Why do demanding women seem to have the most loving, faithful husbands?

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Anonymous wrote:Meanwhile, several mellow, fun, and easygoing women I know have been divorced, cheated on, and treated like crap.
Is this a Thing?
By demanding I don't mean bitchy so much as they rule the roost.

This is the original post. OP is blaming women for how men treat them. No better than they she was wearing a revealing outfit so she deserved to get raped crap.

She is not "blaming" anyone, she's asking about something she's seen and observed. Just cause it makes you feel bad doesnt mean anyone did anything wrong. You need therapy!

She's not asking she is making a harmful correlation, that you and several others have cosigned because you failed to think.

She is asking, you clown. Stop expecting everyone else to coddle you and tiptoe around your neuroses

I'm not asking anything. I'm stating my opinion. But it's intersting how you have become increasingly aggresive simply because I do not agree with you. You reult to insults and namecalling....

You said OP was the same as people who blame women for rape. You dont think that's a pretty horrible thing to say? Once again, zero accountability.

I agree it's horrible to blame women for their own rape. OP and others are using the same logic as people who blame women for rape do if she had dressed this way or acted this way he wouldn't have done this. If she had acted this way or done this he wouldn't have cheated on her. Wouldn't have abused her. Zero accountability for the men, but plenty of blame for the women.
These posts are not uplifting as some want to claim. They are harmful.

Your attempts at gaslighting are not cute, in fact they are seriously deranged and harmful. OP said nothing of the sort. She did point out what she's seen and she has every right to. Sorry you're obviously not valued by anyone in your life and you want to blame others for it but it's very obvious why

Gaslighting is what you are attempting to do to me. If you want to talk about helping women avoiding abusive men sure. I'm all for it lets talk about those red flags. That's not what is happening in this thread. I draw the line at implying or in the case of some in this thread saying women are responsible for being mistreated by the men in their lives because of their personality or what they did/did not do.

You probably don't realize it pp, but your responses to me , the language you have used has been abusive, simply because I don't agree with you and find fault with OP's reasoning, find it harmful.

This is not strong or confident.

No, it's what you're trying to do to OP, and it's disgusting and very transparent. The associations you are making are shocking, completely out of bounds, and disgusting. If this was an argumentation strategy, it was a very, very bad one. Not to mention it seems to minimize rape victims.

You need therapy, to get a professional to inform you of why this post has triggered you so severely. Immediately, those same triggers cause you to act so crazily and harmfully in your real life, with real repercussions. The rest of us know why and we've already told you, but only a therapist can help you figure out an action plan to fix it. Sooner rather than later. And I'm serious.

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Anonymous wrote:Meanwhile, several mellow, fun, and easygoing women I know have been divorced, cheated on, and treated like crap.
Is this a Thing?
By demanding I don't mean bitchy so much as they rule the roost.

This is the original post. OP is blaming women for how men treat them. No better than they she was wearing a revealing outfit so she deserved to get raped crap.

She is not "blaming" anyone, she's asking about something she's seen and observed. Just cause it makes you feel bad doesnt mean anyone did anything wrong. You need therapy!

She's not asking she is making a harmful correlation, that you and several others have cosigned because you failed to think.

She is asking, you clown. Stop expecting everyone else to coddle you and tiptoe around your neuroses

I'm not asking anything. I'm stating my opinion. But it's intersting how you have become increasingly aggresive simply because I do not agree with you. You reult to insults and namecalling....

You said OP was the same as people who blame women for rape. You dont think that's a pretty horrible thing to say? Once again, zero accountability.

I agree it's horrible to blame women for their own rape. OP and others are using the same logic as people who blame women for rape do if she had dressed this way or acted this way he wouldn't have done this. If she had acted this way or done this he wouldn't have cheated on her. Wouldn't have abused her. Zero accountability for the men, but plenty of blame for the women.
These posts are not uplifting as some want to claim. They are harmful.

Your attempts at gaslighting are not cute, in fact they are seriously deranged and harmful. OP said nothing of the sort. She did point out what she's seen and she has every right to. Sorry you're obviously not valued by anyone in your life and you want to blame others for it but it's very obvious why

Gaslighting is what you are attempting to do to me. If you want to talk about helping women avoiding abusive men sure. I'm all for it lets talk about those red flags. That's not what is happening in this thread. I draw the line at implying or in the case of some in this thread saying women are responsible for being mistreated by the men in their lives because of their personality or what they did/did not do.

You probably don't realize it pp, but your responses to me , the language you have used has been abusive, simply because I don't agree with you and find fault with OP's reasoning, find it harmful.

This is not strong or confident.

No, it's what you're trying to do to OP, and it's disgusting and very transparent. The associations you are making are shocking, completely out of bounds, and disgusting. If this was an argumentation strategy, it was a very, very bad one. Not to mention it seems to minimize rape victims.

