In-laws and their kids eat all our food

[Anonymous]

As a military family, and well just an American…I just can’t with your “problem”. Don’t host or put your food away. This isn’t hard. You clearly don’t like the kids.

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Anonymous wrote:I would have a problem with any guests helping themselves to food that was not out/offered. I do think you have to realize the 16 year old boys eat a ton...so like 3 hamburgers is not unexpected. Be sure you are serving enough at the meal.

You'd have a problem with your nieces and nephews getting enough to eat at your home? Your wierd!!! I hope my family is comfortable enough at my house to handle their needs without relying on me if I've missed something - like having enough food.

I would have a problem with nieces and nephews being gluttonous. Gross and rude.

It's not your job as a host to decide how hungry your guests should be. It's your job to feed them until they are full. Trying to decide how much someone else should want to eat is the weird choice here.

You sound fat.

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Anonymous wrote:I would have a problem with any guests helping themselves to food that was not out/offered. I do think you have to realize the 16 year old boys eat a ton...so like 3 hamburgers is not unexpected. Be sure you are serving enough at the meal.

Eating 3 hamburgers is overeating.

Not for a teen boy athlete.

Then he should eat a snack before he comes over and not act like a starved Neanderthal. Rude.

DP

OMG! No!

As a host you need to prepare for this. Plus, my teen daughter (15) is 5’7” and 95lbs. She is very athletic and can easily eat 3 hamburgers! Yesterday we had a BBQ and she ate 2 steaks and some chicken. I was the same at that age. The host needs to prepare for this and if she cannot afford it, then she needs to tell her brother “please bring a side and dessert” or whatever.

Yikes! You need a nutritionist.

She’s an elite athlete we have one. . . and a trainer.. . .and a coach. She’s heathy strong and eats a ton.

Sorry you cannot imagine that girls like this exist. They do!

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Anonymous wrote:I would have a problem with any guests helping themselves to food that was not out/offered. I do think you have to realize the 16 year old boys eat a ton...so like 3 hamburgers is not unexpected. Be sure you are serving enough at the meal.

Eating 3 hamburgers is overeating.

Not for a teen boy athlete.

Then he should eat a snack before he comes over and not act like a starved Neanderthal. Rude.

DP

OMG! No!

As a host you need to prepare for this. Plus, my teen daughter (15) is 5’7” and 95lbs. She is very athletic and can easily eat 3 hamburgers! Yesterday we had a BBQ and she ate 2 steaks and some chicken. I was the same at that age. The host needs to prepare for this and if she cannot afford it, then she needs to tell her brother “please bring a side and dessert” or whatever.

Yikes! You need a nutritionist.

She’s an elite athlete we have one. . . and a trainer.. . .and a coach. She’s heathy strong and eats a ton.

Sorry you cannot imagine that girls like this exist. They do!

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Anonymous wrote:So, it is Memorial Day (almost) and my bro and sis in law and their three kids are coming over. It should be called "Memorial Day" because by the team they leave I have a vague memory of when we used to have food in the house. Of course, we are planning ( prob gonna rain) to make burgers and dogs and all, and that's cool . We expect them to eat that. But you have never seen anything like their kids. They are big boys 9 16 year old twins) and a younger girl who is a gymnast, and they are RAVENOUS. Every time they come over, they leave our house more barren than the surface of the moon. The cereal is gone, the candy is gone, the soda is gone, the chips are gone, any baked good is gone, hell even our dog gets nervous. The thing is- they never offer to pay for their children's assaults on our pantry.
I know this sounds trivial to some, but we aren't rich and their visits seriously wipe out an entire grocery run. Is there a tactful way to say "Hey, can you help replace the stuff your children devour?" or do you think we are just stuck ?

Why don’t you say something to your brother such as “let’s food shop when you get here?” Or “let’s divvy up meals?” Or “can you guys bring your kids’ snacks?”

For a single meal?

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Anonymous wrote:People, read the entire thread ! The OP is putting out tons of food but the in law kids are emptying out all the snacks and stuff for her kids lunches and games instead or in addition. There is no reason for them to slurp down all the go go squeezes when there is tons of food available to them for the party. They just like go go squeeze and have absolutely no manners.

