Pet peeve: deboarding an airplane by row

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:***What do you do in this scenario?

You are in the aisle seat in row 8. You stood up in the aisle and are patiently waiting with your small carry on (which you kept under your seat).

Everyone in front starts exiting and you move forward — and then the woman in the aisle seat ahead of you jumps up and steps out into the aisle.

Naturally, you pause.

But then she says, “My carryon is in the overhead a few rows back.”

Her expectation was that everyone already standing in the aisle for 3+ rows would sit down so she could walk back and grab it.

I said, “Sorry, I think you’re going to need to wait until there’s space for you to walk back and grab it.”

She was clearly upset.

I walked by to exit as did everyone behind me.

She was upset, but you and others still got to move forward. Yes? So…and what? You can’t control the feelings and expectations and others. Her “upset” did not prevent you and others from deplaning. What are you looking for here, for strangers to tell you how to control the feelings of other strangers?

I’m asking if I should have sat down and let her try to pass a few rows down the aisle or if I was correct in moving forward.

She said some pretty unkind things to me as I moved on, and she was still fussing about it (and me personally) in baggage claim. (Along the lines of my “privilege” and the fact that we both ended up at baggage claim waiting.)

My thinking was this: even if I sit down and let her pass, she would then need to convince 3+ aisles behind us to sit still and let her grab her bag. Fat chance that would happen.

Again…OK. You had your “thinking” about the situation, and she had hers. Her “fussing” didn’t prevent you from doing anything, and yeah, you choosing to go past her didn’t get you anywhere: you ended up at the same baggage claim at the same time, waiting. So…what?

The thread is seemingly about plane etiquette when it comes to deboarding/deplaning.

Not sure why you think chiming in with “so what?” for specific scenarios is necessary.

I mean, “So what?” basically applies to every post on dcum.

Either respond to the question or move on.

I did respond, hunny. You don’t have to like what I say.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:***What do you do in this scenario?

You are in the aisle seat in row 8. You stood up in the aisle and are patiently waiting with your small carry on (which you kept under your seat).

Everyone in front starts exiting and you move forward — and then the woman in the aisle seat ahead of you jumps up and steps out into the aisle.

Naturally, you pause.

But then she says, “My carryon is in the overhead a few rows back.”

Her expectation was that everyone already standing in the aisle for 3+ rows would sit down so she could walk back and grab it.

I said, “Sorry, I think you’re going to need to wait until there’s space for you to walk back and grab it.”

She was clearly upset.

I walked by to exit as did everyone behind me.

I’d let her squish back past me to get her bag. What she does with other strangers is not my concern. I’ve had similar scenarios multiple times on international flights and people are usually nice and either pass the bag or just let the person squish themselves to where the bag is and then they just follow the de boarding line from there. It’s not that complicated.

There wasn’t any room to squish past me. There was a big person literally spooning me from behind. And the person seated next to me had already stood up (essentially in my aisle seat) and had their carryon in my seat. I was in the aisle with my carry on in front of me.

Had I asked everyone to back up, return to their seats,etc so I could move back into my seat I don’t think anyone would have listened.

“You’re welcome to get past me if you can, but it feels pretty tight.” This is not hard. Not sure what the issue was with you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:***What do you do in this scenario?

You are in the aisle seat in row 8. You stood up in the aisle and are patiently waiting with your small carry on (which you kept under your seat).

Everyone in front starts exiting and you move forward — and then the woman in the aisle seat ahead of you jumps up and steps out into the aisle.

Naturally, you pause.

But then she says, “My carryon is in the overhead a few rows back.”

Her expectation was that everyone already standing in the aisle for 3+ rows would sit down so she could walk back and grab it.

I said, “Sorry, I think you’re going to need to wait until there’s space for you to walk back and grab it.”

She was clearly upset.

I walked by to exit as did everyone behind me.

That lady is an idiot! No way in the world would I accommodate her. You were 100% right, PP.

I agree the lady should not have expected people to wait and sit back down. That's insane. But if the compartment was close enough, and the bag not too onerous, most people have seen on planes will offer to get the bag and pass it up.

