What reasons WOULD you decide to leave/divorce over

[Anonymous]

If I found out he was gay, or secretly homosexual

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I get it OP. I’m in a similar situation with my DH and there are many moments where I wish he’d do something “big”. Like have an affair, so I’d have a clear cut reason to leave. I’m 20 years in, with two teens. And I seem to need a bigger reason than he’s just an angry a-hole.

Not sure how i came across this thread..i also needed a bigger reason and when an affair hit me, I felt like the past was better. Hope you got over whatever you were going through.

[Anonymous]

In order:

1. Pulling the rug out from under me and changing the terms of the marriage. I said no kids. He "changed his mind" and forced the issue.

2. Not allowing me to spend my own money or go to the grocery store while making 100k+

3. Public humiliation and insults

4. No talking for days or months

5. Not considering my feelings and making me move across states for his job (keeping me stagnant in my career) ...so living where I did not want to

6. Sexless for 7 out of 10 years

I was married for 10 years. Been divorced since 2020. Even with all this crap, with the logistics of coparenting, I almost wish I stayed until the kids go to college. It really is not better. It is just as bad. It is just different bad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If I found out he was gay, or secretly homosexual

This may sound ignorant. Was he still having erections with you? I was always under the impression that gay men don't get hard when a woman is naked in front of them. But a naked man will get them raging hard.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In order:

1. Pulling the rug out from under me and changing the terms of the marriage. I said no kids. He "changed his mind" and forced the issue.

2. Not allowing me to spend my own money or go to the grocery store while making 100k+

3. Public humiliation and insults

4. No talking for days or months

5. Not considering my feelings and making me move across states for his job (keeping me stagnant in my career) ...so living where I did not want to

6. Sexless for 7 out of 10 years

I was married for 10 years. Been divorced since 2020. Even with all this crap, with the logistics of coparenting, I almost wish I stayed until the kids go to college. It really is not better. It is just as bad. It is just different bad.

Incredible. Women leave their DHs for more trivial issues and you endured all this nonsense.

I hope you are in a better place now.