DH called our nanny hot

[Anonymous]

We have a hot nanny and it is NBD. I’m sure my husband thinks she’s hot because he’s not blind but he’s smart enough not to drool. She’s a terrific nanny and my kids love her so all’s good. If our marriage was rocky I might feel differently but I’m not worried about a 21 year old stealing a 42 year old.

[Anonymous]

OP, definitely time to get a new nanny. The point is you’re concerned enough to write about it and so why not get someone whom you’re not going to think about being at home. Find another reason than this to tell your husband when you get a new nanny.

[Anonymous]

This is so weird that anyone would be sensitive to it. Are you seriously jealous of a nanny being hot? Sheesh. I mean do you think your Dh would cheat? Then work on your own marriage.

[Anonymous]

Just ask her to wear a fat suit. Problem solved! All women should wear fat suits at work lest they get fired for being an object of lust. Add a pig snout and you'll have real job security.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, don't be insecure. You mentioned you found her quite pretty so you're DH probably does as well.

I would just let it go. If you have not noticed any red flags I would just move on. Though I would get a new nanny because I am crazy.

So for the new nanny because OP is insecure? That’s messed up. A 28 year old hot woman isn’t looking for a 40 year old dad. Nope. Nannies don’t want your old husbands.

They may if your husband is rich and attractive.

Stupid comment

Accurate comment- a 12 year age difference is nothing when rich and attractive are factored.

[Anonymous]

Are you all being deliberately obtuse or do you really bot understand? The problem is not that the husband THINKS the nanny is hot; the problem is that he is SAYING to other people that he thinks the nanny is hot. JFC.

OP should feel insecure (sorry OP) because a man who gives a shit about his wife would know that would hurt her feelings and keep his damn trap shut.

[Anonymous]

Is your husband named Ethan Hawke?

[Anonymous]

^LOL.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is your husband named Ethan Hawke?

Or Jude Law? Or Arnold? Or Gavin?

[Anonymous]

I bet his name is Ben

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just ask her to wear a fat suit. Problem solved! All women should wear fat suits at work lest they get fired for being an object of lust. Add a pig snout and you'll have real job security.

Maybe institute a dress code similar to the Duggars?

[Anonymous]

Op do you trust your husband?

[Anonymous]

Why do you even need a nanny? Serious question.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:When women wonder why they face discrimination, I point to this. It's women doing it to each other. You want to fire a woman just because she is more attractive than you. Cray cray.

Who needs the patriarchy

Patriarchy has always required the support and assistance of women to succeed. We have people blaming the wife, the friend, the nanny, too many are reluctant to hold the husband accountable. We've got people bragging about how the fire or don't hire attractive women at their jobs. The real kicker is I bet most of these posters consider themselves feminist and were out protesting in pink hats against Trump and freaking out about their rights when RGB died. Fwminism and confronting misogyny happens in real-time, in the smaller moments of our lives, folks

Smartest post on here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When women wonder why they face discrimination, I point to this. It's women doing it to each other. You want to fire a woman just because she is more attractive than you. Cray cray.

Who needs the patriarchy

Patriarchy has always required the support and assistance of women to succeed. We have people blaming the wife, the friend, the nanny, too many are reluctant to hold the husband accountable. We've got people bragging about how the fire or don't hire attractive women at their jobs. The real kicker is I bet most of these posters consider themselves feminist and were out protesting in pink hats against Trump and freaking out about their rights when RGB died. Fwminism and confronting misogyny happens in real-time, in the smaller moments of our lives, folks

Agree with all of this, except there is nothing the man did that was wrong. He merely commented that his nanny was hot to a friend. Not to the nanny. He didn't create a hostile work environment. This whole scenario is just women tearing each other down for their looks

He should have kept it to himself or just his wife because now it's been spread around the community creating a very awkward situation for the nanny. Self-control is a hallmark of adulthood, as adults, we know we don't have to verbalize every thought that crosses our mind. Raise your standards for men.

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