What has a lack of sex done to you?

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Anonymous wrote:Nothing pisses people off more than the truth. As proof, I can guarantee you that some bitter little woman is going to have this post deleted....

That is ridiculous. A woman experiencing perimenopause and menopause aren't relegated to painful sex. They still have a mouth and should use it to satisfy their husbands. Because the truth is, most men would do the same for their wive's if the circumstances were reversed. Painful sex issues = use your mouth for a while instead.

Don’t need to be “bitter” or “little” or even a woman to be disgusted with the misogynistic tone inherent in your post here…

It's not misogynistic, it's biology. People have physical needs. It's way more abusive and painful to ask someone to do without sex for loooong periods of time, than it is to simply use your mouth for a couple minutes. The fact that you would rather he do without for months, than to take 5 minutes of your time to be able to actually supply your significant other with the relieve they need. God, feminism really is a disease.

The fact that you can't separate the discussion about something that is fundamentally about caring for a partner from feminism is your problem. You are a misogynist because of this. The idea that women being treated as equal partners in a marriage or equal participants in the various facets of life is the reason for some problem in your sex life is misogynistic.

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Not having it is not good for a person. I truly believe people who are healthy all through their lives are having plenty of sex. It’s good for you.

Why don’t you speak for yourself and stop condemning a significant portion of the human population that doesn’t require regular sex to be healthy both mentally and physically?

DP, but the PP has a point that there are people who do require regular sex to be mentally/emotionally/physically healthy. For them, sex is a need.

NP, I might put it this way: exercise is not really a need per se but we are all
aware that the human body and mental health are better with exercise.

Exercise doesnt bring mommy wounds and sti’s. Pleasing yourself brings the physiological release. And after many years, some people just prefer the company of friends (which is the most sustaining kind of love anyway, as studies are finding).

What is "mommy wounds"?

Imagine if this was everyone’s thought process. “I’m too afraid of Sti’s to ever have sex.”

Also just like the other commenter-what the heck is a mommy wound?

Men are so incredibly myopic and selfish. That's why there are so many out there who try to cajole their wives and girlfriends into having sex just days or weeks after pushing a freaking watermelon out of her vagina. :roll:

I’m so tired of this. As a woman-I wouldn’t just accept my husband saying he didn’t want to try solve his ED with medication. So why should a man accept if a woman says she is going through menopause/some other hormonal thing and that’s that? Without ever taking any steps to make it better? It’s so one sided and unfair. In a marriage you don’t just get to decide you are done with something without considering the other person-that’s simply not how a marriage works.

Very Accurate!

[Anonymous]

well I have no self esteem since DH doesn't want to touch me.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Nothing pisses people off more than the truth. As proof, I can guarantee you that some bitter little woman is going to have this post deleted....

That is ridiculous. A woman experiencing perimenopause and menopause aren't relegated to painful sex. They still have a mouth and should use it to satisfy their husbands. Because the truth is, most men would do the same for their wive's if the circumstances were reversed. Painful sex issues = use your mouth for a while instead.

Don’t need to be “bitter” or “little” or even a woman to be disgusted with the misogynistic tone inherent in your post here…

It's not misogynistic, it's biology. People have physical needs. It's way more abusive and painful to ask someone to do without sex for loooong periods of time, than it is to simply use your mouth for a couple minutes. The fact that you would rather he do without for months, than to take 5 minutes of your time to be able to actually supply your significant other with the relieve they need. God, feminism really is a disease.

The fact that you can't separate the discussion about something that is fundamentally about caring for a partner from feminism is your problem. You are a misogynist because of this. The idea that women being treated as equal partners in a marriage or equal participants in the various facets of life is the reason for some problem in your sex life is misogynistic.

No, because the person said she'd rather be alone than have to service her husband. The fact is that a marriage is all about service to each other...on so many levels and so many areas. It's about each person doing their best to service their partner's needs. It's funny, but I think most men would sacrifice or do anything to meet their spouses needs. It doesn't always seem to be reciprocated. A man will sacrifice his body for his family (I know as a fireman I have definitely sacrificed mine), but it seems that some women won't even sacrifice a little time on their knees. Sad

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:well I have no self esteem since DH doesn't want to touch me.