1. Stop them, redirect them to all the food for the party and bluntly tell them it’s rude to do this at someone else’s house. You would be doing them a favor as their parents are setting them up for extreme embarrassment later on.

2. Get a plastic bin, fill it with the pantry foods you don’t want them to take. Close it, put it in the attic or your bedroom closet. If they ask where it is, redirect the greedy little monsters to all the food that is out for the party.

3. Stop hosting these people

She didn't answer my question a couple of pages back which was whether there is still edible party food remaining when they raid the pantry.

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Anonymous wrote:I would have a problem with any guests helping themselves to food that was not out/offered. I do think you have to realize the 16 year old boys eat a ton...so like 3 hamburgers is not unexpected. Be sure you are serving enough at the meal.

You'd have a problem with your nieces and nephews getting enough to eat at your home? Your wierd!!! I hope my family is comfortable enough at my house to handle their needs without relying on me if I've missed something - like having enough food.

I would have a problem with nieces and nephews being gluttonous. Gross and rude.

It's not your job as a host to decide how hungry your guests should be. It's your job to feed them until they are full. Trying to decide how much someone else should want to eat is the weird choice here.

So if you host a dinner and you provide a normal meal plus dessert and appetizers, if a guest is still hungry you are ok with them wandering into your kitchen and helping themself?

DP

again. . . they are family!

However, I would feel like an inadequate host if my guest came for dinner and I did not provide enough food! I would say “please, let me make you something.”. Then I would immediately offer something filling and quick, e.g., charcuterie or ice cream.

Always love how someone plays the “family” card to justify bad behavior.

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Anonymous wrote:I would have a problem with any guests helping themselves to food that was not out/offered. I do think you have to realize the 16 year old boys eat a ton...so like 3 hamburgers is not unexpected. Be sure you are serving enough at the meal.

You'd have a problem with your nieces and nephews getting enough to eat at your home? Your wierd!!! I hope my family is comfortable enough at my house to handle their needs without relying on me if I've missed something - like having enough food.

I would have a problem with nieces and nephews being gluttonous. Gross and rude.

It's not your job as a host to decide how hungry your guests should be. It's your job to feed them until they are full. Trying to decide how much someone else should want to eat is the weird choice here.

You sound fat.

No. They sound hospitable.

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Anonymous wrote:People, read the entire thread ! The OP is putting out tons of food but the in law kids are emptying out all the snacks and stuff for her kids lunches and games instead or in addition. There is no reason for them to slurp down all the go go squeezes when there is tons of food available to them for the party. They just like go go squeeze and have absolutely no manners.

1. Stop them, redirect them to all the food for the party and bluntly tell them it’s rude to do this at someone else’s house. You would be doing them a favor as their parents are setting them up for extreme embarrassment later on.

2. Get a plastic bin, fill it with the pantry foods you don’t want them to take. Close it, put it in the attic or your bedroom closet. If they ask where it is, redirect the greedy little monsters to all the food that is out for the party.

3. Stop hosting these people

Agree. Finally! The voice of reason!

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I have hosted a lot of BBQs in my day and seen it all. I get the issue. You need to put off your shopping for anything beyond the cookout until after they are gone, gather up and lock up the stuff you don’t want touched (a large plastic bin in your closet works well), and downgrade to the cheapest option for the stuff like soda they are going to consume regardless.
And be happy that they only eat at your house for one day— think of what it must be like to feed them the other 364 days!

Or even for a few days. Thank goodness they are not from out of town!

[Anonymous]

ESH. The nieces and nephews for raiding someone else's pantry without permission, bro and SIL for showing up empty handed to a cookout with a pack of ravenous teens, and OP for being judgmental and inhospitable.

I have teens. I can't imagine showing up to a potluck or cookout without a pretty substantial contribution.

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Anonymous wrote:As a military family, and well just an American…I just can’t with your “problem”. Don’t host or put your food away. This isn’t hard. You clearly don’t like the kids.

What does you being a military family have to do with this thread?

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Anonymous wrote:I would have a problem with any guests helping themselves to food that was not out/offered. I do think you have to realize the 16 year old boys eat a ton...so like 3 hamburgers is not unexpected. Be sure you are serving enough at the meal.

You'd have a problem with your nieces and nephews getting enough to eat at your home? Your wierd!!! I hope my family is comfortable enough at my house to handle their needs without relying on me if I've missed something - like having enough food.