You need therapy, to get a professional to inform you of why this post has triggered you so severely. Immediately, those same triggers cause you to act so crazily and harmfully in your real life, with real repercussions. The rest of us know why and we've already told you, but only a therapist can help you figure out an action plan to fix it. Sooner rather than later. And I'm serious.

In my view OP is trying to justify the mistreatment of women. Which is wrong. It's wrong at all levels. A women is never responsible for a man's behavior. Period. OP has not come back at all to clarify her position. You are upset that you didn't catch on to Op's game the way I and several others did. Now you have realized you have been had, but it's hard to admit you are wrong so you attack.
It's you who needs to work on your strategies calling names and telling someone they need therapy because they don't agree with you is abusive behavior. I hope you don't behave this way in your real life relationships.

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Anonymous wrote:They have standards and good self esteem.

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Anonymous wrote:Meanwhile, several mellow, fun, and easygoing women I know have been divorced, cheated on, and treated like crap.
Is this a Thing?
By demanding I don't mean bitchy so much as they rule the roost.

This is the original post. OP is blaming women for how men treat them. No better than they she was wearing a revealing outfit so she deserved to get raped crap.

She is not "blaming" anyone, she's asking about something she's seen and observed. Just cause it makes you feel bad doesnt mean anyone did anything wrong. You need therapy!

She's not asking she is making a harmful correlation, that you and several others have cosigned because you failed to think.

She is asking, you clown. Stop expecting everyone else to coddle you and tiptoe around your neuroses

I'm not asking anything. I'm stating my opinion. But it's intersting how you have become increasingly aggresive simply because I do not agree with you. You reult to insults and namecalling....

You said OP was the same as people who blame women for rape. You dont think that's a pretty horrible thing to say? Once again, zero accountability.

I agree it's horrible to blame women for their own rape. OP and others are using the same logic as people who blame women for rape do if she had dressed this way or acted this way he wouldn't have done this. If she had acted this way or done this he wouldn't have cheated on her. Wouldn't have abused her. Zero accountability for the men, but plenty of blame for the women.
These posts are not uplifting as some want to claim. They are harmful.

Your attempts at gaslighting are not cute, in fact they are seriously deranged and harmful. OP said nothing of the sort. She did point out what she's seen and she has every right to. Sorry you're obviously not valued by anyone in your life and you want to blame others for it but it's very obvious why

Gaslighting is what you are attempting to do to me. If you want to talk about helping women avoiding abusive men sure. I'm all for it lets talk about those red flags. That's not what is happening in this thread. I draw the line at implying or in the case of some in this thread saying women are responsible for being mistreated by the men in their lives because of their personality or what they did/did not do.

You probably don't realize it pp, but your responses to me , the language you have used has been abusive, simply because I don't agree with you and find fault with OP's reasoning, find it harmful.

This is not strong or confident.

It’s fairly obvious OP is a bully and abusive in her relationship. Oh, and she is never wrong.

Imagine being married to that piece of work.

[Anonymous]

Demanding women are not bitchy and bossy women. They are strong women who are used to being loved and valued. They have a great sense of worth and self esteem. They don't exploit others and don't let others exploit them.
They have a strong moral code. Their husbands know that they will not forgive adultry and they will walk out if the marriage.

They attract quality men like them. They give 100% to the marriage and expect the same.

They have been raised with examples of good marriages and usually they have father's who respected their mothers.

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Anonymous wrote:Demanding women are not bitchy and bossy women. They are strong women who are used to being loved and valued. They have a great sense of worth and self esteem. They don't exploit others and don't let others exploit them.
They have a strong moral code. Their husbands know that they will not forgive adultry and they will walk out if the marriage.

They attract quality men like them. They give 100% to the marriage and expect the same.

They have been raised with examples of good marriages and usually they have father's who respected their mothers.

Demanding women = women who only care about themselves. Narcissist. Man or woman no one wants to marry a narcissist.

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Anonymous wrote:Demanding women are not bitchy and bossy women. They are strong women who are used to being loved and valued. They have a great sense of worth and self esteem. They don't exploit others and don't let others exploit them.
They have a strong moral code. Their husbands know that they will not forgive adultry and they will walk out if the marriage.

They attract quality men like them. They give 100% to the marriage and expect the same.

They have been raised with examples of good marriages and usually they have father's who respected their mothers.

Demanding women = women who only care about themselves. Narcissist. Man or woman no one wants to marry a narcissist.

Don’t worry. They would never marry you. Your attitude does not meet their standards.

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Anonymous wrote:Demanding women are not bitchy and bossy women. They are strong women who are used to being loved and valued. They have a great sense of worth and self esteem. They don't exploit others and don't let others exploit them.
They have a strong moral code. Their husbands know that they will not forgive adultry and they will walk out if the marriage.

They attract quality men like them. They give 100% to the marriage and expect the same.

They have been raised with examples of good marriages and usually they have father's who respected their mothers.

