I’m starting my late July birthday child (boy) in kindergarten on time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is an interesting conversation to me because I'm expecting a boy this June, and granted I haven't met my baby yet, let alone know what he'll be like developmentally as a child, but it wouldn't occur to me to *not* have not have him start Kindergarten at age 5, unless he were substantially behind in preschool. I live in MD, so K is the first year we'll not have to pay for childcare, and I will certainly be ready to take advantage of that. And aside from that, I just don't want to delay him from growing up, being with his peers, etc., again of course assuming he's within normal range for developmental milestones.

Most people don't redshirt. Kindergarten classes full of mostly 7 year olds don't really exist in the real world.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is an interesting conversation to me because I'm expecting a boy this June, and granted I haven't met my baby yet, let alone know what he'll be like developmentally as a child, but it wouldn't occur to me to *not* have not have him start Kindergarten at age 5, unless he were substantially behind in preschool. I live in MD, so K is the first year we'll not have to pay for childcare, and I will certainly be ready to take advantage of that. And aside from that, I just don't want to delay him from growing up, being with his peers, etc., again of course assuming he's within normal range for developmental milestones.

Most people don't redshirt. Kindergarten classes full of mostly 7 year olds don't really exist in the real world.

I’m the May redshirt. My July baby I sent on time. She was clearly ready. Even now I don’t question it but:
-she complains about being short and the youngest in class
-she goes to MS next year and the issue hitting her hard
-I still wouldn’t change things, and I would have been able to or thought of it too hard back then. We did make a decision but not a hard-fought one. We always figured we could hold her back if there was an issue. No issue, so we proceeded into 1st, 2nd. She’s top of the class but it obviously is something she thinks about.

I was an October (young) so I know her pain. And im short too

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is an interesting conversation to me because I'm expecting a boy this June, and granted I haven't met my baby yet, let alone know what he'll be like developmentally as a child, but it wouldn't occur to me to *not* have not have him start Kindergarten at age 5, unless he were substantially behind in preschool. I live in MD, so K is the first year we'll not have to pay for childcare, and I will certainly be ready to take advantage of that. And aside from that, I just don't want to delay him from growing up, being with his peers, etc., again of course assuming he's within normal range for developmental milestones.

Most people don't redshirt. Kindergarten classes full of mostly 7 year olds don't really exist in the real world.

I’m the May redshirt. My July baby I sent on time. She was clearly ready. Even now I don’t question it but:
-she complains about being short and the youngest in class
-she goes to MS next year and the issue hitting her hard
-I still wouldn’t change things, and I would have been able to or thought of it too hard back then. We did make a decision but not a hard-fought one. We always figured we could hold her back if there was an issue. No issue, so we proceeded into 1st, 2nd. She’s top of the class but it obviously is something she thinks about.

I was an October (young) so I know her pain. And im short too

Me again. I am glad I went when I did. I always think of it as one more year of salary over my lifetime!

However, I have always been socially a step behind. Always. I didn’t realize until my 30s why I may have always felt off.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is an interesting conversation to me because I'm expecting a boy this June, and granted I haven't met my baby yet, let alone know what he'll be like developmentally as a child, but it wouldn't occur to me to *not* have not have him start Kindergarten at age 5, unless he were substantially behind in preschool. I live in MD, so K is the first year we'll not have to pay for childcare, and I will certainly be ready to take advantage of that. And aside from that, I just don't want to delay him from growing up, being with his peers, etc., again of course assuming he's within normal range for developmental milestones.

Most people don't redshirt. Kindergarten classes full of mostly 7 year olds don't really exist in the real world.

Doesn’t need to be full of mostly 7 year olds. No 7 year old should be in kindergarten. Apart from you who is clearly behind.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is an interesting conversation to me because I'm expecting a boy this June, and granted I haven't met my baby yet, let alone know what he'll be like developmentally as a child, but it wouldn't occur to me to *not* have not have him start Kindergarten at age 5, unless he were substantially behind in preschool. I live in MD, so K is the first year we'll not have to pay for childcare, and I will certainly be ready to take advantage of that. And aside from that, I just don't want to delay him from growing up, being with his peers, etc., again of course assuming he's within normal range for developmental milestones.

Most people don't redshirt. Kindergarten classes full of mostly 7 year olds don't really exist in the real world.

