Nicest parent communities which schools?

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Anonymous wrote:Sadly not STA. It varies some by class but large population of mean girl moms who never mentally graduated from junior high.

This is sad to hear. I had hoped STA would figure this out. The Chevy crowd at STA (and NCS) is vicious. Hands down probably one of the worst crowds in the DMV.

We're a decidedly not fancy STA/NCS family.
A couple of things:

-there are countless parents who are not country club members. the vast majority.

-among the Chevy crowd (since that was brought up) I've found that (not surprisingly) that the wealthiest and most influential ones are generally the nicest. The mean ones are almost always the strivers OR the ones with kids who struggle socially. When people are secure in who they are, they're generally nice.

-I've also found that none of it matters during the high school years as kids make their own friends. If they're some combo of smart, funny, charismatic, interesting, athletic, kind, good looking, etc. they'll likely find themselves comfortably fitting into the social world even if they're the furthest thing from a Chevy member there is. My kids have been fully embraced by other kids. They've invited to a near constant stream of pre-parties, after parties, regular parties, golf outings, dinners, hang-outs, ski trips, vacations, etc. etc. They have many friends and will know these kids until for years to come. They feel fully part of the community. It's all good.

DP. I disagree parents of these kids are more involved with their kids social lives in highschool than other parents. Just ask the kid that was dressed for the Chevy dance with his invitation in hand and humiliated by adults at Chevy when he was told to leave and that he was not invited. How do you get over that public humiliation as a kid in highschool?

I have also heard the lower school at STA also has a group of these parents as well as highschool so I am not hopeful things will improve.

the christmas dance? He had the invite in hand (so he had been invited by the host families?) why was he asked to leave?

He was told he didn’t make the cut but he didn’t understand how the process works he had the invitation and assumed it was a done deal that he was invited. He didn’t realize he needed to follow up invitation.

Not at all surprising. Disgusting behavior on the part of the Chevy Chase adults.

for the love of Pete. The invite says "DO NOT JUST SHOW UP". You must send in a check and wait for a confirmation email.
It isn't rocket science. If a kid does not do this and just shows up i hardly think it is in bad form of the club to turn him away.
You guys are really grasping at straws here.

It's like showing up at an Airbnb apartment without paying a deposit or getting a confirmation email from the host and then bad mouthing Airbnb for not having an apartment ready when you fly into town.

Come on. Get a grip. You are nuts.

According to 17:59, he had sent his check in. You don’t know that he just showed up.

You sound pretty vested in defending Chevy Chase. Maybe you should think about why? Sounds like you are an apologist for bad behavior.

you know, I would actually call bad behavior on his behalf. I know a good number of kids who were on the waitlist. they wanted to go but they followed instructions and stayed home. He clearly just ignored the rules and came anyway. Because apparently rules did not apply to him.

I am by no means a Chevy Chase apologist. I'm not a member, will never be a member and have nothing invested in the club. But you are using some non-sensical example about the CCC to slam STA and that irritates me. This is a kid who did not follow the rules (while hundreds of other kids did) and yet you're implying that he is the victim. No, he's the entitled one that decided that rules were not for him.

I'm done here. Happy New Year to all.

Different poster here. This response sums it up no room for mistakes for a kid whose parents made a mistake! His parents are not in the club world and did not understand how it worked. Can you imagine publicly humiliating a kid who was all dressed up and ready to go to the dance excited and publicly telling him to go away I mean it’s just beyond anything I’ve ever heard and I’ve heard some bad things happening with people in this club. It’s not like he was some stranger off the street. He attended STA and received an original invite in the mail.

There’s a family in the senior class that likes to blackball people at their clubs for sport. They have been involved with blackballing at least a few families at CCC and I just heard that she’s trying to blackball another parent from joining another club she belongs to despite that parent having a lot of support. What a crazy lady!

ok, I"ll bite. If the other families are already members at CCC, how is this mom "blackballing" them?

DP. Reading the post it’s clear they’re not members but want to be. This kind of thing goes on all the time. I have friends who have been blackballed at CCC and the Sulgrave for various petty reasons. It is very junior high. Since my fam is not interested in joining clubs I just sit back with a bag of popcorn.

Sulgrave too? It is such a beautiful club and friends mentioned I should apply to join there but if they are doing this there then I have no interest. I just want to have a nice lunch on occasion or attend an event but I would not want to have a chance of a group of women who peaked in junior high to blackball me. This is all new to me. I would never and have never put in a negative word about anyone trying to join our clubs.

