Teacher fired, charged with rape at gilman

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:He was giving rides to students to and from parties where they had been drinking. So it wasn’t on school property.

The school is MEGA implicated if there was a whiff of this amongst administration. They were gilman students at the to
E he was doing this. I don’t know how you can send your sons to gilman after hearing this news.

Because you know that crap like this can happen anywhere, and you’re fooling yourself if you think that avoiding one particular school is the answer.

It’s terrible, but I’m satisfied that Gilman acted swiftly and transparently as soon as they knew about it. Not sure what else can be asked.

I’d be more sympathetic to this if gilman did get outed for decades of student on teacher abuse from the 70s-90s

ETA: did not. The point is this: gilman has a history of institutional awareness of - and covering up of - teacher on student abuse.

[Anonymous]

Are any of the other Baltimore privates accepting apps this late for the US? We have two sons (one in 8th and one in 6th) and we do not wish to continue at gilman next year in light of this development.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are any of the other Baltimore privates accepting apps this late for the US? We have two sons (one in 8th and one in 6th) and we do not wish to continue at gilman next year in light of this development.

Lololol. First of all, I 100% think you’re a troll. But on the slim chance you’re not: good luck with that. Let us know how it goes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are any of the other Baltimore privates accepting apps this late for the US? We have two sons (one in 8th and one in 6th) and we do not wish to continue at gilman next year in light of this development.

Lololol. First of all, I 100% think you’re a troll. But on the slim chance you’re not: good luck with that. Let us know how it goes.

100% not a troll. Why would you think that?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are any of the other Baltimore privates accepting apps this late for the US? We have two sons (one in 8th and one in 6th) and we do not wish to continue at gilman next year in light of this development.

Lololol. First of all, I 100% think you’re a troll. But on the slim chance you’re not: good luck with that. Let us know how it goes.

Fwiw my neighbor is in admissions at McDonough and said they’ve gotten several emails from gilman families wanting to inquire about a move.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Oh. Ok, he’s being charged with rape. Geez. His wife was very nice.

Why are you making stuff up? He’s not married

Is he gay?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are any of the other Baltimore privates accepting apps this late for the US? We have two sons (one in 8th and one in 6th) and we do not wish to continue at gilman next year in light of this development.

Lololol. First of all, I 100% think you’re a troll. But on the slim chance you’re not: good luck with that. Let us know how it goes.

100% not a troll. Why would you think that?

Because you’ve posted at least 7 times on the thread in an incredibly recognizable style, all screaming about how terrible the school is. I bet you’re a bored teen from another school, or otherwise someone with a grudge.

This was an awful, awful thing, but as far as I can tell Gilman acted quickly and appropriately. They seem to have learned their lesson from the prior cases, one of which was in the 1950s and one of which was 1980s-early 2000s. I am satisfied with their response and don’t feel my son is in any more danger there than in any other school. Maybe less, because they are taking NO chances. Locally some people complained about how quickly Bendann was fired “on just an accusation, without process”. They did the right thing, and did it fast.

-Gilman parent

[Anonymous]

Incredible that this 38 year old man got away with working there for 15 years!
News Flash:
Rapists do not suddenly start raping young boys at age 38.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are any of the other Baltimore privates accepting apps this late for the US? We have two sons (one in 8th and one in 6th) and we do not wish to continue at gilman next year in light of this development.

I’m sure you can get in somewhere.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:There were two other cases of abuse at the school. One from 1950 and one from 1990. it’s a really wonderful school but this story is just so awful. We as a community are devastated.

This. And not just a wonderful school but a small one, so everyone knows everyone. So my heart goes out to the person who was able to step forward, and help this story come to an end. And I am so sad to think that someone my son probably knew, had to experience this. I hope he gets to keep his anonymity, until or unless he doesn't want to. Not sure how that works but kid, whoever you are, I admire you and I wish you the best. Mom hugs to you.

In cases like this one, there is often more than one victim. It is heartbreaking, and must have taken a lot of courage to come forward.

I think as a parent, this makes me want to know how we can better protect our kids against these kind of predators. This guy must have been pretty "nice" on the surface to gain the kids' trust. I think kids and adults kind of expect for there to be more obvious warning signs.

Kids know which teachers are “creepy” or “weird”. Adults tend to ignore the “rumors” just because they haven’t seen the clear evidence of rape.

He was actually PROVIDING alcohol to the students on the weekends!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Incredible that this 38 year old man got away with working there for 15 years!
News Flash:
Rapists do not suddenly start raping young boys at age 38.

I guarantee he was likely molested when he, himself, attended the school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Incredible that this 38 year old man got away with working there for 15 years!
News Flash:
Rapists do not suddenly start raping young boys at age 38.

I guarantee he was likely molested when he, himself, attended the school.

So? What’s your point?

[Anonymous]

Is this one of those big 3 schools you freaks talk about all the time/

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Incredible that this 38 year old man got away with working there for 15 years!
News Flash:
Rapists do not suddenly start raping young boys at age 38.

I guarantee he was likely molested when he, himself, attended the school.

So? What’s your point?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There were two other cases of abuse at the school. One from 1950 and one from 1990. it’s a really wonderful school but this story is just so awful. We as a community are devastated.

This. And not just a wonderful school but a small one, so everyone knows everyone. So my heart goes out to the person who was able to step forward, and help this story come to an end. And I am so sad to think that someone my son probably knew, had to experience this. I hope he gets to keep his anonymity, until or unless he doesn't want to. Not sure how that works but kid, whoever you are, I admire you and I wish you the best. Mom hugs to you.

In cases like this one, there is often more than one victim. It is heartbreaking, and must have taken a lot of courage to come forward.

I think as a parent, this makes me want to know how we can better protect our kids against these kind of predators. This guy must have been pretty "nice" on the surface to gain the kids' trust. I think kids and adults kind of expect for there to be more obvious warning signs.

Kids know which teachers are “creepy” or “weird”. Adults tend to ignore the “rumors” just because they haven’t seen the clear evidence of rape.

He was actually PROVIDING alcohol to the students on the weekends!!!

Successful predators often don’t come across as creepy or weird, at least not until they already have the victim in their clutches. I wouldn’t let my kid near an obviously creepy dude but the point is that we need to teach kids that there are boundaries that are totally inappropriate even if the adult doesn’t seem creepy at all.