Invite Us to 4th of July Party and Then Ask Us to Pay?

[Anonymous]

Tacky but pay your share and be done with it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would just ignore the email and never mention it again.

I would too. Much as I would ignore the fact that a polite friend farted loudly in public. When someone makes a giant social gaffe, the classy thing to do is pretend that it didn't happen.

[Anonymous]

Tell them "We pay our household bills on the first and fifteenth of the month, so look for a check mid-month. Would you prefer we send this to your home address or reimburse your club directly?" If they're going to treat it like a business transaction, so can you.

[Anonymous]

Send an email complimenting how funny their joke is and tell how you and DH laughed and laughed.

[Anonymous]

Tell them that was a funny april fools joke but remind them it's wasn't april 1 it was july 4 you were celebrating.

[Anonymous]

I would insist on an itemized statement.

[Anonymous]

It's rude of them to ask, but IMO, it was also rude of you not to offer to pay for your family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would just ignore the email and never mention it again.

I would too. Much as I would ignore the fact that a polite friend farted loudly in public. When someone makes a giant social gaffe, the classy thing to do is pretend that it didn't happen.

I just farted in my friend's office and she said nothing. I'm so embarrassed.

[Anonymous]

I can't believe I'm about to give your friends the benefit of doubt, but perhaps it was more like an invitation to meet for dinner at their club? Like, hey lets all meet at The Cheescake Factory for dinner Saturday night. In that case, they wouldn't presume to pay for everyone so maybe they saw this invite in the same way, but because they have to pay differently asked you for the money? I don't know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can't believe I'm about to give your friends the benefit of doubt, but perhaps it was more like an invitation to meet for dinner at their club? Like, hey lets all meet at The Cheescake Factory for dinner Saturday night. In that case, they wouldn't presume to pay for everyone so maybe they saw this invite in the same way, but because they have to pay differently asked you for the money? I don't know.

"Meeting" for dinner is different than inviting someone to a party - any kind of party - and assuming the invited person has the money to pay. That's just rude.

[Anonymous]

I'd pay, BUT the relationship/friendship wouldn't be quite the same for me afterwards. Very odd.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's rude of them to ask, but IMO, it was also rude of you not to offer to pay for your family.

Huh? If I invite someone to my private club, first of all, there is no mechanism for them to pay. The bill comes to my home monthly. Secondly, an invitation is an invitation. There's such a thing as being a gracious guest.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can't believe I'm about to give your friends the benefit of doubt, but perhaps it was more like an invitation to meet for dinner at their club? Like, hey lets all meet at The Cheescake Factory for dinner Saturday night. In that case, they wouldn't presume to pay for everyone so maybe they saw this invite in the same way, but because they have to pay differently asked you for the money? I don't know.

"Meeting" for dinner is different than inviting someone to a party - any kind of party - and assuming the invited person has the money to pay. That's just rude.

Oh I agree, I'm just trying to figure out how the friends thought this was acceptable. Maybe they didn't see it as an invitation to a party, but an idea to get everyone together for the holiday. Maybe they offered to "get them in" to the party as opposed to host them. Again, just trying to figure it out. It's puzzling.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would just ignore the email and never mention it again.

I would too. Much as I would ignore the fact that a polite friend farted loudly in public. When someone makes a giant social gaffe, the classy thing to do is pretend that it didn't happen.

I just farted in my friend's office and she said nothing. I'm so embarrassed.

HAHAHAHAHAH.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's rude of them to ask, but IMO, it was also rude of you not to offer to pay for your family.

Huh? If I invite someone to my private club, first of all, there is no mechanism for them to pay. The bill comes to my home monthly. Secondly, an invitation is an invitation. There's such a thing as being a gracious guest.

So, are you saying a gracious guest , whom you have invited to a private club, should then ask you how much they should pay? This is not being a gracious host, it isn't eve being a host. Tacky, rude, and ill-mannered.