I’m starting my late July birthday child (boy) in kindergarten on time.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It sounds like you're questioning your decision if you're posting here. Why are you not confident?

She asked what is she not seeing. Why are people surprised her son is starting on time. I don’t read a lack of confidence.

Well, my July birthday boy went to public prek instead of kindergarten on time. He had been home for a two years due to Covid and developmentally delayed. Pre k was the best option for him. Just a different point of view

Maybe you should work with him more or get home evaluated and help. No reason you should hold back. Having kids with younger peers makes them delayed.

[Anonymous]

I have a mid September DD and I plan to start her on time in VA. She can be immature at times but physically she is one of the tallest in her class so I imagine she would stick out in other ways if she were redshirted.

[Anonymous]

I can only speak to it from the perspective of having done the same with my son, who is now 28. His birthday is July 12, and he was in private school K-8 and then a magnet school. Socially he wasn't the strongest, but he's on the spectrum. He found his closest friends in high school. Academically, he thrived. Ended up getting a full ride to college, and now he earns over $200K in the computer field. He's healthy and happy. There's my anecdote for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DS is turning 6 in late July and also finishing up Kindergarten. Literally no one said anything to me about starting him on time. He's also particularly small for his age.

I think you might need to broaden your circle, as I think it's unusual to comment on this.

Your son is in public school, right? It’s different in the competitive private schools,

[Anonymous]

In my community it's the opposite, there is literally one boy who is red shirted who has an August birthday- but he is tall for his chronological age (so the tallest, easily, in first grade this year in his class since he is the oldest). He is also relatively bright, and very athletic. He stands out as clearly older, and there is every now and then a "... how old is he?" comment. All of the other August kids I know were sent on time (sept 1 cutoff). I have some sort of hard to shake grudge against the mom of this kid, because her kid is kind of exclusionary and not particularly nice towards my kid, who is a July boy who was sent on time so in his class but almost a year younger. He will say things like , "you can't come into my fort, I don't want to play with you" and invite in the older boys. I feel like he has a sort of "king of the castle" attitude and in my opinion it probably comes at least in part from being the oldest, tallest, and fastest kid in the class- because, no s***, he is supposed to be in the next grade up. I don't really think his attitude is going to do him a lot of favors in the future and I feel like his parents could have avoided it by just sending him on time, where he would have been middle of the pack in second grade.

[Anonymous]

This redshirting thing is nuts. I have a late November birthday and cutoff was December 1 back then so I got sent to K at age 4 because that was better than having to pay for daycare for my parents. It was completely fine. Did it kind of suck to not get my drivers license until I was in the 2nd half of my junior year of HS and to not turn 21 until I was a college senior, yeah, but there were others in the same boat and I didn’t struggle at all.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:DS is turning 6 in late July and also finishing up Kindergarten. Literally no one said anything to me about starting him on time. He's also particularly small for his age.

I think you might need to broaden your circle, as I think it's unusual to comment on this.

Your son is in public school, right? It’s different in the competitive private schools,

Why is it different? And the PP didn’t say what school their child is in.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DS is turning 6 in late July and also finishing up Kindergarten. Literally no one said anything to me about starting him on time. He's also particularly small for his age.

I think you might need to broaden your circle, as I think it's unusual to comment on this.

Your son is in public school, right? It’s different in the competitive private schools,

Okay, I'll bite...how?

Also are you seriously calling a 5 y.o. stupid?!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You need to ask the private school how many boys born in the spring or summer are redshirted. At my son’s private school they all are! He is born in April and is one of the youngest boys in his grade. He is in 6th grade and still is 11 (his birthday is in a couple of weeks). He just got invited to a birthday party next month for a boy turning 13. It is crazy the size difference and whose voice has changed between him and some of his classmates who are turning 13.

When your child who just turned 5 is wiggling in the rug and being compared to 6 year olds or is on the playground with 6 year olds and has a hard time keeping up then you will see the issue.

Yah that’s the problem.
I was overly confident like you and sent my late May boy on time and he’s the youngest kid in his class and grade level sports.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In my community it's the opposite, there is literally one boy who is red shirted who has an August birthday- but he is tall for his chronological age (so the tallest, easily, in first grade this year in his class since he is the oldest). He is also relatively bright, and very athletic. He stands out as clearly older, and there is every now and then a "... how old is he?" comment. All of the other August kids I know were sent on time (sept 1 cutoff). I have some sort of hard to shake grudge against the mom of this kid, because her kid is kind of exclusionary and not particularly nice towards my kid, who is a July boy who was sent on time so in his class but almost a year younger. He will say things like , "you can't come into my fort, I don't want to play with you" and invite in the older boys. I feel like he has a sort of "king of the castle" attitude and in my opinion it probably comes at least in part from being the oldest, tallest, and fastest kid in the class- because, no s***, he is supposed to be in the next grade up. I don't really think his attitude is going to do him a lot of favors in the future and I feel like his parents could have avoided it by just sending him on time, where he would have been middle of the pack in second grade.