Sulgrave, CCC, and Congressional have significant membership overlap. The whole point of a social club is to exclude the wrong people.

Nice try, we all know the real problem at DMV privates is from the CCC a-holes. Plenty of Congo families in our private preschool and lower and upper schools, and never seen issues, and Sulgrave the average age is 80, isn’t it?

CCC hockey parents tend to be some of the worst in our experience.

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Anonymous wrote:Sadly not STA. It varies some by class but large population of mean girl moms who never mentally graduated from junior high.

This is sad to hear. I had hoped STA would figure this out. The Chevy crowd at STA (and NCS) is vicious. Hands down probably one of the worst crowds in the DMV.

NCS keeps this crowd more contained from what I have heard. They are there but their input is kept at a minimum. NCS PA presidents last few years are African American and not in the club crowd and neither is the executive committee.

Different at STA. At STA half of the PA grade reps and exec committee are members of CCC (some Congo - same crowd too) as well as the Governing Board. It’s a very who knows who place and that’s how you get those positions. Parents select their replacement so many parents get overlooked. Same friend group keeps these spots with the exception of one two.

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NCS is very image conscious. NCS’ diversity initiatives and the AA PA President scream cover up.

Do not attack me. I am not saying she is not an excellent PA President (she is) but the school has had problems recently related to DEI. Their DEI head quit suddenly a few years ago and published a blog enumerating numerous issues.

The CCC people may still be causing trouble.

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Anonymous wrote:NCS is very image conscious. NCS’ diversity initiatives and the AA PA President scream cover up.

Do not attack me. I am not saying she is not an excellent PA President (she is) but the school has had problems recently related to DEI. Their DEI head quit suddenly a few years ago and published a blog enumerating numerous issues.

The CCC people may still be causing trouble.

Can you post the blog here?

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Anonymous wrote:NCS is very image conscious. NCS’ diversity initiatives and the AA PA President scream cover up.

Do not attack me. I am not saying she is not an excellent PA President (she is) but the school has had problems recently related to DEI. Their DEI head quit suddenly a few years ago and published a blog enumerating numerous issues.

The CCC people may still be causing trouble.

Can you post the blog here?

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NCS has a lot of positives and it is not the only school dealing with these challenges. Perhaps they have made substantive changes since this time.

The blog is not hard to locate. Others have posted the link on here before

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Anonymous wrote:NCS is very image conscious. NCS’ diversity initiatives and the AA PA President scream cover up.

Do not attack me. I am not saying she is not an excellent PA President (she is) but the school has had problems recently related to DEI. Their DEI head quit suddenly a few years ago and published a blog enumerating numerous issues.

The CCC people may still be causing trouble.

Just stop it! The DEI role was new at the time and was developing. The current DEI head and committee members are a great fit and doing a great job. You are soooo negative. Previous DEI was not a good fit in my opinion. Current head Reverend Adams is great.

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Anonymous wrote:NCS is very image conscious. NCS’ diversity initiatives and the AA PA President scream cover up.

Do not attack me. I am not saying she is not an excellent PA President (she is) but the school has had problems recently related to DEI. Their DEI head quit suddenly a few years ago and published a blog enumerating numerous issues.

The CCC people may still be causing trouble.

Just stop it! The DEI role was new at the time and was developing. The current DEI head and committee members are a great fit and doing a great job. You are soooo negative. Previous DEI was not a good fit in my opinion. Current head Reverend Adams is great.

Nobody questioned whether or not the current people were doing a good job.

Great employees can be stymied when the culture does not support their work.

The culture that lead to the school needing an entire DEI branch of governance is the issue. Culture doesn’t just change when you hire one good person.

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Anonymous wrote:NCS is very image conscious. NCS’ diversity initiatives and the AA PA President scream cover up.

Do not attack me. I am not saying she is not an excellent PA President (she is) but the school has had problems recently related to DEI. Their DEI head quit suddenly a few years ago and published a blog enumerating numerous issues.

The CCC people may still be causing trouble.

Just stop it! The DEI role was new at the time and was developing. The current DEI head and committee members are a great fit and doing a great job. You are soooo negative. Previous DEI was not a good fit in my opinion. Current head Reverend Adams is great.

Nobody questioned whether or not the current people were doing a good job.