But seriously, no point in rushing off the plane; I think for many people, though, it's anxiety that makes them act like prisoners trying to escape death row.

I travel routinely for work, and it’s mostly older men and women who rush off and immediately go to the restroom.

I was on a flight last week and a woman literally said, “Move it, people! I need to pee!”

I thought it was hilarious. But she was pushing past people and quite aggressive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:***What do you do in this scenario?

You are in the aisle seat in row 8. You stood up in the aisle and are patiently waiting with your small carry on (which you kept under your seat).

Everyone in front starts exiting and you move forward — and then the woman in the aisle seat ahead of you jumps up and steps out into the aisle.

Naturally, you pause.

But then she says, “My carryon is in the overhead a few rows back.”

Her expectation was that everyone already standing in the aisle for 3+ rows would sit down so she could walk back and grab it.

I said, “Sorry, I think you’re going to need to wait until there’s space for you to walk back and grab it.”

She was clearly upset.

I walked by to exit as did everyone behind me.

I’d let her squish back past me to get her bag. What she does with other strangers is not my concern. I’ve had similar scenarios multiple times on international flights and people are usually nice and either pass the bag or just let the person squish themselves to where the bag is and then they just follow the de boarding line from there. It’s not that complicated.

There wasn’t any room to squish past me. There was a big person literally spooning me from behind. And the person seated next to me had already stood up (essentially in my aisle seat) and had their carryon in my seat. I was in the aisle with my carry on in front of me.

Had I asked everyone to back up, return to their seats,etc so I could move back into my seat I don’t think anyone would have listened.

“You’re welcome to get past me if you can, but it feels pretty tight.” This is not hard. Not sure what the issue was with you.

I led with “sorry but I think you’ll need to wait until you can get past” precisely because there wasn’t any room for her to pass. Same difference. I literally couldn’t move since someone had already stood up and taken my seat so there wasn’t any way for her to go around me. (I’m average size; she was not small.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:***What do you do in this scenario?

You are in the aisle seat in row 8. You stood up in the aisle and are patiently waiting with your small carry on (which you kept under your seat).

Everyone in front starts exiting and you move forward — and then the woman in the aisle seat ahead of you jumps up and steps out into the aisle.

Naturally, you pause.

But then she says, “My carryon is in the overhead a few rows back.”

Her expectation was that everyone already standing in the aisle for 3+ rows would sit down so she could walk back and grab it.

I said, “Sorry, I think you’re going to need to wait until there’s space for you to walk back and grab it.”

She was clearly upset.

I walked by to exit as did everyone behind me.

I’d let her squish back past me to get her bag. What she does with other strangers is not my concern. I’ve had similar scenarios multiple times on international flights and people are usually nice and either pass the bag or just let the person squish themselves to where the bag is and then they just follow the de boarding line from there. It’s not that complicated.

There wasn’t any room to squish past me. There was a big person literally spooning me from behind. And the person seated next to me had already stood up (essentially in my aisle seat) and had their carryon in my seat. I was in the aisle with my carry on in front of me.

Had I asked everyone to back up, return to their seats,etc so I could move back into my seat I don’t think anyone would have listened.

“You’re welcome to get past me if you can, but it feels pretty tight.” This is not hard. Not sure what the issue was with you.

I led with “sorry but I think you’ll need to wait until you can get past” precisely because there wasn’t any room for her to pass. Same difference. I literally couldn’t move since someone had already stood up and taken my seat so there wasn’t any way for her to go around me. (I’m average size; she was not small.)

No, it’s not the “same difference,” since you can only speak for yourself. Your first response makes it sound like you were speaking for the whole line behind you. “Sorry.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:***What do you do in this scenario?

You are in the aisle seat in row 8. You stood up in the aisle and are patiently waiting with your small carry on (which you kept under your seat).

Everyone in front starts exiting and you move forward — and then the woman in the aisle seat ahead of you jumps up and steps out into the aisle.

Naturally, you pause.

But then she says, “My carryon is in the overhead a few rows back.”

Her expectation was that everyone already standing in the aisle for 3+ rows would sit down so she could walk back and grab it.

