see the photos? That is the basic question.

You’re just a small person. You really are.

I’m retired and have traveled a lot, often solo, and have met a lot of people in my life. Many are in far different positions than me in terms of age, economics, life experience, nationalities, etc. I’ve ended up following many of them on social media and they follow me.

When one of them posts something cool or interesting or fun—including them getting together with their friends—I think it’s just great. I don’t think they’re doing it to make me or others who can’t be there jealous. That never occurs to me, and I know they’re not thinking that that’s why I post what I post either.

We’re sharing the human experience with others who are interested.
That’s it. If you’re not interested, don’t look. No reason to take it all so personally.

I think the disconnect is that you're significantly older than many people here who don't want social media in our lives because we see the damage it does and especially to our children so we want to set a better example and ensure they have privacy. Lots of kids coming of age now had parents who exploited them for clicks and it wasn't all just cool, interesting fun. Yet you refuse to acknowledge anything outside your tiny insulated bubble.

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Anonymous wrote:So it is offensive if I post a pic with my friends at dinner/concert/party/whatever? What if we haven’t seen each other in many months/years and rarely post such things?

I don’t think it’s offensive. I think some people are just wondering who is it for when you do that?

It could be for us?

It could be for our friends who couldn’t join us (maybe they live far away)?

I mean, who are pictures generally for? Aren’t they a way to capture a moment?

Well, see that’s the thing. I have a group of friends that’s pretty large and not everyone can make the gatherings we have several times a year. We take a group photo at every gathering and then someone texts it to the group chat. The people who couldn’t go see the photo (although they often feel sad bc they couldn’t attend), and the people who were there also see the photo. The question remains, when you post it on social media- who is it for? Why do people who aren’t connected to the group need to see the photos? That is the basic question.

You’re just a small person. You really are.

I’m retired and have traveled a lot, often solo, and have met a lot of people in my life. Many are in far different positions than me in terms of age, economics, life experience, nationalities, etc. I’ve ended up following many of them on social media and they follow me.

When one of them posts something cool or interesting or fun—including them getting together with their friends—I think it’s just great. I don’t think they’re doing it to make me or others who can’t be there jealous. That never occurs to me, and I know they’re not thinking that that’s why I post what I post either.

We’re sharing the human experience with others who are interested. That’s it. If you’re not interested, don’t look. No reason to take it all so personally.

DP. One of the reasons I stopped posting many years ago, in addition to asking myself who was it for, was imagining so many people just scrolling by carelessly something that felt so meaningful to me. (As they should feel free to do, obviously.) Why would I put my own precious memories and experiences out there for people to judge or ignore or mock? It cheapens the human experience for me.

You’ve totally missed my point. I’m confident that my “followers” and the people I follow aren’t judging or mocking or affirmatively ignoring. The people I know simply aren’t wired that way. If they were I wouldn’t follow them in the first place.

Oh, honey.

“Oh, honey” also went out in 2012. Believe me, I’d never follow you on social media. I have no room in my life for nasty people.

lol, do you realize what site you’re on right now?

Yea, very true. It’s a constant battle. This site is far more “addictive” than facebook or instagram.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What it boils down to for me: if I like you in real life, your moderate posting behavior—while not my own cup of tea—doesn’t bother me. If you’re annoying in real life, your social media posts are annoying, too. Probably more so.

But to be honest, I don’t know anyone who still posts pics of friend groups like it’s 2010. My FB feed is mostly pets for adoption and car crashes.

Why are you following the social media of people you find annoying in real life?

Not gonna lie, there’s an entertainment factor there.

And you don’t think that that makes you part of the problem?

I am definitely part of the problem. See how easy it is to admit it?

So you’re no better than the over posters. You’re just bad in a different way. Ok.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So it is offensive if I post a pic with my friends at dinner/concert/party/whatever? What if we haven’t seen each other in many months/years and rarely post such things?

I don’t think it’s offensive. I think some people are just wondering who is it for when you do that?

It could be for us?

It could be for our friends who couldn’t join us (maybe they live far away)?

I mean, who are pictures generally for? Aren’t they a way to capture a moment?

Well, see that’s the thing. I have a group of friends that’s pretty large and not everyone can make the gatherings we have several times a year. We take a group photo at every gathering and then someone texts it to the group chat. The people who couldn’t go see the photo (although they often feel sad bc they couldn’t attend), and the people who were there also see the photo. The question remains, when you post it on social media- who is it for? Why do people who aren’t connected to the group need to see the photos? That is the basic question.

You’re just a small person. You really are.

I’m retired and have traveled a lot, often solo, and have met a lot of people in my life. Many are in far different positions than me in terms of age, economics, life experience, nationalities, etc. I’ve ended up following many of them on social media and they follow me.

When one of them posts something cool or interesting or fun—including them getting together with their friends—I think it’s just great. I don’t think they’re doing it to make me or others who can’t be there jealous. That never occurs to me, and I know they’re not thinking that that’s why I post what I post either.

We’re sharing the human experience with others who are interested.
That’s it. If you’re not interested, don’t look. No reason to take it all so personally.

I think the disconnect is that you're significantly older than many people here who don't want social media in our lives because we see the damage it does and especially to our children so we want to set a better example and ensure they have privacy. Lots of kids coming of age now had parents who exploited them for clicks and it wasn't all just cool, interesting fun. Yet you refuse to acknowledge anything outside your tiny insulated bubble.

Ha ha you were doing so well until you had to get personal and petty and nasty. Is that how you’re raising your kids too?

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Anonymous wrote:Here’s my take. If you really have a problem with this you’re just a small and jealous person with no friends who needs to get off of social media. I don’t buy the posters who will insist otherwise and say their concern is either with the overly exuberant social media posters or other people they might unknowingly be hurting because y’all are too nasty to really care about other people and it’s really all about you.

You're just another online bully. Nothing new.

Yes, completely different than bullying people who have the temerity to post on social media.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Here’s my take. If you really have a problem with this you’re just a small and jealous person with no friends who needs to get off of social media. I don’t buy the posters who will insist otherwise and say their concern is either with the overly exuberant social media posters or other people they might unknowingly be hurting because y’all are too nasty to really care about other people and it’s really all about you.

You're just another online bully. Nothing new.

Yes, completely different than bullying people who have the temerity to post on social media.

+1. Pot meet kettle.