S/O - Why does DCUM hate this kind of woman so much?

[Anonymous]

We know these women, and they bore us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Spinoff from this thread in Beauty and Fashion.

TL/DR - A woman is miffed that her recently laid off cousin showed up at Thanksgiving looking nice. Too nice. She cites the woman's Cartier Love bracelet and VCA necklace as evidence that the cousin was obnoxiously "dripping" in designer goods. Posters rightly pointed out that the woman only had a few designer items on and OP likely only noticed them because she was jealous and wanted them herself. Shockingly, OP has not returned. (https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1242233.page)

But here's what I'm really curious about. Someone posted this:

This may be an unpopular opinion but I like basic rich suburban mom style. It’s not me but give me a highlighted hair, nails done, lulu wearing soccer mom with Cartier bangles and a van cleef arpel necklace any day. You know it’s not unique and you don’t feel like you need to prove you are interesting with what you are wearing. I say, get it girl. Grab your neverfull and pick up those kiddos from soccer practice.

Why does DCUM hate this woman so much? I think the whole "I prefer a WASPier aesthetic" thing is just pretext. Because she's happy to lean in to conventional design aesthetics? Is it because this woman is competition for higher value men? I just don't get it.

That’s not my post, but what I don’t understand is the endless DCUM insistence that everyone is “jealous.” Designer brands are a waste of money. I would never buy them even if we were multimillionaires. Yes, really. No, it’s not “cope because you can’t afford it.”

“They’re just jealous” is the line your mom feeds you in middle school when the other girls are being “mean” to you and she says “oh honey, they’re just jealous of you.” You were supposed to grow out of believing it when you became an adult.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Spinoff from this thread in Beauty and Fashion.

TL/DR - A woman is miffed that her recently laid off cousin showed up at Thanksgiving looking nice. Too nice. She cites the woman's Cartier Love bracelet and VCA necklace as evidence that the cousin was obnoxiously "dripping" in designer goods. Posters rightly pointed out that the woman only had a few designer items on and OP likely only noticed them because she was jealous and wanted them herself. Shockingly, OP has not returned. (https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1242233.page)

But here's what I'm really curious about. Someone posted this:

This may be an unpopular opinion but I like basic rich suburban mom style. It’s not me but give me a highlighted hair, nails done, lulu wearing soccer mom with Cartier bangles and a van cleef arpel necklace any day. You know it’s not unique and you don’t feel like you need to prove you are interesting with what you are wearing. I say, get it girl. Grab your neverfull and pick up those kiddos from soccer practice.

Why does DCUM hate this woman so much? I think the whole "I prefer a WASPier aesthetic" thing is just pretext. Because she's happy to lean in to conventional design aesthetics? Is it because this woman is competition for higher value men? I just don't get it.

That’s not my post, but what I don’t understand is the endless DCUM insistence that everyone is “jealous.” Designer brands are a waste of money. I would never buy them even if we were multimillionaires. Yes, really. No, it’s not “cope because you can’t afford it.”

“They’re just jealous” is the line your mom feeds you in middle school when the other girls are being “mean” to you and she says “oh honey, they’re just jealous of you.” You were supposed to grow out of believing it when you became an adult.

+1, "you're just jealous" is like "I'm rubber and you're glue." It's a childish retort to avoid actually addressing a valid criticism.

I can afford these items but would not buy them because I'd rather spend that money on almost anything else. A vacation. A piece of art. My kid's college fund. Concert tickets. I do not understand spending thousands on a basic gold bangle and a tote bag.

It's the female version of men who spend money on cars and watches. Do what you want but yes I do judge you for being shallow and bad with money.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Spinoff from this thread in Beauty and Fashion.

TL/DR - A woman is miffed that her recently laid off cousin showed up at Thanksgiving looking nice. Too nice. She cites the woman's Cartier Love bracelet and VCA necklace as evidence that the cousin was obnoxiously "dripping" in designer goods. Posters rightly pointed out that the woman only had a few designer items on and OP likely only noticed them because she was jealous and wanted them herself. Shockingly, OP has not returned. (https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1242233.page)

But here's what I'm really curious about. Someone posted this:

This may be an unpopular opinion but I like basic rich suburban mom style. It’s not me but give me a highlighted hair, nails done, lulu wearing soccer mom with Cartier bangles and a van cleef arpel necklace any day. You know it’s not unique and you don’t feel like you need to prove you are interesting with what you are wearing. I say, get it girl. Grab your neverfull and pick up those kiddos from soccer practice.

