Teacher fired, charged with rape at gilman

[Anonymous]

Old DMV family here. We’ve seen all the scandals from NCS to Gilman to TJ to Georgetown Prep. This one won’t take down the school. Schools learn, move on, and ultimately most kids have good enough experiences that most families still want them. The victims will be the kids who are harmed.

There are lessons to be learned here for the benefit of all. The school will be made better for all with the right lessons, worse with the wrong ones. Having seen Gilman, I give it a good chance they’ll take the right ones.

The victims. I hope something good can be done for them.

[Anonymous]

Okay here is the info :
on the morning of MLK day a parent called the head of US and reported his son has had inappropriate contact with Bendann. The head of US called the head of school immediately and the head of school talked to parent and put Bendann on leave that day. They investigated for a few days and then fired him and notified all the parents and young alums from calsses 2008-2022, and gave the info for CPS. The HOS did not know about the sex abuse/rape/arrest until it hit news Friday. That victim went straight to CPS. The school still does not know who it is, it is important to note that its a separate victim than the one initially.
The school is still scrambling etc. and working to communicate and get their head around everything and they have only known about physical abuse for 6 days now. As a current parent they are holding virtual town halls all week to support etc. and imagine there are many more victims.

[Anonymous]

[quote=Anonymous]Okay here is the info :
on the morning of MLK day a parent called the head of US and reported his son has had inappropriate contact with Bendann. The head of US called the head of school immediately and the head of school talked to parent and put Bendann on leave that day. They investigated for a few days and then fired him and notified all the parents and young alums from calsses 2008-2022, and gave the info for CPS. The HOS did not know about the sex abuse/rape/arrest until it hit news Friday. That victim went straight to CPS. The school still does not know who it is, it is important to note that its a separate victim than the one initially.
The school is still scrambling etc. and working to communicate and get their head around everything and they have only known about physical abuse for 6 days now. As a current parent they are holding virtual town halls all week to support etc. and imagine there are many more victims.
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That’s the info the school is choosing to share. Civil lawsuits and police investigation will unearth whether any teachers parents or students gave notice to the school that Chris was giving alcohol to kids, acting inappropriately etc. it’s not all about a massive coverup. That’s unlikely. What’s more likely is the school failed to follow their own policies and turned a blind eye to community members saying hey, somethings not right here. And they will pay through the nose for that failure.

[Anonymous]

Psychologist here. As a PP noted, people don’t suddenly become pedophiles at age 38. Since this teacher was employed by Gilman for 15 years, unfortunately there will be many victims. These 2 boys are just the tip of the iceberg.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Psychologist here. As a PP noted, people don’t suddenly become pedophiles at age 38. Since this teacher was employed by Gilman for 15 years, unfortunately there will be many victims. These 2 boys are just the tip of the iceberg.

Thank you for your post.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:https://news.yahoo.com/fired-gilman-school-teacher-arrested-211700887.html

At the bottom of this article it say decades of sexual abuse has been investigated at the school, from 1950-2008.
Awful and how is it still a school?

I just clicked on the link in the bottom of the article. Reading about Gilman’s last exposed sex abuse makes this even more enraging. So the very same headmaster is still there? The rapist was already employed at the school back then, in 2007? Nothing will change when the board chooses to keep the same administrators who failed to keep the students safe from teachers who rape children, and failed yet again after all the promises to “monitor” teacher student activities. Parents need to demand the headmaster’s immediate dismissal.

[Anonymous]

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Okay here is the info :
on the morning of MLK day a parent called the head of US and reported his son has had inappropriate contact with Bendann. The head of US called the head of school immediately and the head of school talked to parent and put Bendann on leave that day. They investigated for a few days and then fired him and notified all the parents and young alums from calsses 2008-2022, and gave the info for CPS. The HOS did not know about the sex abuse/rape/arrest until it hit news Friday. That victim went straight to CPS. The school still does not know who it is, it is important to note that its a separate victim than the one initially.
The school is still scrambling etc. and working to communicate and get their head around everything and they have only known about physical abuse for 6 days now. As a current parent they are holding virtual town halls all week to support etc. and imagine there are many more vict ims.
[/quote]

That’s the info the school is choosing to share. Civil lawsuits and police investigation will unearth whether any teachers parents or students gave notice to the school that Chris was giving alcohol to kids, acting inappropriately etc. it’s not all about a massive coverup. That’s unlikely. What’s more likely is the school failed to follow their own policies and turned a blind eye to community members saying hey, somethings not right here. And they will pay through the nose for that failure.[/quote]

If indeed they did fail in that way then they will deserve to pay for it. But I don’t know that, and neither do you. I don’t get this rush to judgment before we actually have any facts.