I’m the May redshirt. My July baby I sent on time. She was clearly ready. Even now I don’t question it but:
-she complains about being short and the youngest in class
-she goes to MS next year and the issue hitting her hard
-I still wouldn’t change things, and I would have been able to or thought of it too hard back then. We did make a decision but not a hard-fought one. We always figured we could hold her back if there was an issue. No issue, so we proceeded into 1st, 2nd. She’s top of the class but it obviously is something she thinks about.

I was an October (young) so I know her pain. And im short too

I have a May birthday, was sent on time and am 5'2". Staying back a year wouldn't have made me taller. Someone will always be the tallest, shortest, oldest, and youngest. I never gave a second thought to my age or height. My parents aren't tall so it was a pretty foregone conclusion that I wouldn't be either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is an interesting conversation to me because I'm expecting a boy this June, and granted I haven't met my baby yet, let alone know what he'll be like developmentally as a child, but it wouldn't occur to me to *not* have not have him start Kindergarten at age 5, unless he were substantially behind in preschool. I live in MD, so K is the first year we'll not have to pay for childcare, and I will certainly be ready to take advantage of that. And aside from that, I just don't want to delay him from growing up, being with his peers, etc., again of course assuming he's within normal range for developmental milestones.

Most people don't redshirt. Kindergarten classes full of mostly 7 year olds don't really exist in the real world.

I’m the May redshirt. My July baby I sent on time. She was clearly ready. Even now I don’t question it but:
-she complains about being short and the youngest in class
-she goes to MS next year and the issue hitting her hard
-I still wouldn’t change things, and I would have been able to or thought of it too hard back then. We did make a decision but not a hard-fought one. We always figured we could hold her back if there was an issue. No issue, so we proceeded into 1st, 2nd. She’s top of the class but it obviously is something she thinks about.

I was an October (young) so I know her pain. And im short too

I have a May birthday, was sent on time and am 5'2". Staying back a year wouldn't have made me taller. Someone will always be the tallest, shortest, oldest, and youngest. I never gave a second thought to my age or height. My parents aren't tall so it was a pretty foregone conclusion that I wouldn't be either.

Right, I would clearly always be the shortest. Others being a 6mo - 1 year older than me made the difference greater.

Short didn’t bother me. Boys liked it.

I wasn’t bothered, my almost MS kid is bothered.

I don’t think that alone is a reason. However, my 4yo being short and redshirting him means he won’t be a GIANT kindergartner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is an interesting conversation to me because I'm expecting a boy this June, and granted I haven't met my baby yet, let alone know what he'll be like developmentally as a child, but it wouldn't occur to me to *not* have not have him start Kindergarten at age 5, unless he were substantially behind in preschool. I live in MD, so K is the first year we'll not have to pay for childcare, and I will certainly be ready to take advantage of that. And aside from that, I just don't want to delay him from growing up, being with his peers, etc., again of course assuming he's within normal range for developmental milestones.

Most people don't redshirt. Kindergarten classes full of mostly 7 year olds don't really exist in the real world.

I’m the May redshirt. My July baby I sent on time. She was clearly ready. Even now I don’t question it but:
-she complains about being short and the youngest in class
-she goes to MS next year and the issue hitting her hard
-I still wouldn’t change things, and I would have been able to or thought of it too hard back then. We did make a decision but not a hard-fought one. We always figured we could hold her back if there was an issue. No issue, so we proceeded into 1st, 2nd. She’s top of the class but it obviously is something she thinks about.

I was an October (young) so I know her pain. And im short too

I have a May birthday, was sent on time and am 5'2". Staying back a year wouldn't have made me taller. Someone will always be the tallest, shortest, oldest, and youngest. I never gave a second thought to my age or height. My parents aren't tall so it was a pretty foregone conclusion that I wouldn't be either.

Right, I would clearly always be the shortest. Others being a 6mo - 1 year older than me made the difference greater.

Short didn’t bother me. Boys liked it.

I wasn’t bothered, my almost MS kid is bothered.

I don’t think that alone is a reason. However, my 4yo being short and redshirting him means he won’t be a GIANT kindergartner.

If it wasn't her height she'd probably find something else to feel insecure about. Hair, breasts, weight, acne, glasses, nose, etc etc. This is why MS just sucks in general. Most people feel insecure and fixate on things they don't like about themselves.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is an interesting conversation to me because I'm expecting a boy this June, and granted I haven't met my baby yet, let alone know what he'll be like developmentally as a child, but it wouldn't occur to me to *not* have not have him start Kindergarten at age 5, unless he were substantially behind in preschool. I live in MD, so K is the first year we'll not have to pay for childcare, and I will certainly be ready to take advantage of that. And aside from that, I just don't want to delay him from growing up, being with his peers, etc., again of course assuming he's within normal range for developmental milestones.