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Same. Like I’m surprised when someone compliments me now.

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Anonymous wrote:By the way, perimenopause and menopause does not cause painful sex. In fact, there is often in increase in libido during these stages.

You're wrong.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Nothing pisses people off more than the truth. As proof, I can guarantee you that some bitter little woman is going to have this post deleted....

That is ridiculous. A woman experiencing perimenopause and menopause aren't relegated to painful sex. They still have a mouth and should use it to satisfy their husbands. Because the truth is, most men would do the same for their wive's if the circumstances were reversed. Painful sex issues = use your mouth for a while instead.

Don’t need to be “bitter” or “little” or even a woman to be disgusted with the misogynistic tone inherent in your post here…

It's not misogynistic, it's biology. People have physical needs. It's way more abusive and painful to ask someone to do without sex for loooong periods of time, than it is to simply use your mouth for a couple minutes. The fact that you would rather he do without for months, than to take 5 minutes of your time to be able to actually supply your significant other with the relieve they need. God, feminism really is a disease.

The fact that you can't separate the discussion about something that is fundamentally about caring for a partner from feminism is your problem. You are a misogynist because of this. The idea that women being treated as equal partners in a marriage or equal participants in the various facets of life is the reason for some problem in your sex life is misogynistic.

No, because the person said she'd rather be alone than have to service her husband. The fact is that a marriage is all about service to each other...on so many levels and so many areas. It's about each person doing their best to service their partner's needs. It's funny, but I think most men would sacrifice or do anything to meet their spouses needs. It doesn't always seem to be reciprocated. A man will sacrifice his body for his family (I know as a fireman I have definitely sacrificed mine), but it seems that some women won't even sacrifice a little time on their knees. Sad

Eww. Who has taken over this board?

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Anonymous wrote:I'd rather be divorced than expected to service a dude like PP. Single life is a dream compared to having a "partner" like that

Having a partner is all about trying to meet each other's needs. Sounds like you won't have to worry about that...I already feel sorry for you in the future, when you're in your 50's with no children, no husband, no family...alone. Hey, but that's ok, because you never had to do something for someone.

I'm good. I've got kids, family and friends and I will never do anything sexual that I am not excited and enthusiastic about doing. If a man can't understand that, it's alarming and not a little bit rape-y.

Enjoy your begrudgingly-given beejes.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Having the one person that you’re only supposed to have sex with not want to have sex with you hurts, it just does not matter the reason.

I agree. It’s basically impossible for me to feel attractive.

Good way to put it.

I tried for a long time (years). I was told it was because of X or y so I did x and y.

When I was successful I was giving and not receiving and last time I tried he couldn’t finish. Whenever I tried it wasn’t good anyway so there’s that.

When my spouse comes home and vents about work I am meant to just listen, not ask questions or give advice (even when asked) and NOT talk about my work or my day.

It is really demoralizing and you feel bad about yourself. I have a lack of self confidence I never had before. I am very lonely but feel I can’t talk about it with anyone. We have a high deductible insurance so therapy would be out of pocket and expensive.

I try to kiss him and he turns his head. Won’t even hug me. Our kids notice.

I put on some weight because of the stress. My husband also recently showed me a picture from 5 years ago and remarked how young I looked and that I look so old now. I have more anxiety than ever too.

I talked to one close friend and she told me he’s a good father and that if I divorced him he’d find someone new right away and I would not see my kids 50% of the time and another woman would help raise them. My husband is gorgeous which she also told me
I would never get anyone close to that good looking and he would have his pick. Very hurtful coming from a close friend, but I appreciated the honesty. She told me to suck it up.

I also worry because we would have to sell the house to divorce and I did slow my career for his career and our kids. I started climbing the ladder again but I work in non profits so will probably have to change careers.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Having the one person that you’re only supposed to have sex with not want to have sex with you hurts, it just does not matter the reason.

