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Invite Us to 4th of July Party and Then Ask Us to Pay?
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Anonymous
| Friends invited us (with 2 kids) and another couple (with 2 kids) to celebrate the 4th with them at their country club in Fairfax. We assumed since this was a party at their club and we were their guests, they would be paying. By the way, we socialize with this other family frequently and when we invite them to our house for dinner or for a party, we of course do not ask them to pay. Today, my husband gets an email from the host husband telling us what our share of the party cost is. Does that seem strange to you? |
Anonymous
| Yep - I'd be appalled as well! How much? |
Anonymous
| Host husband must be nouveau riche. |
Anonymous
| That is outrageously tacky. I'd ignore the email. |
Anonymous
| I agree - appalling. |
Anonymous
| How is an "invitation" in any way an indication that a bill will follow, unless that is discussed as part of the deal in the first place?! How horribly offensive! |
Anonymous
| Super tacky! I hope his wife reads this and then reads him the riot act. |
Anonymous
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I'd contact whichever person I knew better (the husband or wife) and ask about it. "Oh, we didn't realize it was that sort of invitation, we'd have happily made other plans." When a girlfriend asked for all of the old clothes she'd given to DS a year before so that she could re-gift them to a work colleague, I had to explain that I hadn't understood the nature of the "gift" and had therefore passed the items along as he outgrew them. Sigh. People. |
Anonymous
| Agree, it's awful! How much is the bill? |
Anonymous
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Call the other couple and see if they got the same request.
I also would be upset, especially if there was no prior indication that I would need to pay. I am also curious how much it is. I would probably write back and tell tehm you will give them a check but in the future, please let us know if we are going dutch, esp. if it was a lot of $$$. For real good frineds where there may have been some miscommunication, I'd preface it to say something like, I am sorry if you had informed us earlier what the cost would be, but neither John nor I remember. |
Anonymous
| Yes, this is tacky. But, if you want to maintain the friendship, just pay up, and remember this episode before accepting future invitations. |
Anonymous
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That's ridiculous, but I would probably pay it if it wasn't going to dent my budget.
You know I wonder if they have a minimum they have to spend on food and drink, and if what they are charging you counts towards that, which I think would only make it worse. |
Anonymous
| My reaction would depend on how much. |
Anonymous
| I would just ignore the email and never mention it again. |
Anonymous
Ditto. |