Most people don't redshirt. Kindergarten classes full of mostly 7 year olds don't really exist in the real world.

I’m the May redshirt. My July baby I sent on time. She was clearly ready. Even now I don’t question it but:
-she complains about being short and the youngest in class
-she goes to MS next year and the issue hitting her hard
-I still wouldn’t change things, and I would have been able to or thought of it too hard back then. We did make a decision but not a hard-fought one. We always figured we could hold her back if there was an issue. No issue, so we proceeded into 1st, 2nd. She’s top of the class but it obviously is something she thinks about.

I was an October (young) so I know her pain. And im short too

PP here and my 1st grade daughters best friend will turn 8 before my daughter is 7. And my daughter is a head taller than her. Younger does not equal shorter always!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is an interesting conversation to me because I'm expecting a boy this June, and granted I haven't met my baby yet, let alone know what he'll be like developmentally as a child, but it wouldn't occur to me to *not* have not have him start Kindergarten at age 5, unless he were substantially behind in preschool. I live in MD, so K is the first year we'll not have to pay for childcare, and I will certainly be ready to take advantage of that. And aside from that, I just don't want to delay him from growing up, being with his peers, etc., again of course assuming he's within normal range for developmental milestones.

Most people don't redshirt. Kindergarten classes full of mostly 7 year olds don't really exist in the real world.

Doesn’t need to be full of mostly 7 year olds. No 7 year old should be in kindergarten. Apart from you who is clearly behind.

My DD had a 7 year old in her kindergarten class last year. He turned 7 in March. Ridiculous. Meanwhile she’ll be fine with 1st before she’s 7. Why not just let 8 year olds into kindergarten while you’re at it??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is an interesting conversation to me because I'm expecting a boy this June, and granted I haven't met my baby yet, let alone know what he'll be like developmentally as a child, but it wouldn't occur to me to *not* have not have him start Kindergarten at age 5, unless he were substantially behind in preschool. I live in MD, so K is the first year we'll not have to pay for childcare, and I will certainly be ready to take advantage of that. And aside from that, I just don't want to delay him from growing up, being with his peers, etc., again of course assuming he's within normal range for developmental milestones.

Most people don't redshirt. Kindergarten classes full of mostly 7 year olds don't really exist in the real world.

Doesn’t need to be full of mostly 7 year olds. No 7 year old should be in kindergarten. Apart from you who is clearly behind.

My DD had a 7 year old in her kindergarten class last year. He turned 7 in March. Ridiculous. Meanwhile she’ll be fine with 1st before she’s 7. Why not just let 8 year olds into kindergarten while you’re at it??

Only 1? Get a grip

[Anonymous]

To the poster who is saying she is holding her May kid back, this is exactly the issue.... because of all of you doing this, those of us with June kids who have not done it, now have kids who do not have same age peers. Your child is now 13 months older than mine and in the same grade. So your quest to make sure your child is at the top of everything now makes my kid who is 13 months younger have to keep up academically, socially and athletically with your child who jas been developing, etc for 13 months more. This may not be a problem for all kids bit its a problem for those kids who are 13 months younger who may have issues themselves with maturity etc!

[Anonymous]

This thread should just end because the people who dont understand never will and the people who do understand are labeled "anti red shirters."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To the poster who is saying she is holding her May kid back, this is exactly the issue.... because of all of you doing this, those of us with June kids who have not done it, now have kids who do not have same age peers. Your child is now 13 months older than mine and in the same grade. So your quest to make sure your child is at the top of everything now makes my kid who is 13 months younger have to keep up academically, socially and athletically with your child who jas been developing, etc for 13 months more. This may not be a problem for all kids bit its a problem for those kids who are 13 months younger who may have issues themselves with maturity etc!

Most people know these kids on top are on top due to age and not necessarily smarter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It sounds like you're questioning your decision if you're posting here. Why are you not confident?

She asked what is she not seeing. Why are people surprised her son is starting on time. I don’t read a lack of confidence.

No. She’s providing a counterpoint to the umpteen posts made on DCUM justifying and rejustifying redshirting their kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread should just end because the people who dont understand never will and the people who do understand are labeled "anti red shirters."

If you need to hold back your child, they need to be seen by a developmental ped, get evaluated and into services.