Great employees can be stymied when the culture does not support their work.

The culture that lead to the school needing an entire DEI branch of governance is the issue. Culture doesn’t just change when you hire one good person.

Please. Almost Every single top private school created DEI branches in response to George Floyd and the BLM movement. I applaud NCS and other schools for doing this. Some did not. It was not about the culture at the school per se rather the culture in the country. Every single African American friend I have at NCS says they are much more please with the culture and opportunities at NCS than at other schools they have been at.

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Anonymous wrote:NCS is very image conscious. NCS’ diversity initiatives and the AA PA President scream cover up.

Do not attack me. I am not saying she is not an excellent PA President (she is) but the school has had problems recently related to DEI. Their DEI head quit suddenly a few years ago and published a blog enumerating numerous issues.

The CCC people may still be causing trouble.

Just stop it! The DEI role was new at the time and was developing. The current DEI head and committee members are a great fit and doing a great job. You are soooo negative. Previous DEI was not a good fit in my opinion. Current head Reverend Adams is great.

Nobody questioned whether or not the current people were doing a good job.

Great employees can be stymied when the culture does not support their work.

The culture that lead to the school needing an entire DEI branch of governance is the issue. Culture doesn’t just change when you hire one good person.

Please. Almost Every single top private school created DEI branches in response to George Floyd and the BLM movement. I applaud NCS and other schools for doing this. Some did not. It was not about the culture at the school per se rather the culture in the country. Every single African American friend I have at NCS says they are much more please with the culture and opportunities at NCS than at other schools they have been at.

I will add a few have actually transferred TO NCS from other schools.

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Anonymous wrote:NCS is very image conscious. NCS’ diversity initiatives and the AA PA President scream cover up.

Do not attack me. I am not saying she is not an excellent PA President (she is) but the school has had problems recently related to DEI. Their DEI head quit suddenly a few years ago and published a blog enumerating numerous issues.

The CCC people may still be causing trouble.

That previous dei head had a real chip on her shoulder in my experience. I had a simple question for her once and her disdain for me (a wealthy caucasian parent) was so obvious.

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I am happy for your friends, but can assure you that this is not everyone’s experience at NCS.

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Anonymous wrote:I am happy for your friends, but can assure you that this is not everyone’s experience at NCS.

Or anywhere. I guarantee if you were at another school you would be complaining and be negative there as well. NCS admissions I think is really rethinking this admit. They post all of the time nothing but negativity. I can only imagine what it is like for their kid to listen to this.

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Anonymous wrote:I am happy for your friends, but can assure you that this is not everyone’s experience at NCS.

Or anywhere. I guarantee if you were at another school you would be complaining and be negative there as well. NCS admissions I think is really rethinking this admit. They post all of the time nothing but negativity. I can only imagine what it is like for their kid to listen to this.

+100

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Anonymous wrote:Sadly not STA. It varies some by class but large population of mean girl moms who never mentally graduated from junior high.

This is sad to hear. I had hoped STA would figure this out. The Chevy crowd at STA (and NCS) is vicious. Hands down probably one of the worst crowds in the DMV.

NCS keeps this crowd more contained from what I have heard. They are there but their input is kept at a minimum. NCS PA presidents last few years are African American and not in the club crowd and neither is the executive committee.

Different at STA. At STA half of the PA grade reps and exec committee are members of CCC (some Congo - same crowd too) as well as the Governing Board. It’s a very who knows who place and that’s how you get those positions. Parents select their replacement so many parents get overlooked. Same friend group keeps these spots with the exception of one two.

Have kids at both and agree. PA and leadership and grade reps more diverse socially and racially at NCS. School selects them at NCS. Parents select them at STA. Big difference.

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Anonymous wrote:I am happy for your friends, but can assure you that this is not everyone’s experience at NCS.

Or anywhere. I guarantee if you were at another school you would be complaining and be negative there as well. NCS admissions I think is really rethinking this admit. They post all of the time nothing but negativity. I can only imagine what it is like for their kid to listen to this.

+100

NCS admissions is entirely new this year and has no time to regret decisions they had nothing to do with.

I see that NCS people do not want attention brought to this area. They have hired and moved a bunch of people around. They throw around new titles, but what has changed? I’ve seen no evidence of a shift in culture

I don’t believe NCS is a dumpster fire. The education these kids receive is phenomenal. Some of the school’s recent actions seem performative given recent history however. I hope I am wrong.