I said, “Sorry, I think you’re going to need to wait until there’s space for you to walk back and grab it.”

She was clearly upset.

I walked by to exit as did everyone behind me.

I’d let her squish back past me to get her bag. What she does with other strangers is not my concern. I’ve had similar scenarios multiple times on international flights and people are usually nice and either pass the bag or just let the person squish themselves to where the bag is and then they just follow the de boarding line from there. It’s not that complicated.

There wasn’t any room to squish past me. There was a big person literally spooning me from behind. And the person seated next to me had already stood up (essentially in my aisle seat) and had their carryon in my seat. I was in the aisle with my carry on in front of me.

Had I asked everyone to back up, return to their seats,etc so I could move back into my seat I don’t think anyone would have listened.

“You’re welcome to get past me if you can, but it feels pretty tight.” This is not hard. Not sure what the issue was with you.

I led with “sorry but I think you’ll need to wait until you can get past” precisely because there wasn’t any room for her to pass. Same difference. I literally couldn’t move since someone had already stood up and taken my seat so there wasn’t any way for her to go around me. (I’m average size; she was not small.)

No, it’s not the “same difference,” since you can only speak for yourself. Your first response makes it sound like you were speaking for the whole line behind you. “Sorry.”

Typically, this is what happens:

1. The aisle is filled with people grabbing luggage and standing still. It’s one person from the row standing in the aisle—sometimes 2.

2. Then some people slide over to the aisle to take the space left by the person/people who moved into the aisle. They’re leaning out trying to grab carryons.

3. When someone’s bag is a row of two behind, it’s possible to look at the person standing in the aisle and ask them to pass the hello kitty bag in row 13 up.

4. When the person says it’s a few rows back and can’t easily say where it is, then I think they need to wait.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s all the overhead carryons that take forever. We take our time and by the time we’ve use the restroom our bags are waiting for us at baggage claim.

And by that point those of us who only brought carry ons and booked seats in the front of the plane are already relaxing at the hotel/back home.

Lol, I doubt this! I rarely check bags, but in no way am I already at home or my hotel by the time bags get to the claim. That is just hyperbole.

I lived in West Africa for a while and this was regularly the case but I have similarly waited for bags for 30 + minutes at multiple European airports, especially when arriving in the early morning hours,

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What are you talking about? This doesn’t happen. If someone is still sitting and the aisle is free, people walk. If the people in the rows ahead of you are up and waiting to exit, obviously people let them exit.

You are correct, and civilized.

OP is obviously that obnoxious person who tries to cut off those in the rows ahead of him.

Obnoxious and self-important. Undoubtedly drives the exact same way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:***What do you do in this scenario?

You are in the aisle seat in row 8. You stood up in the aisle and are patiently waiting with your small carry on (which you kept under your seat).

Everyone in front starts exiting and you move forward — and then the woman in the aisle seat ahead of you jumps up and steps out into the aisle.

Naturally, you pause.

But then she says, “My carryon is in the overhead a few rows back.”

Her expectation was that everyone already standing in the aisle for 3+ rows would sit down so she could walk back and grab it.

I said, “Sorry, I think you’re going to need to wait until there’s space for you to walk back and grab it.”

She was clearly upset.

I walked by to exit as did everyone behind me.

She was upset, but you and others still got to move forward. Yes? So…and what? You can’t control the feelings and expectations and others. Her “upset” did not prevent you and others from deplaning. What are you looking for here, for strangers to tell you how to control the feelings of other strangers?

I’m asking if I should have sat down and let her try to pass a few rows down the aisle or if I was correct in moving forward.

She said some pretty unkind things to me as I moved on, and she was still fussing about it (and me personally) in baggage claim. (Along the lines of my “privilege” and the fact that we both ended up at baggage claim waiting.)

My thinking was this: even if I sit down and let her pass, she would then need to convince 3+ aisles behind us to sit still and let her grab her bag. Fat chance that would happen.

Again…OK. You had your “thinking” about the situation, and she had hers. Her “fussing” didn’t prevent you from doing anything, and yeah, you choosing to go past her didn’t get you anywhere: you ended up at the same baggage claim at the same time, waiting. So…what?

