Men 45+ on OLD: are they all broke?

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Anonymous wrote:It’s crazy how every woman on DCUM is a mini Sheryl Sandberg yet whenever I go on a date with a cute late 20’s chick from Hinge they’re all broke. The only single women I know irl who aren’t broke are the ones who I work with. Never been on a date with a chick under 35 making six figures.

And? At 35 I made $60K and had $125K in debt. By 45 I made $180K with no debt and was married to someone making $325K. People develop.

Most men with money will choose the younger broke woman over the older woman with a 6 figure career.

Not the case in my dating experience. Even high income men don't like when women are with him for money, or be Sugar Daddies

This thread (and many other DCUM threads) abundantly demonstrate that even older women are with you for the money, so you might as well date younger and hotter if you can.

This thread actually shows that older women are forgiving of men making less, but want financially secure dates who are able to contribute into joint dating experiences at par with women. You have hangups about women wanting your money, and need to process it first before dating.

This thread doesn't show that at all. If you don't make roughly as much as she does, she's not going to date you. And there's nothing wrong with that, but don't pretend women aren't in it for the money. In fact they very obviously care more about it than men do.

I am in my mid forties and all our friends are in their forties and early fifties. We know several people who have divorced in their forties. The attractive successful women had no problems meeting men right away. The attractive men also were able to date and marry if they wanted. Two did marry. One got married and had a kid and then got divorced again so now he has a high income with two ex wives and three children.

The women who are very type A, not as physically attractive and not very nice don’t seem to be dating or no one worth showing their friends.

Why haven't you listed the attractive unsuccessful women in this list?
These women I know date but they are terrible at it attracting the worst men possible. I've gone out with these people and they have boyfriends but then the boyfriends take what little money they have, they are busy finding these guys new apartments, taking their dog they can't hold onto anymore along with the costs associated, dealing with drinking habits etc.

You are also confusing the men. The categories are successful attractive men, attractive, but not successful men, and successful but unattractive men. It's confusing who you are talking about.

I take it back. I can think of two women who are relatively attractive and not that successful. They were both hot when they were younger and definitely still look good for their age at early fifties but looking good for 50 isn’t that good unfortunately. Both these women have difficult personalities. Both struggle financially and constantly fighting with ex husbands about money for their kids and their house.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s crazy how every woman on DCUM is a mini Sheryl Sandberg yet whenever I go on a date with a cute late 20’s chick from Hinge they’re all broke. The only single women I know irl who aren’t broke are the ones who I work with. Never been on a date with a chick under 35 making six figures.

And? At 35 I made $60K and had $125K in debt. By 45 I made $180K with no debt and was married to someone making $325K. People develop.

Most men with money will choose the younger broke woman over the older woman with a 6 figure career.

Not the case in my dating experience. Even high income men don't like when women are with him for money, or be Sugar Daddies

This thread (and many other DCUM threads) abundantly demonstrate that even older women are with you for the money, so you might as well date younger and hotter if you can.

This thread actually shows that older women are forgiving of men making less, but want financially secure dates who are able to contribute into joint dating experiences at par with women. You have hangups about women wanting your money, and need to process it first before dating.

This thread doesn't show that at all. If you don't make roughly as much as she does, she's not going to date you. And there's nothing wrong with that, but don't pretend women aren't in it for the money. In fact they very obviously care more about it than men do.

I am in my mid forties and all our friends are in their forties and early fifties. We know several people who have divorced in their forties. The attractive successful women had no problems meeting men right away. The attractive men also were able to date and marry if they wanted. Two did marry. One got married and had a kid and then got divorced again so now he has a high income with two ex wives and three children.

The women who are very type A, not as physically attractive and not very nice don’t seem to be dating or no one worth showing their friends.

Why haven't you listed the attractive unsuccessful women in this list?
These women I know date but they are terrible at it attracting the worst men possible. I've gone out with these people and they have boyfriends but then the boyfriends take what little money they have, they are busy finding these guys new apartments, taking their dog they can't hold onto anymore along with the costs associated, dealing with drinking habits etc.

You are also confusing the men. The categories are successful attractive men, attractive, but not successful men, and successful but unattractive men. It's confusing who you are talking about.

Pp again. Dh is successful. I also used to work and was successful. We were both attractive. I never thought about it before but most people we know are both attractive and successful.

We know successful and attractive men and successful and average looking men. We don’t know attractive unsuccessful men. I did know those hot dumb types when I was a teen but haven’t hung out with those types of people in thirty years.

The women I know are also attractive and successful or average looking and successful. There are also the attractive and nice or attractive and smart but not necessarily successful women who married the successful men.

