Party requesting guests to take shoes off

[Anonymous]

I don’t want to go to a big party and take my shoes off. Small group is totally different.

It just doesn’t feel dressy or special if I take my shoes off.

I almost always don’t mind taking shoes off and often do so out of habit - but not for a big party. It would feel weird.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's so bizarre to me that literally the rest of the world seems to manage removing shoes just fine. Like asian grandmas are without shoes and sitting on floors until they are 100, but everyone in the US has such ailments that going without shoes for 5 minutes is detrimental to their health. Honestly, maybe more americans should not wear shoes indoors to relieve some of these extreme issues.

If you want to make a point be realistic. The only people staying for 5 minutes are the people who leave almost immediately.
I might be OK sans shoes for a while but it would be tough. Fallen arches and weak ankles. I wear usually wear orthotics. Although with advance notice I would bring indoor shoes.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It's so bizarre to me that literally the rest of the world seems to manage removing shoes just fine. Like asian grandmas are without shoes and sitting on floors until they are 100, but everyone in the US has such ailments that going without shoes for 5 minutes is detrimental to their health. Honestly, maybe more americans should not wear shoes indoors to relieve some of these extreme issues.

Ding ding ding . Americans are fat pigs with chronic health issues and live like slobs with multiple pets

And yet you want to walk around in their houses with no shoes on?!

I am a shoes-off person and I do NOT remove my shoes for homes where people leave their shoes on because I assume their house is gross.

Did people here EVER go barefoot when you were a kid? How did you all even manage to survive?

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Anonymous wrote:It's so bizarre to me that literally the rest of the world seems to manage removing shoes just fine. Like asian grandmas are without shoes and sitting on floors until they are 100, but everyone in the US has such ailments that going without shoes for 5 minutes is detrimental to their health. Honestly, maybe more americans should not wear shoes indoors to relieve some of these extreme issues.

Ding ding ding . Americans are fat pigs with chronic health issues and live like slobs with multiple pets

And yet you want to walk around in their houses with no shoes on?!

I am a shoes-off person and I do NOT remove my shoes for homes where people leave their shoes on because I assume their house is gross.

Did people here EVER go barefoot when you were a kid? How did you all even manage to survive?

I am barefoot (or slippers) in my own home every day. When my kid goes barefoot outside, we wash off her feet when she comes inside. Just like hands. It's not a difficult concept to keep the dirt OUTSIDE your home.

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Anonymous wrote:It's so bizarre to me that literally the rest of the world seems to manage removing shoes just fine. Like asian grandmas are without shoes and sitting on floors until they are 100, but everyone in the US has such ailments that going without shoes for 5 minutes is detrimental to their health. Honestly, maybe more americans should not wear shoes indoors to relieve some of these extreme issues.

Ding ding ding . Americans are fat pigs with chronic health issues and live like slobs with multiple pets

And yet you want to walk around in their houses with no shoes on?!

Do you envision shoes protecting you from
Something socks (or indoor shoes) cannot protect you from.

Americans, while super crude in many respects, are freakily obsessed with “hygiene”, while fighting so many things like public health and safety. It’s actually very interesting.

Things not a judgment, just an observation from a non American.

I guess for me, I wonder how much of the shoe thing, like guns or whatever, are really based on the freedom of the individual? Although, I feel like I just heard something about shoes lately that explained it. Maybe Flightless Bird? It didn't impact deeply as most of my American friends are from other cultures that take shoes off.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have a medical issue where I need to wear a brace that sits in my shoe. I literally can’t walk without it. When I am asked to remove my shoes at someone’s house I explain to the host and keep my shoes on. It has lead to some awkwardness as I have my shoes on as everyone else has to take them off. I did have one neighbor who said that taking shoes off wasn’t optional, so I apologized and left the party.

Just being shoe covers.

No, they cause an unstable surface. I would just decline.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We are a Shoe-free household.

I also provide new pair of socks as well as hospital grade disposable shoe covers for my guests.

People are not inflexible and people know how to adjust. My DH has to wear house sneakers inside the home because of foot problems. He does not wear these shoe outdoors. He also carries disposable shoe covers when he goes to other people's homes.

As long as you acknowledge that you have severe, almost debilitating mental health issues.