The thread is seemingly about plane etiquette when it comes to deboarding/deplaning.

Not sure why you think chiming in with “so what?” for specific scenarios is necessary.

I mean, “So what?” basically applies to every post on dcum.

Either respond to the question or move on.

I did respond, hunny. You don’t have to like what I say.

None of us does. Go away.

[NP]

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s all the overhead carryons that take forever. We take our time and by the time we’ve use the restroom our bags are waiting for us at baggage claim.

And are too big. I wish airlines would enforce the size requirements.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, if grandma is not moving so fast because she's been buckled to a chair for six hours, I'm going to cut her some slack and wait for her to put her hips back into joint so she can catch up to her group.

You write well!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s all the overhead carryons that take forever. We take our time and by the time we’ve use the restroom our bags are waiting for us at baggage claim.

And by that point those of us who only brought carry ons and booked seats in the front of the plane are already relaxing at the hotel/back home.

Lol, I doubt this! I rarely check bags, but in no way am I already at home or my hotel by the time bags get to the claim. That is just hyperbole.

I lived in West Africa for a while and this was regularly the case but I have similarly waited for bags for 30 + minutes at multiple European airports, especially when arriving in the early morning hours,

In domestic US airports it’s under 15 minutes most places I’ve been.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:***What do you do in this scenario?

You are in the aisle seat in row 8. You stood up in the aisle and are patiently waiting with your small carry on (which you kept under your seat).

Everyone in front starts exiting and you move forward — and then the woman in the aisle seat ahead of you jumps up and steps out into the aisle.

Naturally, you pause.

But then she says, “My carryon is in the overhead a few rows back.”

Her expectation was that everyone already standing in the aisle for 3+ rows would sit down so she could walk back and grab it.

I said, “Sorry, I think you’re going to need to wait until there’s space for you to walk back and grab it.”

She was clearly upset.

I walked by to exit as did everyone behind me.

That lady is an idiot! No way in the world would I accommodate her. You were 100% right, PP.

I agree the lady should not have expected people to wait and sit back down. That's insane. But if the compartment was close enough, and the bag not too onerous, most people have seen on planes will offer to get the bag and pass it up.

But seriously, no point in rushing off the plane; I think for many people, though, it's anxiety that makes them act like prisoners trying to escape death row.

I travel routinely for work, and it’s mostly older men and women who rush off and immediately go to the restroom.

I was on a flight last week and a woman literally said, “Move it, people! I need to pee!”

I thought it was hilarious. But she was pushing past people and quite aggressive.

But planes gave bathrooms.

So their “emergency” is self-inflicted.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What did OP do that was so terrible? Good grief. Is being annoyed so bad? He said he wasn’t pushing or even saying anything. He isn’t annoyed at the slow people. He’s annoyed at the White Saviors who virtue signal by holding everyone up behind him to wait on someone who isn’t even ready to get up.

I hate virtue signalers. They are my pet peeve. Proper who love to make a show about how progressive and kind they are. Just move your butt along and get off the damned plane. Save your performance for when I’m not stuck behind your super kind butt.

Maybe they're just actually kind?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:***What do you do in this scenario?

You are in the aisle seat in row 8. You stood up in the aisle and are patiently waiting with your small carry on (which you kept under your seat).

Everyone in front starts exiting and you move forward — and then the woman in the aisle seat ahead of you jumps up and steps out into the aisle.

Naturally, you pause.

But then she says, “My carryon is in the overhead a few rows back.”

Her expectation was that everyone already standing in the aisle for 3+ rows would sit down so she could walk back and grab it.

I said, “Sorry, I think you’re going to need to wait until there’s space for you to walk back and grab it.”

She was clearly upset.

I walked by to exit as did everyone behind me.

I've had this happen many times with people in the very front row on Southwest who have to store their bags and find there's no room in the first bin. Normally, that person calls to someone near the bin where their bag is and asks them to bring it forward. Usually works.

Trying to picture this scenario. Person yells back several rows to a stranger, "you there, in the pink shirt! please grab my carryon from the bin above you? and then they yell back a description and location of their carryon?