In-laws and their kids eat all our food

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Anonymous wrote:I would have a problem with any guests helping themselves to food that was not out/offered. I do think you have to realize the 16 year old boys eat a ton...so like 3 hamburgers is not unexpected. Be sure you are serving enough at the meal.

You'd have a problem with your nieces and nephews getting enough to eat at your home? Your wierd!!! I hope my family is comfortable enough at my house to handle their needs without relying on me if I've missed something - like having enough food.

I would have a problem with nieces and nephews being gluttonous. Gross and rude.

It's not your job as a host to decide how hungry your guests should be. It's your job to feed them until they are full. Trying to decide how much someone else should want to eat is the weird choice here.

So if you host a dinner and you provide a normal meal plus dessert and appetizers, if a guest is still hungry you are ok with them wandering into your kitchen and helping themself?

DP

again. . . they are family!

However, I would feel like an inadequate host if my guest came for dinner and I did not provide enough food! I would say “please, let me make you something.”. Then I would immediately offer something filling and quick, e.g., charcuterie or ice cream.

It’s insanely rude for someone to eat the food provided and announce that they are still hungry. Have something after you leave. You’re not going to faint from hunger after eating a normal sized meal.

My nephew faints when he doesn’t get enough. He needs about 3x what we would consider a normal meal. He was a tight end on a D1 college team.

Translation: all that muscle is now turning to fat. He’s no longer an “elite athlete” and needs to learn to modify his food intake.

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Anonymous wrote:I would have a problem with any guests helping themselves to food that was not out/offered. I do think you have to realize the 16 year old boys eat a ton...so like 3 hamburgers is not unexpected. Be sure you are serving enough at the meal.

You'd have a problem with your nieces and nephews getting enough to eat at your home? Your wierd!!! I hope my family is comfortable enough at my house to handle their needs without relying on me if I've missed something - like having enough food.

I would have a problem with nieces and nephews being gluttonous. Gross and rude.

It's not your job as a host to decide how hungry your guests should be. It's your job to feed them until they are full. Trying to decide how much someone else should want to eat is the weird choice here.

So if you host a dinner and you provide a normal meal plus dessert and appetizers, if a guest is still hungry you are ok with them wandering into your kitchen and helping themself?

DP

again. . . they are family!

However, I would feel like an inadequate host if my guest came for dinner and I did not provide enough food! I would say “please, let me make you something.”. Then I would immediately offer something filling and quick, e.g., charcuterie or ice cream.

It’s insanely rude for someone to eat the food provided and announce that they are still hungry. Have something after you leave. You’re not going to faint from hunger after eating a normal sized meal.

My nephew faints when he doesn’t get enough. He needs about 3x what we would consider a normal meal. He was a tight end on a D1 college team.

That is a medical problem for him to deal with, not to foist on other people. Also, I don’t believe you. Anytime he can’t have three hamburgers to everyone else’s one, he faints? GTFO.

WASP par excellence.

He is an adult, no? He should have solved this problem by now—always eat something beforehand and don’t assume that everyone is prepared for him to eat 3x everyone else. That’s not a reasonable expectation.

Literally, cultures that aren't WASP would just feed him and marvel at his big appetite.

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Anonymous wrote:As a military family, and well just an American…I just can’t with your “problem”. Don’t host or put your food away. This isn’t hard. You clearly don’t like the kids.

What does you being a military family have to do with this thread?

What do think Memorial Day BBQs are celebrating?
Another day off to complain about one’s family? Get a clue.

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Anonymous wrote:As a military family, and well just an American…I just can’t with your “problem”. Don’t host or put your food away. This isn’t hard. You clearly don’t like the kids.

What does you being a military family have to do with this thread?

What do think Memorial Day BBQs are celebrating?
Another day off to complain about one’s family? Get a clue.

Dp. This exchange was hilarious.

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They are coming just for the day yet the kids dig into your pantry etc? That is extremely rude. I’d correct the kids “hey kids please get out of the pantry, the food for the party is out on the buffet”

That said, you need to provide far more food. Yes, athletic teens often eat a lot. The food you provide need not be expensive- you just need to have enough of it. Burgers & hot dogs or similar, with a few sides and desserts is not particularly expensive. Just be aware that a teen boy can easily eat 2-3 burgers (you can always throw more on the grill- freeze any leftover burgers or meat) along with a lot of sides. They will also plow through whatever drinks you have out. If soda or other things are too expensive, make some lemonade from a mix or something like that.

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Anonymous wrote:I would have a problem with any guests helping themselves to food that was not out/offered. I do think you have to realize the 16 year old boys eat a ton...so like 3 hamburgers is not unexpected. Be sure you are serving enough at the meal.

You'd have a problem with your nieces and nephews getting enough to eat at your home? Your wierd!!! I hope my family is comfortable enough at my house to handle their needs without relying on me if I've missed something - like having enough food.

I would have a problem with nieces and nephews being gluttonous. Gross and rude.

It's not your job as a host to decide how hungry your guests should be. It's your job to feed them until they are full. Trying to decide how much someone else should want to eat is the weird choice here.

So if you host a dinner and you provide a normal meal plus dessert and appetizers, if a guest is still hungry you are ok with them wandering into your kitchen and helping themself?

DP

again. . . they are family!