Demanding women = women who only care about themselves. Narcissist. Man or woman no one wants to marry a narcissist.

OK, misogynist prick.

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You are mixed up. The question was posed and people answered. As to the cheating, women know. No woman who related to the "demanding" label was celebrating not being cheated on. They celebrate the rewards of sticking to their standards and valuing themselves. You should ask for tips.
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Tips on what? I know how to be a kind person who has respect for herself and requires others to be respectful of her. I date men who are the same. However I don't think this makes me better than other women,nor do I think it makes me invincible to having my partner cheating on me.


OP's post, and subsequent posts were about mocking women who have terrible relationships and blaming them for being "easy going.".

You are determined to see yourself as a victim. Sorry, no one can help you here. We have already tried but you dont want to listen. Too bad.

You lack reading comprehension. I am not a victim of anything. I am an actual confident woman. I don't need to put other women down or mock them in their pain to make myself feel special. You on the other hand are very insecure.

You need to take your own advice, and stop seeing victimhood where none exists. People make life choices and there are consequences for it. If you made bad ones, too bad. That's how the cookie crumbles.

So it's a woman's fault if her husband cheats on her?




No one said anything of the sort. The premise of the thread is "demanding women seem to have loving, devoted husbands". Many women who identified with that came in and said "yup". Others, for whatever reason, jumped in with "he secretly resents you, he's scared of you, he less of a man, he cheats, etc"

The problem with all of this lies in the mistaken belief that men aren't good, loving, faithful, wtc. I submit that there are actually more good men than bad. I'm sorry if you don't know any.

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In my view OP is trying to justify the mistreatment of women. Which is wrong. It's wrong at all levels. A women is never responsible for a man's behavior. Period. OP has not come back at all to clarify her position. You are upset that you didn't catch on to Op's game the way I and several others did. Now you have realized you have been had, but it's hard to admit you are wrong so you attack.
It's you who needs to work on your strategies calling names and telling someone they need therapy because they don't agree with you is abusive behavior. I hope you don't behave this way in your real life relationships.

A woman IS responsible for her own behavior, as well as for communicating what she will and will not tolerate in a relationship. The so called "demanding" women clearly conveyed their standards and expectations with the husbands *before* marriage and, ostensibly, the husbands agree. "Demanding" women obviously follow through and don't tolerate bs and also don't hesitate to speak up when something isn't right. Being proud of oneself for sticking to your guns isn't the same as blaming women for being cheated on. In the highly unlikely scenario of a "demanding" woman being cheated on by her previously decent, faithful husband: I have no doubt she'd kick him to the curb. The dh knows this, too, because she told him that *before* marriage.

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Anonymous wrote:Demanding women are not bitchy and bossy women. They are strong women who are used to being loved and valued. They have a great sense of worth and self esteem. They don't exploit others and don't let others exploit them.
They have a strong moral code. Their husbands know that they will not forgive adultry and they will walk out if the marriage.

They attract quality men like them. They give 100% to the marriage and expect the same.

They have been raised with examples of good marriages and usually they have father's who respected their mothers.

Demanding women = women who only care about themselves. Narcissist. Man or woman no one wants to marry a narcissist.

"Demanding" women will love you harder than you've ever been loved. They will be loyal and defend you if anyone should speak ill. But let them down or try to hurt them, you will regret it because you'll lose her respect and devotion.

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Anonymous wrote:Demanding women are not bitchy and bossy women. They are strong women who are used to being loved and valued. They have a great sense of worth and self esteem. They don't exploit others and don't let others exploit them.
They have a strong moral code. Their husbands know that they will not forgive adultry and they will walk out if the marriage.

They attract quality men like them. They give 100% to the marriage and expect the same.

They have been raised with examples of good marriages and usually they have father's who respected their mothers.

Demanding women = women who only care about themselves. Narcissist. Man or woman no one wants to marry a narcissist.

Don’t worry. They would never marry you. Your attitude does not meet their standards.

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Demanding women divorce their husbands if they cheat. Yes, sometimes they can marry a con artist but they are also quick to dump their cheating asses.

Demanding women are either in a loving marriage with loyal husbands, or they are divorced from a cheating ex.

They are not Anna Duggar the cow.

[Anonymous]

Me (asking DH after reading this thread): Have you ever cheated on me?
DH: Huh? No?
Me: What do you think about husbands who cheat?
DH (suspiciously): Is this another DCUM thread?
Me: Yes.
DH: Such men should immediately be shot dead after surgically removing their balls. Go on and write it on DCUM
Me:

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Anonymous wrote:Me (asking DH after reading this thread): Have you ever cheated on me?
DH: Huh? No?
Me: What do you think about husbands who cheat?
DH (suspiciously): Is this another DCUM thread?
Me: Yes.
DH: Such men should immediately be shot dead after surgically removing their balls. Go on and write it on DCUM
Me:

What a man!