Invite Us to 4th of July Party and Then Ask Us to Pay?

[Anonymous]

I wonder how many of you grammar assholes ever stop to think about ESOL?

Or are you just that small in your little worlds. Maybe if you spend less on your CC - you could afford a plane ticket.

[Anonymous]

Really people?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wonder how many of you grammar assholes ever stop to think about ESOL?

Or are you just that small in your little worlds. Maybe if you spend less on your CC - you could afford a plane ticket.

Wait, did I use "your" correctly?

[Anonymous]

Grammar assholes. Hee hee.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Grammar assholes. Hee hee.

Yes, we are an annoying bunch and we're fully aware of our extreme assholeness, but it's just so much fun.

[Anonymous]

Sorry for my lack of grammar-appropriateness from time-to-time. I was busy both getting laid and making friends in high school and college.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wonder how many of you grammar assholes ever stop to think about ESOL?

Or are you just that small in your little worlds. Maybe if you spend less on your CC - you could afford a plane ticket.

What does this mean? Does anyone care to diagram it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry for my lack of grammar-appropriateness from time-to-time. I was busy both getting laid and making friends in high school and college.

Love you!

[Anonymous]

I think the amount does make a difference. Well not the amount as much as, can you easily afford it? If a $200+ bill is going to make you have to skimp on something or make another bill late, then I would have no problem letting them know. If it was more like $50 and didn't have an impact, I would just pay it.

Of course if OP is rich and the amount really doesn't make a difference to her budget than she should just pay it without snark.

Personally I live on a strict budget, if someone invites me somewhere as a guest, I don't expect to pay. No way could I come up with $200 for something I never would have done in the first place.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So the new takeaway from this thread is:
County clubs are a waste of money.
You're = you are; Your is possessive.
Did I miss anything?

Lifestyle of the nouveau riche?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OK - I have not read all the responses but enough to see that the majority said not to pay.
NP here and giving the couple the benefit of the doubt (although VERY tacky).....
I belong to a country club and there was a 4th of July party that had a lot of fun activities but it was very expensive per person. I dont remember the exact cost but it was up to $100pp for food, fire works, pool activities, face painting etc.
We pay dues and have a credit of a couple hundred dollars each month. I had asked another family to join us and they agreed and I cant tell you how stressed out I was over this......money is super tight now and both of us or working so hard to make ends meet (this was not the case pre horrific economy) so friends are used to us picking up the tab. We just cannot do it anymore. I cannot tell you how relieved I was when the other family cancelled on us. Not bc I dont love them but bc I did not realize that we would shell out an additional $400 when we can barely pay our mortgage right now. I just think it is tacky that the other family did not go over the price beforehand so that you were prepared.

This is what is wrong with this country. WTF is wrong with you?????

Agreed. And please don't tell my family that we need to pay more in taxes to bail out morons like this.

Sounds as if you might appreciate the bumper sticker I saw recently: "Honk if I'm paying your mortgage!"

[Anonymous]

Eyah. Let the grammar dorks die already.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, we were also invited to our friends' club for 4th of July. At the end of the dinner, when the bill came for the host to sign, DH offered to pay our family's share. The host initially declined, but his wife accepted. So DH handed over the money, and that was that. Were we surprised that we weren't being taken as guests? Yes, indeed. Will it end the friendship? Absolutely not. Will we think twice about accepting an invitation again, when the cost was extremely high for what amounted to a few hours in a pool and a dinner of fried food? Absolutely.

I suggest that you to just pay the bill with no comment. I do not think your proposed response looks like you're taking the high road. Just pay the bill, grouse to your DH and to the other hundred or so of us reading this, and move on - lesson learned.

OMG, passive-aggressive much? Your DH offered to pay, and the offer was accepted. Don't offer if you're not prepared to pay, or are going to grouse about it afterwards. Offering is not just a little social nicety. It's an offer, period.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. The cost is irrelevant. I am going to respond with "Oh, we thought you invited us to celebrate as your guests. But, if we misunderstood, we can send you a check."

So, the high road, with a little shame thown in. And then, not accept similar invitations from this couple in the future.

That's not the high road. The high road is just to pay the bill and be done with it.

Exactly. Pay it and be done. If you say what you want to say they will now be offended at you (and turn it around that you are cheap) and this will never end. Almost everyone here has said you are right. That needs to be enough. You will regret it if you say what you posted. They are showing you who they are - listen!

[Anonymous]

OP - what was the outcome?