All we know for sure at this time is that boys have been hurt and a community is in pain. I’m not sure what is served by all the speculation of what “MUST” have happened. And there seems to be vicious pleasure being taken by some commenters here in how Gilman (or, as the most frequent commenter seems to like to call it, gilman) will surely suffer. I don’t understand it and it would be really nice if you stopped.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:https://news.yahoo.com/fired-gilman-school-teacher-arrested-211700887.html

At the bottom of this article it say decades of sexual abuse has been investigated at the school, from 1950-2008.
Awful and how is it still a school?

I just clicked on the link in the bottom of the article. Reading about Gilman’s last exposed sex abuse makes this even more enraging. So the very same headmaster is still there? The rapist was already employed at the school back then, in 2007? Nothing will change when the board chooses to keep the same administrators who failed to keep the students safe from teachers who rape children, and failed yet again after all the promises to “monitor” teacher student activities. Parents need to demand the headmaster’s immediate dismissal.

Absolutely not. He’s a wonderful man who is devastated by these events. I don’t believe for one second that he knew about abuse and did nothing. Parents who know who he is as a person are not speaking such nonsense. -current Gilman parent

[Anonymous]

Here’s what we actually know… boys have been raped by a teacher who had been there for 15 years. Teacher had been buying the children alcohol. Teacher was forcing the boys to run naked in public. The father of said teacher sat on the school board.

Here’s what any professional working with child sex abuse knows: over the course of 15 years, there have been many, many victims. Perpetrators are relentless with their grooming techniques. Victims often suffer their entire lives trying to cope with the trauma of child sex abuse. They’re often unable to ever establish healthy intimate relationships.

Presumably, parents expressed concern when their children arrived home smelling of alcohol, after getting driven by the teacher. Detectives are investigating.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:https://news.yahoo.com/fired-gilman-school-teacher-arrested-211700887.html

At the bottom of this article it say decades of sexual abuse has been investigated at the school, from 1950-2008.
Awful and how is it still a school?

I just clicked on the link in the bottom of the article. Reading about Gilman’s last exposed sex abuse makes this even more enraging. So the very same headmaster is still there? The rapist was already employed at the school back then, in 2007? Nothing will change when the board chooses to keep the same administrators who failed to keep the students safe from teachers who rape children, and failed yet again after all the promises to “monitor” teacher student activities. Parents need to demand the headmaster’s immediate dismissal.

Absolutely not. He’s a wonderful man who is devastated by these events. I don’t believe for one second that he knew about abuse and did nothing. Parents who know who he is as a person are not speaking such nonsense. -current Gilman parent

1. Not his job to definitively “know” anything. He’s not an investigator. It was his job to immediately notify police when he heard the first rumor regarding potential illegal behavior of the teacher.
2. It was his job to enforce school policy instituted specifically to avoid repeated sex abuse perpetrated by its teachers. He knew teacher was “babysitting” students in their homes and driving them around in his car.
3. This isn’t his first rodeo. See news reports detailing the horrifying sex abuse that was discovered last time. It appears none of the perpetrators were ever held accountable. How could that be?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:https://news.yahoo.com/fired-gilman-school-teacher-arrested-211700887.html

At the bottom of this article it say decades of sexual abuse has been investigated at the school, from 1950-2008.
Awful and how is it still a school?