Why does DCUM hate this woman so much? I think the whole "I prefer a WASPier aesthetic" thing is just pretext. Because she's happy to lean in to conventional design aesthetics? Is it because this woman is competition for higher value men? I just don't get it.

That’s not my post, but what I don’t understand is the endless DCUM insistence that everyone is “jealous.” Designer brands are a waste of money. I would never buy them even if we were multimillionaires. Yes, really. No, it’s not “cope because you can’t afford it.”

“They’re just jealous” is the line your mom feeds you in middle school when the other girls are being “mean” to you and she says “oh honey, they’re just jealous of you.” You were supposed to grow out of believing it when you became an adult.

+1, "you're just jealous" is like "I'm rubber and you're glue." It's a childish retort to avoid actually addressing a valid criticism.

I can afford these items but would not buy them because I'd rather spend that money on almost anything else. A vacation. A piece of art. My kid's college fund. Concert tickets. I do not understand spending thousands on a basic gold bangle and a tote bag.

It's the female version of men who spend money on cars and watches. Do what you want but yes I do judge you for being shallow and bad with money.

+2

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Like a previous poster, my daily uniform is very baggy Japanese clothes, edgy glasses and severe haircut. And lets not forget the so called handmade, beat up, thousand dollar shoes. But I'm not flattering myself it is a unique look. There is a large enough desire for this look that it is fairly easy to acquire.. if you have the interest and money. I'm definitely dressing to impress, just for a different audience than my Cartier and Neverfull wearing sisters.

At least you have self awareness, unlike the PP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Spinoff from this thread in Beauty and Fashion.

TL/DR - A woman is miffed that her recently laid off cousin showed up at Thanksgiving looking nice. Too nice. She cites the woman's Cartier Love bracelet and VCA necklace as evidence that the cousin was obnoxiously "dripping" in designer goods. Posters rightly pointed out that the woman only had a few designer items on and OP likely only noticed them because she was jealous and wanted them herself. Shockingly, OP has not returned. (https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1242233.page)

But here's what I'm really curious about. Someone posted this:

This may be an unpopular opinion but I like basic rich suburban mom style. It’s not me but give me a highlighted hair, nails done, lulu wearing soccer mom with Cartier bangles and a van cleef arpel necklace any day. You know it’s not unique and you don’t feel like you need to prove you are interesting with what you are wearing. I say, get it girl. Grab your neverfull and pick up those kiddos from soccer practice.

Why does DCUM hate this woman so much? I think the whole "I prefer a WASPier aesthetic" thing is just pretext. Because she's happy to lean in to conventional design aesthetics? Is it because this woman is competition for higher value men? I just don't get it.

That’s not my post, but what I don’t understand is the endless DCUM insistence that everyone is “jealous.” Designer brands are a waste of money. I would never buy them even if we were multimillionaires. Yes, really. No, it’s not “cope because you can’t afford it.”

“They’re just jealous” is the line your mom feeds you in middle school when the other girls are being “mean” to you and she says “oh honey, they’re just jealous of you.” You were supposed to grow out of believing it when you became an adult.

+1, "you're just jealous" is like "I'm rubber and you're glue." It's a childish retort to avoid actually addressing a valid criticism.

I can afford these items but would not buy them because I'd rather spend that money on almost anything else. A vacation. A piece of art. My kid's college fund. Concert tickets. I do not understand spending thousands on a basic gold bangle and a tote bag.

It's the female version of men who spend money on cars and watches. Do what you want but yes I do judge you for being shallow and bad with money.

This is DC, there is a lot of money. Most people I know with these things already have fully funded college funds and take nice vacations. But I’m sure it helps you to think that they are eating rice and beans in order to afford a LV bag.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Spinoff from this thread in Beauty and Fashion.

TL/DR - A woman is miffed that her recently laid off cousin showed up at Thanksgiving looking nice. Too nice. She cites the woman's Cartier Love bracelet and VCA necklace as evidence that the cousin was obnoxiously "dripping" in designer goods. Posters rightly pointed out that the woman only had a few designer items on and OP likely only noticed them because she was jealous and wanted them herself. Shockingly, OP has not returned. (https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1242233.page)

But here's what I'm really curious about. Someone posted this:

This may be an unpopular opinion but I like basic rich suburban mom style. It’s not me but give me a highlighted hair, nails done, lulu wearing soccer mom with Cartier bangles and a van cleef arpel necklace any day. You know it’s not unique and you don’t feel like you need to prove you are interesting with what you are wearing. I say, get it girl. Grab your neverfull and pick up those kiddos from soccer practice.

