Why are some girls so lucky in love and others struggle?
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Anonymous
| Same goes for men. Life isn't fair. Not everyone gets a great marriage. It's life. |
Anonymous
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It's also down to having a certain set of attributes. For many men it's things like:
Holds phone in hands a certain way Always coming up with new dances Tries different vegetables Sends neighbors notes Stacks coins Has strong opinion on movies Interested in the weather Always carries a writing implement |
Anonymous
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If you stay in a relationship that doesn't end up in engagement for over a year or two (shorter time as you get older), it usually hurts your chances later. I stayed in a relationship for 4 years in my early 20s and eventually he told me he didn't plan to marry anyone until he was 40. After I kicked him to the curb, I actually dated more and met my dh of many years.
Lots of younger guys (and sometimes women ) don't want to get married any time soon, so don't let them tie you down. If you do, Also, if you move in together before you are engaged and planning your wedding, it's sometimes becomes easier just to stay together when you aren't compatible. If you want to see if you can live together, do so after engagement. |
Anonymous
This |
Anonymous
| You attract the kind of people that you yourself are. |
Anonymous
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To get married to a great guy?
Be a winner. Come from a good intact family. Have a plan for your career and accomplishments. Be healthy, fit, good looking and dress well. Have hobbies and friends. Do not be desperate. Cultivate a good reputation. Do not be easy sexually. Bring something admirable to the table. Be fiscally responsible. |
Anonymous
Fun, fit, funny, kind, don't GAF? Where???? |
Anonymous
| Some people are realistic. Some people aren’t. |
Anonymous
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I lived in a developing country in my 20s. I saw a lot of women in the host country end up with men in my group. The men in my group, being young, weren't wealthy, but they were educated and American. Usually they were nothing to brag about, in terms of physical attributes. Some had nice personalities and some didn't. We joked that the country was "ugly man's paradise."
The women they ended up with were usually educated, attractive, slim and if they had been American would have had more options. The American women in my group largely did not date men at all from the host country mostly due to their old fashioned gender expectations as well as the men's lack of education. What I learned from this is men have more options than women for finding a partner. A woman who is a 10 will have to settle if she wants a partner. |
Anonymous
Written by a douchey Republican man who reads women's message board. MAGA! |
Anonymous
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It’s not appearance or attractiveness. As DH says, that will only get a woman a conversation, not a commitment.
Character judgement have to lead materialism or other qualities sought. It has to be #1. That’s not luck. It’s a decision. |
Anonymous
I'm a progressive woman and I don't see anything wrong with this post. It doesn't guarantee you'll find anyone (really good men are rare) but all of these qualities are desirable for anyone of any political persuasion. |
Anonymous
Says a lot that you consider that political. How few of those qualities do you possess? |
Anonymous
The douchey Republican man who reads women's message boards is back! 
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Anonymous
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Being born a woman pretty much guarantees you will always have options, it's almost impossible for women to reach a certain decade and to have always been alone or never dated but very easily possible for guys and Men.
I'm sure the majority of people in the world who reach 30+, 40+ and older, and have never dated, never been in a relationship before. Are mostly male dominated cases. |