I just clicked on the link in the bottom of the article. Reading about Gilman’s last exposed sex abuse makes this even more enraging. So the very same headmaster is still there? The rapist was already employed at the school back then, in 2007? Nothing will change when the board chooses to keep the same administrators who failed to keep the students safe from teachers who rape children, and failed yet again after all the promises to “monitor” teacher student activities. Parents need to demand the headmaster’s immediate dismissal.

Absolutely not. He’s a wonderful man who is devastated by these events. I don’t believe for one second that he knew about abuse and did nothing. Parents who know who he is as a person are not speaking such nonsense. -current Gilman parent

1. Not his job to definitively “know” anything. He’s not an investigator. It was his job to immediately notify police when he heard the first rumor regarding potential illegal behavior of the teacher.
2. It was his job to enforce school policy instituted specifically to avoid repeated sex abuse perpetrated by its teachers. He knew teacher was “babysitting” students in their homes and driving them around in his car.
3. This isn’t his first rodeo. See news reports detailing the horrifying sex abuse that was discovered last time. It appears none of the perpetrators were ever held accountable. How could that be?

Well, if you read the actual information, you would know that one of the perpetrators was dead by the time his deeds were discovered, and the other one committed his abuses in the 1950s. I assume that the time that passed would have made prosecution difficult.

I don’t understand why you are pushing this story about willful negligence, when there had been no evidence of such. As an early commenter said, he immediately notified CPS. Not sure why you think he didn’t.

Our recent call with parents, he urged anyone with any information to contact CPS. That’s not what a man trying to execute a cover-up would say.

I really can’t figure out your motive here for posting over and over about how Gilman must’ve known and is culpable and going down in flames blah blah. I can only assume you have some history with the school that causes you to take such relish in something terrible that happened to their community. Please find something else to do with your time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Here’s what we actually know… boys have been raped by a teacher who had been there for 15 years. Teacher had been buying the children alcohol. Teacher was forcing the boys to run naked in public. The father of said teacher sat on the school board.

Here’s what any professional working with child sex abuse knows: over the course of 15 years, there have been many, many victims. Perpetrators are relentless with their grooming techniques. Victims often suffer their entire lives trying to cope with the trauma of child sex abuse. They’re often unable to ever establish healthy intimate relationships.

Presumably, parents expressed concern when their children arrived home smelling of alcohol, after getting driven by the teacher. Detectives are investigating.

For 22:09
Everyone knows it’s pretty much near impossible for this to go on for 15 years without anyone knowing anything. Families of neighboring schools are saying “everyone knew”. Kids talk about things like this. I wish someone had to guts to report. People must be held accountable this time. Or the sex abuse will just keep happening. sp

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:https://news.yahoo.com/fired-gilman-school-teacher-arrested-211700887.html

At the bottom of this article it say decades of sexual abuse has been investigated at the school, from 1950-2008.
Awful and how is it still a school?

I just clicked on the link in the bottom of the article. Reading about Gilman’s last exposed sex abuse makes this even more enraging. So the very same headmaster is still there? The rapist was already employed at the school back then, in 2007? Nothing will change when the board chooses to keep the same administrators who failed to keep the students safe from teachers who rape children, and failed yet again after all the promises to “monitor” teacher student activities. Parents need to demand the headmaster’s immediate dismissal.

No, the current headmaster was not headmaster in 2007.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:https://news.yahoo.com/fired-gilman-school-teacher-arrested-211700887.html

At the bottom of this article it say decades of sexual abuse has been investigated at the school, from 1950-2008.
Awful and how is it still a school?

I just clicked on the link in the bottom of the article. Reading about Gilman’s last exposed sex abuse makes this even more enraging. So the very same headmaster is still there? The rapist was already employed at the school back then, in 2007? Nothing will change when the board chooses to keep the same administrators who failed to keep the students safe from teachers who rape children, and failed yet again after all the promises to “monitor” teacher student activities. Parents need to demand the headmaster’s immediate dismissal.

No, the current headmaster was not headmaster in 2007.

Why not clarify his proper title at the time?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Psychologist here. As a PP noted, people don’t suddenly become pedophiles at age 38. Since this teacher was employed by Gilman for 15 years, unfortunately there will be many victims. These 2 boys are just the tip of the iceberg.