I agree. It’s basically impossible for me to feel attractive.

Good way to put it.

I tried for a long time (years). I was told it was because of X or y so I did x and y.

When I was successful I was giving and not receiving and last time I tried he couldn’t finish. Whenever I tried it wasn’t good anyway so there’s that.

When my spouse comes home and vents about work I am meant to just listen, not ask questions or give advice (even when asked) and NOT talk about my work or my day.

It is really demoralizing and you feel bad about yourself. I have a lack of self confidence I never had before. I am very lonely but feel I can’t talk about it with anyone. We have a high deductible insurance so therapy would be out of pocket and expensive.

I try to kiss him and he turns his head. Won’t even hug me. Our kids notice.

I put on some weight because of the stress. My husband also recently showed me a picture from 5 years ago and remarked how young I looked and that I look so old now. I have more anxiety than ever too.

I talked to one close friend and she told me he’s a good father and that if I divorced him he’d find someone new right away and I would not see my kids 50% of the time and another woman would help raise them. My husband is gorgeous which she also told me
I would never get anyone close to that good looking and he would have his pick. Very hurtful coming from a close friend, but I appreciated the honesty. She told me to suck it up.

I also worry because we would have to sell the house to divorce and I did slow my career for his career and our kids. I started climbing the ladder again but I work in non profits so will probably have to change careers.

I’m sorry. This sounds terrible. I don’t agree with your friend’s advice though. No one should have to live this way.

[Anonymous]

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Not having it is not good for a person. I truly believe people who are healthy all through their lives are having plenty of sex. It’s good for you.

Why don’t you speak for yourself and stop condemning a significant portion of the human population that doesn’t require regular sex to be healthy both mentally and physically?

Why are you mad about someone saying sex is healthy? This is so interesting to me.

Because it’s not and a leading cause of death

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm blind now...

Lmao. Sorry Stevie.

[Anonymous]

I still have sex with my spouse but not daily as I would prefer. The sex we have is great. I love her very much and I’m super attracted to her. I think she may be hotter now than when we were married 19 years ago. To fill in the gap (pun intended) my masturbation routine has gotten quite intricate. I’ve discovered toys and have a decent collection. They work great and almost as if I am having sex with someone else. So that’s kinda fun.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nothing pisses people off more than the truth. As proof, I can guarantee you that some bitter little woman is going to have this post deleted....

That is ridiculous. A woman experiencing perimenopause and menopause aren't relegated to painful sex. They still have a mouth and should use it to satisfy their husbands. Because the truth is, most men would do the same for their wive's if the circumstances were reversed. Painful sex issues = use your mouth for a while instead.

Don’t need to be “bitter” or “little” or even a woman to be disgusted with the misogynistic tone inherent in your post here…

It's not misogynistic, it's biology. People have physical needs. It's way more abusive and painful to ask someone to do without sex for loooong periods of time, than it is to simply use your mouth for a couple minutes. The fact that you would rather he do without for months, than to take 5 minutes of your time to be able to actually supply your significant other with the relieve they need. God, feminism really is a disease.

The fact that you can't separate the discussion about something that is fundamentally about caring for a partner from feminism is your problem. You are a misogynist because of this. The idea that women being treated as equal partners in a marriage or equal participants in the various facets of life is the reason for some problem in your sex life is misogynistic.

No, because the person said she'd rather be alone than have to service her husband. The fact is that a marriage is all about service to each other...on so many levels and so many areas. It's about each person doing their best to service their partner's needs. It's funny, but I think most men would sacrifice or do anything to meet their spouses needs. It doesn't always seem to be reciprocated. A man will sacrifice his body for his family (I know as a fireman I have definitely sacrificed mine), but it seems that some women won't even sacrifice a little time on their knees. Sad

I think the opposite. In general, men do as much or as little as they can get away with.

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Anonymous wrote:By the way, perimenopause and menopause does not cause painful sex. In fact, there is often in increase in libido during these stages.

You're wrong.

+1

Get back to,me about this after you experience tearing vaginal tissue.