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Anonymous wrote:It's so bizarre to me that literally the rest of the world seems to manage removing shoes just fine. Like asian grandmas are without shoes and sitting on floors until they are 100, but everyone in the US has such ailments that going without shoes for 5 minutes is detrimental to their health. Honestly, maybe more americans should not wear shoes indoors to relieve some of these extreme issues.

Ding ding ding . Americans are fat pigs with chronic health issues and live like slobs with multiple pets

And yet you want to walk around in their houses with no shoes on?!

Do you envision shoes protecting you from
Something socks (or indoor shoes) cannot protect you from.

Americans, while super crude in many respects, are freakily obsessed with “hygiene”, while fighting so many things like public health and safety. It’s actually very interesting.

Things not a judgment, just an observation from a non American.

I guess for me, I wonder how much of the shoe thing, like guns or whatever, are really based on the freedom of the individual? Although, I feel like I just heard something about shoes lately that explained it. Maybe Flightless Bird? It didn't impact deeply as most of my American friends are from other cultures that take shoes off.

Well, I am an immigrant and I agree with you. Americans are freakily obsessed with hygiene in some ways while completely indifferent in other ways.

I won't take my shoes off in your house because your floor might be dirty and I care about hygiene.
However, I will wear shoes in my own house which means tracking in all kinds of germs including fecal matter.
I will let my toddler crawl around on said floor.
I will put my shodden feet on the couch or coffee table.
I will shake hands with a stranger at the drop of a hat.

[Anonymous]

After reading this, I live in a no shoes/indoor slippers house and think OP should find a way to be excused from hosting. It's not worth it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have to admit, as a Canadian, American’s requirement to wear shoes inside is completely bizarre to me. It’s another difference that, like circumcision and guns, I feel the complete polarities in our culture. I live minutes from the border so it’s not like the disparity should be so great, but it is.

This is part of why I love DCUM.

Do you know what requirement means?

I have also never been in a Canadian house in which I was asked to remove my shoes (barring the obvious removal of wet or muddy footwear, which shockingly Americans will do as well). Canadian gymnasiums will often have a pile of shoes outside the door, but about half the people inside the gym don’t bother to remove their outdoor footwear, so what’s the point?

Just typical Canadian pretending to be better than Americans while not actually doing a simple task correctly or completely.

Well I already qualified my wording, but I guess you weren’t through enough, like I wouldn’t expect you to be through enough to wipe the sidewalk dog poop off your shoes before walking on my carpets!

And people wearing their shoes in the gym are generally known to be jerks, but we accept them too. It’s rude, and we know who is who.

We’re not better. This is just simple. What do you think you’re catching WEARING SOCKS? This kind of explains why the mask this was so hard for the US and fairly simple for most of the rest of the world.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have to admit, as a Canadian, American’s requirement to wear shoes inside is completely bizarre to me. It’s another difference that, like circumcision and guns, I feel the complete polarities in our culture. I live minutes from the border so it’s not like the disparity should be so great, but it is.

This is part of why I love DCUM.

Do you know what requirement means?

I have also never been in a Canadian house in which I was asked to remove my shoes (barring the obvious removal of wet or muddy footwear, which shockingly Americans will do as well). Canadian gymnasiums will often have a pile of shoes outside the door, but about half the people inside the gym don’t bother to remove their outdoor footwear, so what’s the point?

Just typical Canadian pretending to be better than Americans while not actually doing a simple task correctly or completely.

Well I already qualified my wording, but I guess you weren’t through enough, like I wouldn’t expect you to be through enough to wipe the sidewalk dog poop off your shoes before walking on my carpets!

And people wearing their shoes in the gym are generally known to be jerks, but we accept them too. It’s rude, and we know who is who.

We’re not better. This is just simple. What do you think you’re catching WEARING SOCKS? This kind of explains why the mask this was so hard for the US and fairly simple for most of the rest of the world.

Thorough, before you leave me as an idiot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's so bizarre to me that literally the rest of the world seems to manage removing shoes just fine. Like asian grandmas are without shoes and sitting on floors until they are 100, but everyone in the US has such ailments that going without shoes for 5 minutes is detrimental to their health. Honestly, maybe more americans should not wear shoes indoors to relieve some of these extreme issues.