I would have a problem with nieces and nephews being gluttonous. Gross and rude.

It's not your job as a host to decide how hungry your guests should be. It's your job to feed them until they are full. Trying to decide how much someone else should want to eat is the weird choice here.

So if you host a dinner and you provide a normal meal plus dessert and appetizers, if a guest is still hungry you are ok with them wandering into your kitchen and helping themself?

DP

again. . . they are family!

However, I would feel like an inadequate host if my guest came for dinner and I did not provide enough food! I would say “please, let me make you something.”. Then I would immediately offer something filling and quick, e.g., charcuterie or ice cream.

It’s insanely rude for someone to eat the food provided and announce that they are still hungry. Have something after you leave. You’re not going to faint from hunger after eating a normal sized meal.

My nephew faints when he doesn’t get enough. He needs about 3x what we would consider a normal meal. He was a tight end on a D1 college team.

That is a medical problem for him to deal with, not to foist on other people. Also, I don’t believe you. Anytime he can’t have three hamburgers to everyone else’s one, he faints? GTFO.

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Anonymous wrote:I would have a problem with any guests helping themselves to food that was not out/offered. I do think you have to realize the 16 year old boys eat a ton...so like 3 hamburgers is not unexpected. Be sure you are serving enough at the meal.

You'd have a problem with your nieces and nephews getting enough to eat at your home? Your wierd!!! I hope my family is comfortable enough at my house to handle their needs without relying on me if I've missed something - like having enough food.

I would have a problem with nieces and nephews being gluttonous. Gross and rude.

It's not your job as a host to decide how hungry your guests should be. It's your job to feed them until they are full. Trying to decide how much someone else should want to eat is the weird choice here.

So if you host a dinner and you provide a normal meal plus dessert and appetizers, if a guest is still hungry you are ok with them wandering into your kitchen and helping themself?

DP

again. . . they are family!

However, I would feel like an inadequate host if my guest came for dinner and I did not provide enough food! I would say “please, let me make you something.”. Then I would immediately offer something filling and quick, e.g., charcuterie or ice cream.

It’s insanely rude for someone to eat the food provided and announce that they are still hungry. Have something after you leave. You’re not going to faint from hunger after eating a normal sized meal.

My nephew faints when he doesn’t get enough. He needs about 3x what we would consider a normal meal. He was a tight end on a D1 college team.

That is a medical problem for him to deal with, not to foist on other people. Also, I don’t believe you. Anytime he can’t have three hamburgers to everyone else’s one, he faints? GTFO.

WASP par excellence.

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Anonymous wrote:I would have a problem with any guests helping themselves to food that was not out/offered. I do think you have to realize the 16 year old boys eat a ton...so like 3 hamburgers is not unexpected. Be sure you are serving enough at the meal.

You'd have a problem with your nieces and nephews getting enough to eat at your home? Your wierd!!! I hope my family is comfortable enough at my house to handle their needs without relying on me if I've missed something - like having enough food.

I would have a problem with nieces and nephews being gluttonous. Gross and rude.

It's not your job as a host to decide how hungry your guests should be. It's your job to feed them until they are full. Trying to decide how much someone else should want to eat is the weird choice here.

So if you host a dinner and you provide a normal meal plus dessert and appetizers, if a guest is still hungry you are ok with them wandering into your kitchen and helping themself?

DP

again. . . they are family!

However, I would feel like an inadequate host if my guest came for dinner and I did not provide enough food! I would say “please, let me make you something.”. Then I would immediately offer something filling and quick, e.g., charcuterie or ice cream.

It’s insanely rude for someone to eat the food provided and announce that they are still hungry. Have something after you leave. You’re not going to faint from hunger after eating a normal sized meal.

My nephew faints when he doesn’t get enough. He needs about 3x what we would consider a normal meal. He was a tight end on a D1 college team.

That is a medical problem for him to deal with, not to foist on other people. Also, I don’t believe you. Anytime he can’t have three hamburgers to everyone else’s one, he faints? GTFO.

WASP par excellence.

He is an adult, no? He should have solved this problem by now—always eat something beforehand and don’t assume that everyone is prepared for him to eat 3x everyone else. That’s not a reasonable expectation.