Why does DCUM hate this woman so much? I think the whole "I prefer a WASPier aesthetic" thing is just pretext. Because she's happy to lean in to conventional design aesthetics? Is it because this woman is competition for higher value men? I just don't get it.

That’s not my post, but what I don’t understand is the endless DCUM insistence that everyone is “jealous.” Designer brands are a waste of money. I would never buy them even if we were multimillionaires. Yes, really. No, it’s not “cope because you can’t afford it.”

“They’re just jealous” is the line your mom feeds you in middle school when the other girls are being “mean” to you and she says “oh honey, they’re just jealous of you.” You were supposed to grow out of believing it when you became an adult.

+1, "you're just jealous" is like "I'm rubber and you're glue." It's a childish retort to avoid actually addressing a valid criticism.

I can afford these items but would not buy them because I'd rather spend that money on almost anything else. A vacation. A piece of art. My kid's college fund. Concert tickets. I do not understand spending thousands on a basic gold bangle and a tote bag.

It's the female version of men who spend money on cars and watches. Do what you want but yes I do judge you for being shallow and bad with money.

This is DC, there is a lot of money. Most people I know with these things already have fully funded college funds and take nice vacations. But I’m sure it helps you to think that they are eating rice and beans in order to afford a LV bag.

Yeah I would say it more nicely, but I don’t think anyone is pinched by their clothing budget.

[Anonymous]

Lifelong DC person, I finally saw a noticeably branded LV bag but it was at the airport. So idk if she was just visiting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Spinoff from this thread in Beauty and Fashion.

TL/DR - A woman is miffed that her recently laid off cousin showed up at Thanksgiving looking nice. Too nice. She cites the woman's Cartier Love bracelet and VCA necklace as evidence that the cousin was obnoxiously "dripping" in designer goods. Posters rightly pointed out that the woman only had a few designer items on and OP likely only noticed them because she was jealous and wanted them herself. Shockingly, OP has not returned. (https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1242233.page)

But here's what I'm really curious about. Someone posted this:

This may be an unpopular opinion but I like basic rich suburban mom style. It’s not me but give me a highlighted hair, nails done, lulu wearing soccer mom with Cartier bangles and a van cleef arpel necklace any day. You know it’s not unique and you don’t feel like you need to prove you are interesting with what you are wearing. I say, get it girl. Grab your neverfull and pick up those kiddos from soccer practice.

Why does DCUM hate this woman so much? I think the whole "I prefer a WASPier aesthetic" thing is just pretext. Because she's happy to lean in to conventional design aesthetics? Is it because this woman is competition for higher value men? I just don't get it.

That’s not my post, but what I don’t understand is the endless DCUM insistence that everyone is “jealous.” Designer brands are a waste of money. I would never buy them even if we were multimillionaires. Yes, really. No, it’s not “cope because you can’t afford it.”

“They’re just jealous” is the line your mom feeds you in middle school when the other girls are being “mean” to you and she says “oh honey, they’re just jealous of you.” You were supposed to grow out of believing it when you became an adult.

+1, "you're just jealous" is like "I'm rubber and you're glue." It's a childish retort to avoid actually addressing a valid criticism.

I can afford these items but would not buy them because I'd rather spend that money on almost anything else. A vacation. A piece of art. My kid's college fund. Concert tickets. I do not understand spending thousands on a basic gold bangle and a tote bag.

It's the female version of men who spend money on cars and watches. Do what you want but yes I do judge you for being shallow and bad with money.

This is DC, there is a lot of money. Most people I know with these things already have fully funded college funds and take nice vacations. But I’m sure it helps you to think that they are eating rice and beans in order to afford a LV bag.

Doesn't matter. You can be rich and still be buying off-brand Bitcoin, sinking your money into NFTs, and driving Tesla dump trucks in multiple colors. Being wealthy doesn't mean you are immune from being criticized for making bad choices with your money.

[Anonymous]

It's just plain jealousy. Sorry, if OP had tried harder they too could have married well and had all those "designer" things that they clearly value (though they pretend to not!)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Spinoff from this thread in Beauty and Fashion.

TL/DR - A woman is miffed that her recently laid off cousin showed up at Thanksgiving looking nice. Too nice. She cites the woman's Cartier Love bracelet and VCA necklace as evidence that the cousin was obnoxiously "dripping" in designer goods. Posters rightly pointed out that the woman only had a few designer items on and OP likely only noticed them because she was jealous and wanted them herself. Shockingly, OP has not returned. (https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1242233.page)

But here's what I'm really curious about. Someone posted this:

This may be an unpopular opinion but I like basic rich suburban mom style. It’s not me but give me a highlighted hair, nails done, lulu wearing soccer mom with Cartier bangles and a van cleef arpel necklace any day. You know it’s not unique and you don’t feel like you need to prove you are interesting with what you are wearing. I say, get it girl. Grab your neverfull and pick up those kiddos from soccer practice.