If you want to make a point be realistic. The only people staying for 5 minutes are the people who leave almost immediately.
I might be OK sans shoes for a while but it would be tough. Fallen arches and weak ankles. I wear usually wear orthotics. Although with advance notice I would bring indoor shoes.

You should seek out a good physiotherapist and orthopedist if your feet are too weak to socialize short periods. Maybe a walker or cane? Or indoor shoes?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have to admit, as a Canadian, American’s requirement to wear shoes inside is completely bizarre to me. It’s another difference that, like circumcision and guns, I feel the complete polarities in our culture. I live minutes from the border so it’s not like the disparity should be so great, but it is.

This is part of why I love DCUM.

Do you know what requirement means?

I have also never been in a Canadian house in which I was asked to remove my shoes (barring the obvious removal of wet or muddy footwear, which shockingly Americans will do as well). Canadian gymnasiums will often have a pile of shoes outside the door, but about half the people inside the gym don’t bother to remove their outdoor footwear, so what’s the point?

Just typical Canadian pretending to be better than Americans while not actually doing a simple task correctly or completely.

Well I already qualified my wording, but I guess you weren’t through enough, like I wouldn’t expect you to be through enough to wipe the sidewalk dog poop off your shoes before walking on my carpets!

And people wearing their shoes in the gym are generally known to be jerks, but we accept them too. It’s rude, and we know who is who.

We’re not better. This is just simple. What do you think you’re catching WEARING SOCKS? This kind of explains why the mask this was so hard for the US and fairly simple for most of the rest of the world.

Thorough, before you leave me as an idiot.

You are one though

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have to admit, as a Canadian, American’s requirement to wear shoes inside is completely bizarre to me. It’s another difference that, like circumcision and guns, I feel the complete polarities in our culture. I live minutes from the border so it’s not like the disparity should be so great, but it is.

This is part of why I love DCUM.

Do you know what requirement means?

I have also never been in a Canadian house in which I was asked to remove my shoes (barring the obvious removal of wet or muddy footwear, which shockingly Americans will do as well). Canadian gymnasiums will often have a pile of shoes outside the door, but about half the people inside the gym don’t bother to remove their outdoor footwear, so what’s the point?

Just typical Canadian pretending to be better than Americans while not actually doing a simple task correctly or completely.

Well I already qualified my wording, but I guess you weren’t through enough, like I wouldn’t expect you to be through enough to wipe the sidewalk dog poop off your shoes before walking on my carpets!

And people wearing their shoes in the gym are generally known to be jerks, but we accept them too. It’s rude, and we know who is who.

We’re not better. This is just simple. What do you think you’re catching WEARING SOCKS? This kind of explains why the mask this was so hard for the US and fairly simple for most of the rest of the world.

Thorough, before you leave me as an idiot.

You are one though

Thank you for your thoughtful and well constructed rebuttal. You must have been a force to be reckoned with on debate team.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have to admit, as a Canadian, American’s requirement to wear shoes inside is completely bizarre to me. It’s another difference that, like circumcision and guns, I feel the complete polarities in our culture. I live minutes from the border so it’s not like the disparity should be so great, but it is.

This is part of why I love DCUM.

Do you know what requirement means?

I have also never been in a Canadian house in which I was asked to remove my shoes (barring the obvious removal of wet or muddy footwear, which shockingly Americans will do as well). Canadian gymnasiums will often have a pile of shoes outside the door, but about half the people inside the gym don’t bother to remove their outdoor footwear, so what’s the point?

Just typical Canadian pretending to be better than Americans while not actually doing a simple task correctly or completely.

Well I already qualified my wording, but I guess you weren’t through enough, like I wouldn’t expect you to be through enough to wipe the sidewalk dog poop off your shoes before walking on my carpets!

And people wearing their shoes in the gym are generally known to be jerks, but we accept them too. It’s rude, and we know who is who.

We’re not better. This is just simple. What do you think you’re catching WEARING SOCKS? This kind of explains why the mask this was so hard for the US and fairly simple for most of the rest of the world.

Thorough, before you leave me as an idiot.

You are one though

Thank you for your thoughtful and well constructed rebuttal. You must have been a force to be reckoned with on debate team.

No but your mom was. Why is a Canadian on this forum?