That’s so interesting because we have the exact same dynamic in my class with the oldest kid who turned 7 in February.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In my community it's the opposite, there is literally one boy who is red shirted who has an August birthday- but he is tall for his chronological age (so the tallest, easily, in first grade this year in his class since he is the oldest). He is also relatively bright, and very athletic. He stands out as clearly older, and there is every now and then a "... how old is he?" comment. All of the other August kids I know were sent on time (sept 1 cutoff). I have some sort of hard to shake grudge against the mom of this kid, because her kid is kind of exclusionary and not particularly nice towards my kid, who is a July boy who was sent on time so in his class but almost a year younger. He will say things like , "you can't come into my fort, I don't want to play with you" and invite in the older boys. I feel like he has a sort of "king of the castle" attitude and in my opinion it probably comes at least in part from being the oldest, tallest, and fastest kid in the class- because, no s***, he is supposed to be in the next grade up. I don't really think his attitude is going to do him a lot of favors in the future and I feel like his parents could have avoided it by just sending him on time, where he would have been middle of the pack in second grade.

Wow you’re incredibly judgmental of a child. Sad for you

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DS is turning 6 in late July and also finishing up Kindergarten. Literally no one said anything to me about starting him on time. He's also particularly small for his age.

I think you might need to broaden your circle, as I think it's unusual to comment on this.

OP is just one of DCUMs insane anti redshirters. I suspect these conversations are entirely imaginary. It is not a conversation that is has among normal, non insane people.

I didn’t redshirt either, FWIW.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In my community it's the opposite, there is literally one boy who is red shirted who has an August birthday- but he is tall for his chronological age (so the tallest, easily, in first grade this year in his class since he is the oldest). He is also relatively bright, and very athletic. He stands out as clearly older, and there is every now and then a "... how old is he?" comment. All of the other August kids I know were sent on time (sept 1 cutoff). I have some sort of hard to shake grudge against the mom of this kid, because her kid is kind of exclusionary and not particularly nice towards my kid, who is a July boy who was sent on time so in his class but almost a year younger. He will say things like , "you can't come into my fort, I don't want to play with you" and invite in the older boys. I feel like he has a sort of "king of the castle" attitude and in my opinion it probably comes at least in part from being the oldest, tallest, and fastest kid in the class- because, no s***, he is supposed to be in the next grade up. I don't really think his attitude is going to do him a lot of favors in the future and I feel like his parents could have avoided it by just sending him on time, where he would have been middle of the pack in second grade.

Wow you’re incredibly judgmental of a child. Sad for you

+1

That is really sad. I have a hard time imagining what sort of mental state I would have to be in to write that kind of nasty rant about a child. It wouldn’t be a good one, that for sure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In my community it's the opposite, there is literally one boy who is red shirted who has an August birthday- but he is tall for his chronological age (so the tallest, easily, in first grade this year in his class since he is the oldest). He is also relatively bright, and very athletic. He stands out as clearly older, and there is every now and then a "... how old is he?" comment. All of the other August kids I know were sent on time (sept 1 cutoff). I have some sort of hard to shake grudge against the mom of this kid, because her kid is kind of exclusionary and not particularly nice towards my kid, who is a July boy who was sent on time so in his class but almost a year younger. He will say things like , "you can't come into my fort, I don't want to play with you" and invite in the older boys. I feel like he has a sort of "king of the castle" attitude and in my opinion it probably comes at least in part from being the oldest, tallest, and fastest kid in the class- because, no s***, he is supposed to be in the next grade up. I don't really think his attitude is going to do him a lot of favors in the future and I feel like his parents could have avoided it by just sending him on time, where he would have been middle of the pack in second grade.

Wow you’re incredibly judgmental of a child. Sad for you

+1

That is really sad. I have a hard time imagining what sort of mental state I would have to be in to write that kind of nasty rant about a child. It wouldn’t be a good one, that for sure.

NP I think you are overreacting. I didn’t see a nasty rant at all. Just a parent unhappy about a kid who is being exclusionary to their kid. Perhaps the criticism hit too close to home and that is why you are defensive?

To answer the question - I have an August girl in a wealthy part of Fairfax County and literally everyone I know with July-Sep birthdays is redshirting. Boys and girls! It’s messed up. I’m going to send on time and hope for the best. She would be bored in another year of pre-K. If I had a boy I would more seriously consider redshirting, but luckily my younger boy is an October birthday.

[Anonymous]

My DD was induced (not the original plan), but it moved her Oct due date up to late Sept, just before the cutoff. She's starting on time. Her pre-k teachers have never once mentioned holding her back, which they have done for a couple of other kids, who had August birthdays. I would rather her do 2 years in K than pay for another year or pre-k somewhere. She does well, is already reading.