Why does DCUM hate this woman so much? I think the whole "I prefer a WASPier aesthetic" thing is just pretext. Because she's happy to lean in to conventional design aesthetics? Is it because this woman is competition for higher value men? I just don't get it.

That’s not my post, but what I don’t understand is the endless DCUM insistence that everyone is “jealous.” Designer brands are a waste of money. I would never buy them even if we were multimillionaires. Yes, really. No, it’s not “cope because you can’t afford it.”

“They’re just jealous” is the line your mom feeds you in middle school when the other girls are being “mean” to you and she says “oh honey, they’re just jealous of you.” You were supposed to grow out of believing it when you became an adult.

+1, "you're just jealous" is like "I'm rubber and you're glue." It's a childish retort to avoid actually addressing a valid criticism.

I can afford these items but would not buy them because I'd rather spend that money on almost anything else. A vacation. A piece of art. My kid's college fund. Concert tickets. I do not understand spending thousands on a basic gold bangle and a tote bag.

It's the female version of men who spend money on cars and watches. Do what you want but yes I do judge you for being shallow and bad with money.

Why are your preferences for how you spend/waste your money more valid than another woman’s?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Spinoff from this thread in Beauty and Fashion.

TL/DR - A woman is miffed that her recently laid off cousin showed up at Thanksgiving looking nice. Too nice. She cites the woman's Cartier Love bracelet and VCA necklace as evidence that the cousin was obnoxiously "dripping" in designer goods. Posters rightly pointed out that the woman only had a few designer items on and OP likely only noticed them because she was jealous and wanted them herself. Shockingly, OP has not returned. (https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1242233.page)

But here's what I'm really curious about. Someone posted this:

This may be an unpopular opinion but I like basic rich suburban mom style. It’s not me but give me a highlighted hair, nails done, lulu wearing soccer mom with Cartier bangles and a van cleef arpel necklace any day. You know it’s not unique and you don’t feel like you need to prove you are interesting with what you are wearing. I say, get it girl. Grab your neverfull and pick up those kiddos from soccer practice.

Why does DCUM hate this woman so much? I think the whole "I prefer a WASPier aesthetic" thing is just pretext. Because she's happy to lean in to conventional design aesthetics? Is it because this woman is competition for higher value men? I just don't get it.

That’s not my post, but what I don’t understand is the endless DCUM insistence that everyone is “jealous.” Designer brands are a waste of money. I would never buy them even if we were multimillionaires. Yes, really. No, it’s not “cope because you can’t afford it.”

“They’re just jealous” is the line your mom feeds you in middle school when the other girls are being “mean” to you and she says “oh honey, they’re just jealous of you.” You were supposed to grow out of believing it when you became an adult.

+1, "you're just jealous" is like "I'm rubber and you're glue." It's a childish retort to avoid actually addressing a valid criticism.

I can afford these items but would not buy them because I'd rather spend that money on almost anything else. A vacation. A piece of art. My kid's college fund. Concert tickets. I do not understand spending thousands on a basic gold bangle and a tote bag.

It's the female version of men who spend money on cars and watches. Do what you want but yes I do judge you for being shallow and bad with money.

Why are your preferences for how you spend/waste your money more valid than another woman’s?

NP but I’ll respond here by saying that the thing people object to is that folks are buying these items purely for the optics to others. They’re spending money to be seen differently, as opposed to perhaps something they actually like. Now are those things confounded, sure, but honestly why else is someone buying an easily recognizable designer item? It’s a status symbol plain and simple

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's just plain jealousy. Sorry, if OP had tried harder they too could have married well and had all those "designer" things that they clearly value (though they pretend to not!)

When you are sitting in your own pool of urine, I guess everything smells like pee to you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's just plain jealousy. Sorry, if OP had tried harder they too could have married well and had all those "designer" things that they clearly value (though they pretend to not!)

When you are sitting in your own pool of urine, I guess everything smells like pee to you.

Some of the posters have admitted jealousy. It may not be the only reason but it is definitely a reason.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's just plain jealousy. Sorry, if OP had tried harder they too could have married well and had all those "designer" things that they clearly value (though they pretend to not!)

When you are sitting in your own pool of urine, I guess everything smells like pee to you.

+1