How to keep the other woman away from my child?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not wanting my child around the woman that destroyed her home doesn't mean I'm all drama. not wanting to be replaced in my family like I was replaced by my husband does not make me all drama.

Your husband destroyed your home. She was just an accessory.

You are being replaced as his wife. You have been, I mean. Do get over that.

No one can replace you as a mother.

I mean what is there to replace?

Your daughter is already a teen. When kids usually start wanting to hang out with their peers rather than their parents.

Sure they can try to bribe your daughter with things, but she will always be your daughter. I bet hanging out with a teenage girl will eventually be the last thing two newlyweds will want.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No. Find a therapist to talk to so you can get peace about it. You cannot control whether or not the other woman is in your life or in your child’s life, because your child is still also your ex’s child.

I’m sure this is very painful and I’m sorry, but you have to learn to live with it. The more you are at peace with it, the better it will be for your child.

I hear you, but how do I make peace with someone who blew up our whole world for another woman?

Let karma take care of that. Chances are they will implode, and you need to make sure your hands are clean of it. Let your daughter figure it out on her own. Time is the great equalizer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No. Find a therapist to talk to so you can get peace about it. You cannot control whether or not the other woman is in your life or in your child’s life, because your child is still also your ex’s child.

I’m sure this is very painful and I’m sorry, but you have to learn to live with it. The more you are at peace with it, the better it will be for your child.

I hear you, but how do I make peace with someone who blew up our whole world for another woman?

You have to for your child. You want her to love her dad. If you try to undermine that, she will resent you later. Not good for her, not good for you. You don't have to make peace with the whore...just don't call her a whore in front of your daughter. Don't make her play the games the adults have to.

[Anonymous]

I have read up to page 7. OP is unhinged.

[Anonymous]

I am not unhinged. Why is the betrayed spouse always unhinged or crazy?

[Anonymous]

It’s hard, OP, I know. My ex husband did the same with a much younger woman and it hurt like hell.

But the biggest surprise was that this woman loves and is great to my kids. I know they are safe and well cared for when they’re at their dad’s. And this woman does the “heavy lifting” of step-parenting. She gets their book reports and school assignments done (not ex’s forte) and sends them home with clean clothes!

There is nothing you can do, OP, so just let it go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am not unhinged. Why is the betrayed spouse always unhinged or crazy?

Your ex husband betrayed you, OP. This other woman made no promises or vows to you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am not unhinged. Why is the betrayed spouse always unhinged or crazy?

They're not always unhinged or crazy. On this thread we've heard several stories of betrayed spouses who, though terribly hurt and heartbroken, kept their children's best interests first and foremost and did not try to interfere with their children's relationships with their dad or with their stepmom.

Just sometimes they're unhinged and crazy and post about how to keep the "other woman away from [their] child" and that the other woman will "probably try to steal [their] child".

Please, please get some help and support. You are going to hurt your child and I know you don't want that. I'm begging you to get some help so that your child can have as healthy a relationship as possible with all the adults in her life, including the "other woman". Don't make your child pay the price for your pain.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op, please read this. Please.

https://therumpus.net/2010/08/dear-sugar-the-rumpus-advice-column-47-the-reckoning/

This is beautiful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No. Find a therapist to talk to so you can get peace about it. You cannot control whether or not the other woman is in your life or in your child’s life, because your child is still also your ex’s child.

I’m sure this is very painful and I’m sorry, but you have to learn to live with it. The more you are at peace with it, the better it will be for your child.

I hear you, but how do I make peace with someone who blew up our whole world for another woman?

Let karma take care of that. Chances are they will implode, and you need to make sure your hands are clean of it. Let your daughter figure it out on her own. Time is the great equalizer.

I'm pretty sure she's infertile so karma has already started

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s hard, OP, I know. My ex husband did the same with a much younger woman and it hurt like hell.

But the biggest surprise was that this woman loves and is great to my kids. I know they are safe and well cared for when they’re at their dad’s. And this woman does the “heavy lifting” of step-parenting. She gets their book reports and school assignments done (not ex’s forte) and sends them home with clean clothes!

There is nothing you can do, OP, so just let it go.

This is a great way to look at it Thank you

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No. Find a therapist to talk to so you can get peace about it. You cannot control whether or not the other woman is in your life or in your child’s life, because your child is still also your ex’s child.

I’m sure this is very painful and I’m sorry, but you have to learn to live with it. The more you are at peace with it, the better it will be for your child.

I hear you, but how do I make peace with someone who blew up our whole world for another woman?

Let karma take care of that. Chances are they will implode, and you need to make sure your hands are clean of it. Let your daughter figure it out on her own. Time is the great equalizer.

I'm pretty sure she's infertile so karma has already started

Deep sigh.

[Anonymous]

OP, your daughter is a teen and won't want to spend her weekends with a traitorous father and and his moral-free mistress.

Sign her up for a bunch of weekend activities. ALso, since he is the typical male, he won't really want to take up his weekends with his kid.

My bet is 1 year from now, visits with dad and the vapid woman will be few and far between.

[Anonymous]

No one wants to steal a teenager.

So funny!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

OP, your daughter is a teen and won't want to spend her weekends with a traitorous father and and his moral-free mistress.

Sign her up for a bunch of weekend activities. ALso, since he is the typical male, he won't really want to take up his weekends with his kid.

My bet is 1 year from now, visits with dad and the vapid woman will be few and far between.

He has had our child every weekend for almost 3 years. But I love this idea of weekend activities. I wonder how many are available during the pandemic. I'm going to do some research while I have a break thanks