However, I would feel like an inadequate host if my guest came for dinner and I did not provide enough food! I would say “please, let me make you something.”. Then I would immediately offer something filling and quick, e.g., charcuterie or ice cream.

It’s insanely rude for someone to eat the food provided and announce that they are still hungry. Have something after you leave. You’re not going to faint from hunger after eating a normal sized meal.

My nephew faints when he doesn’t get enough. He needs about 3x what we would consider a normal meal. He was a tight end on a D1 college team.

That is a medical problem for him to deal with, not to foist on other people. Also, I don’t believe you. Anytime he can’t have three hamburgers to everyone else’s one, he faints? GTFO.

So true

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Anonymous wrote:As a military family, and well just an American…I just can’t with your “problem”. Don’t host or put your food away. This isn’t hard. You clearly don’t like the kids.

What does you being a military family have to do with this thread?

Did you seriously just ask what military has to do with Memorial Day??

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Anonymous wrote:As a military family, and well just an American…I just can’t with your “problem”. Don’t host or put your food away. This isn’t hard. You clearly don’t like the kids.

What does you being a military family have to do with this thread?

What do think Memorial Day BBQs are celebrating?
Another day off to complain about one’s family? Get a clue.

Sounds like with this family they are celebrating eating a lot of food to put you in a food coma

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Anonymous wrote:As a military family, and well just an American…I just can’t with your “problem”. Don’t host or put your food away. This isn’t hard. You clearly don’t like the kids.

What does you being a military family have to do with this thread?

Did you seriously just ask what military has to do with Memorial Day??

No. What does a military family have to do with ops issue of rude guests that eat her out of the house? Rude.

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Teens eat an absolute ton OP. You need to provide more food at the meal.

My athletic teen sons can easily 2 or even 3 burgers at a time. My DD can eat an entire medium thin crust pizza by herself. And all 3 of mine are very skinny and still growing. I can’t even imagine what some of the larger/beefier teens can eat.

That said, my kids all know not to rifle through someone’s pantry at a party or eat as much as they want (going back for an 3rd burger etc) unless offered or everyone has obviously finished eating. Even with close family. If still hungry, we’d stop for more food on the way home.

Just serve more food. It doesn’t have to be anything expensive.

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Anonymous wrote:You must not have teens.

Sadly, OP could have teens, based on the number of times my boys came home hungry. I remember going to a playdate for lunch and the mom served two carrots, and handful of grapes and a thimble of cheese. I took one look at my 5-year old and said we had to leave immediately after. At parties they would come home ravenous because there was one pizza for 6-7 tweens. Or, they'd go to dinner with (a well to do) family who made them order off the kiddie menu at 13. Granted, they were in the 85% and 99% for height, but active kids need food and many people aren't willing to provide it.

Aren’t willing or are not accustomed? Our DS was active through HS but only started consuming food in large amounts till college. I’m sure I “underserved” on play dates because I only had our 2 kids as a data set and prepared enough based on their consumption patterns x # of guests.

I'm pp, and that's definitely fair. However, my kids at 12/13 were taller than many adults, so forcing a kids menu seemed unreasonable. Either way, it's unfortunate because my kids avoided those houses because they were always hungry.

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If they're eating your pantry food and there is still a lot of the burgers and other party food, that's a little weird.

If you don't have any party food leftover, you're not providing enough food and need to stop hosting.

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Anonymous wrote:You must not have teens.

Sadly, OP could have teens, based on the number of times my boys came home hungry. I remember going to a playdate for lunch and the mom served two carrots, and handful of grapes and a thimble of cheese. I took one look at my 5-year old and said we had to leave immediately after. At parties they would come home ravenous because there was one pizza for 6-7 tweens. Or, they'd go to dinner with (a well to do) family who made them order off the kiddie menu at 13. Granted, they were in the 85% and 99% for height, but active kids need food and many people aren't willing to provide it.

Aren’t willing or are not accustomed? Our DS was active through HS but only started consuming food in large amounts till college. I’m sure I “underserved” on play dates because I only had our 2 kids as a data set and prepared enough based on their consumption patterns x # of guests.

I'm pp, and that's definitely fair. However, my kids at 12/13 were taller than many adults, so forcing a kids menu seemed unreasonable. Either way, it's unfortunate because my kids avoided those houses because they were always hungry.

And I’m sure those houses appreciated it.

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Anonymous wrote:As a military family, and well just an American…I just can’t with your “problem”. Don’t host or put your food away. This isn’t hard. You clearly don’t like the kids.

What does you being a military family have to do with this thread?

Did you seriously just ask what military has to do with Memorial Day??

No. What does a military family have to do with ops issue of rude guests that eat her out of the house? Rude.

You seem dense. Remember the reason we celebrate Memorial Day. A few snacks seems trivial, doesn’t it?

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Anonymous wrote:As a military family, and well just an American…I just can’t with your “problem”. Don’t host or put your food away. This isn’t hard. You clearly don’t like the kids.

What does you being a military family have to do with this thread?

Did you seriously just ask what military has to do with Memorial Day??

No. What does a military family have to do with ops issue of rude guests that eat her out of the house? Rude.

Why are you defending a rude host who can't be bothered to adequately feed the guests she invites to her home? This doesn't have to be expensive or hard.