I believe the lowest earning people we know are GS15 feds. There is one divorced guy in our group who is a very high fed. I’m guessing he earns around 200k. He has the ex wife who is relatively still attractive and unsuccessful. Both these people don’t seem to be doing well in the dating scene. Both are dating people who I consider far below both their ex spouses. I wish they stayed together. We don’t hang out with them as much anymore.

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Anonymous wrote:Asking bc that has been my experience. Met multiple nice good looking men who all have enormous financial liabilities. Either they earn very little or are broke after divorce and are too old to fully recover, or earn well but have huge obligations and/or are cheap AF. It’s a pity bc I’ve really liked several of them, but need someone similarly secure and am not getting into a financial quagmire.

By the time a woman is in her 40's, she should've enough financial stability to not worry about a partner's finances, if she doesn't then she shouldn't be judging their finances.

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One last thing. The guy I listed who I’m guessing earns 200k is pretty good looking and smart. He was who I was thinking about when I said guys this age may have teens who will be going to college soon and the guy may need to save for that vs going on extravagant trips with a new girlfriend.

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What kind of gold digging losers are you guys dating when all you can think about is how much the women want you for your money?

Are you new here? This is all 90% of DCUM women in dating pool look for. Its not such a long stretch for men to think they will either gradually drain their money or take half away in divorce.

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39 yo female and have not had much success with finding a high earner. I make an ok six figure salary but as a single parent it is hard. Most men I have dated after my divorce have made less or about the same as me. If men are going to Middleburg to meet women , where are women going to meet single men?

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In 45+ pool, there is not much left to look for but companionship as looks are declining, sexual abilities draining and reproductive powers neither available nor needed.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a 45 YO male and divorced. I’m on Raya which tends to have upper class people and sometimes celebrities. I like it because there is no broke single mothers. I’d they’re divorced they’re doing well otherwise they wouldn’t be there. If you’re not on already there’s a good chance you won’t get in. I used to be on Hinge and while it’s ok Raya filters out the single mother “business owners” (I.e they work at a salon or they’re a hairdresser) and other crazies.

Or I do what I have had the most success with and that’s meeting someone in areas I hang out like Middleburg.

I'm a divorced 45 male and would love to know where in Middleburg to hang out and meet some single ladies. I havn't been able to get on The League or Raya and am over the other apps.

Depends…on bar there is where the “help” goes but is better in my opinion. The other one is rich people but they’re older. If you do not know about equestrian sports learn quick. Most people out there probably have a Warmblood worth more then two of your vehicles combined.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s crazy how every woman on DCUM is a mini Sheryl Sandberg yet whenever I go on a date with a cute late 20’s chick from Hinge they’re all broke. The only single women I know irl who aren’t broke are the ones who I work with. Never been on a date with a chick under 35 making six figures.

And? At 35 I made $60K and had $125K in debt. By 45 I made $180K with no debt and was married to someone making $325K. People develop.

Most men with money will choose the younger broke woman over the older woman with a 6 figure career.

Not the case in my dating experience. Even high income men don't like when women are with him for money, or be Sugar Daddies

This thread (and many other DCUM threads) abundantly demonstrate that even older women are with you for the money, so you might as well date younger and hotter if you can.

This thread actually shows that older women are forgiving of men making less, but want financially secure dates who are able to contribute into joint dating experiences at par with women. You have hangups about women wanting your money, and need to process it first before dating.

This thread doesn't show that at all. If you don't make roughly as much as she does, she's not going to date you. And there's nothing wrong with that, but don't pretend women aren't in it for the money. In fact they very obviously care more about it than men do.

I am in my mid forties and all our friends are in their forties and early fifties. We know several people who have divorced in their forties. The attractive successful women had no problems meeting men right away. The attractive men also were able to date and marry if they wanted. Two did marry. One got married and had a kid and then got divorced again so now he has a high income with two ex wives and three children.

The women who are very type A, not as physically attractive and not very nice don’t seem to be dating or no one worth showing their friends.

Why haven't you listed the attractive unsuccessful women in this list?
These women I know date but they are terrible at it attracting the worst men possible. I've gone out with these people and they have boyfriends but then the boyfriends take what little money they have, they are busy finding these guys new apartments, taking their dog they can't hold onto anymore along with the costs associated, dealing with drinking habits etc.

You are also confusing the men. The categories are successful attractive men, attractive, but not successful men, and successful but unattractive men. It's confusing who you are talking about.

Pp again. Dh is successful. I also used to work and was successful. We were both attractive. I never thought about it before but most people we know are both attractive and successful.

We know successful and attractive men and successful and average looking men. We don’t know attractive unsuccessful men. I did know those hot dumb types when I was a teen but haven’t hung out with those types of people in thirty years.

The women I know are also attractive and successful or average looking and successful. There are also the attractive and nice or attractive and smart but not necessarily successful women who married the successful men.

I believe the lowest earning people we know are GS15 feds. There is one divorced guy in our group who is a very high fed. I’m guessing he earns around 200k. He has the ex wife who is relatively still attractive and unsuccessful. Both these people don’t seem to be doing well in the dating scene. Both are dating people who I consider far below both their ex spouses. I wish they stayed together. We don’t hang out with them as much anymore.

So you think you have seen it all when it comes to dating when your poorest friend makes $200k? Okeydokey.

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Anonymous wrote:Asking bc that has been my experience. Met multiple nice good looking men who all have enormous financial liabilities. Either they earn very little or are broke after divorce and are too old to fully recover, or earn well but have huge obligations and/or are cheap AF. It’s a pity bc I’ve really liked several of them, but need someone similarly secure and am not getting into a financial quagmire.

By the time a woman is in her 40's, she should've enough financial stability to not worry about a partner's finances, if she doesn't then she shouldn't be judging their finances.

she does have to protect finances though. This is where it gets tricky.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s crazy how every woman on DCUM is a mini Sheryl Sandberg yet whenever I go on a date with a cute late 20’s chick from Hinge they’re all broke. The only single women I know irl who aren’t broke are the ones who I work with. Never been on a date with a chick under 35 making six figures.

And? At 35 I made $60K and had $125K in debt. By 45 I made $180K with no debt and was married to someone making $325K. People develop.

Most men with money will choose the younger broke woman over the older woman with a 6 figure career.

Not the case in my dating experience. Even high income men don't like when women are with him for money, or be Sugar Daddies

This thread (and many other DCUM threads) abundantly demonstrate that even older women are with you for the money, so you might as well date younger and hotter if you can.

This thread actually shows that older women are forgiving of men making less, but want financially secure dates who are able to contribute into joint dating experiences at par with women. You have hangups about women wanting your money, and need to process it first before dating.

This thread doesn't show that at all. If you don't make roughly as much as she does, she's not going to date you. And there's nothing wrong with that, but don't pretend women aren't in it for the money. In fact they very obviously care more about it than men do.

I am in my mid forties and all our friends are in their forties and early fifties. We know several people who have divorced in their forties. The attractive successful women had no problems meeting men right away. The attractive men also were able to date and marry if they wanted. Two did marry. One got married and had a kid and then got divorced again so now he has a high income with two ex wives and three children.

The women who are very type A, not as physically attractive and not very nice don’t seem to be dating or no one worth showing their friends.

Why haven't you listed the attractive unsuccessful women in this list?
These women I know date but they are terrible at it attracting the worst men possible. I've gone out with these people and they have boyfriends but then the boyfriends take what little money they have, they are busy finding these guys new apartments, taking their dog they can't hold onto anymore along with the costs associated, dealing with drinking habits etc.

You are also confusing the men. The categories are successful attractive men, attractive, but not successful men, and successful but unattractive men. It's confusing who you are talking about.

Being both hot AND well-off helps both women and men in dating.

yeah this is pretty much what I read she was saying like it's news. And her poorest friend makes $200k

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If you don't want men like yourself who aren't wealthy, failed at marriage and have children to support then just focus on your career and raising your children. Times have changed, women don't need men, they can be independent.

There aren't that many single, child free rich men out there in that age range, most are married to mothers of their own children who actually are good partners. It would be counterintuitive to marry women who already failed at making wealth, being good and loyal partners and bring little to the table but children to be raised and financial needs to be fulfilled.

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Anonymous wrote:Asking bc that has been my experience. Met multiple nice good looking men who all have enormous financial liabilities. Either they earn very little or are broke after divorce and are too old to fully recover, or earn well but have huge obligations and/or are cheap AF. It’s a pity bc I’ve really liked several of them, but need someone similarly secure and am not getting into a financial quagmire.

By the time a woman is in her 40's, she should've enough financial stability to not worry about a partner's finances, if she doesn't then she shouldn't be judging their finances.

she does have to protect finances though. This is where it gets tricky.

Yes, as dating or moving in with a man who is way below her own purchasing power will require subsidizing him to travel, entertain and eat out at her level. I am rather frugal and a woman but I do spend about $25k annually on travel. It’s not Ritz or business class travel, but rather standard Airbnbs and one international trip a year

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Sounds harsh but reality is harsh.

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So go camping with him, and go to The Ritz with your girlfriends.