I’m so freaking tired of parents with 3+ kids complaining

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread underscores why I tend to avoid talking to moms.

I'm not a snob. I'm not aloof. I'm not shy. I'm not introverted. Rather, I recognize that so many moms are judgmental jerks...who tend to project their own insecurities, unhappiness, jealousy, etc. on other women for the most bizarre reasons. Did everyone catch the weird reference to soccer and being committed? That's classic weirdo mommy behavior.

Signed,

Mother of 4 who will smile and briefly chat before quickly moving along

What on earth are you talking about? Shes saying the oldest kid wants to play on a soccer team that requires the kids to be more committed than when they were younger. The parents can never get it together to get him to all the practices etc (and always blame it on having 3). so he’s getting dropped. Not fair to him. Make sense to me.

Could not agree more with the posters who are saying own your choices.

Life happens...whether you have 1 or 3 or a dozen kids.

I hate the way dcum judges parents of 3 or more. It's weird. Most of us juggle things and manage just fine.

Lastly: "the defining soccer game"? It's a little kid game. Period. You sound ridiculous. Soccer parents are the worst.

The kid is 8 - if he wants to play, he needs to show up. I'm not a 'soccer parent' - I just don't make my kids suffer the consequences of my decisions and had the number of kids I could handle.

Not judging having that many kids - IF YOU CAN HANDLE IT.

Missing a game shouldn't be the defining moment as to whether a kid can continue to play. Kids should be able to miss a practice or a game and still be on the team. The kid is 8 FFS. Eight.

FTR, I have a handful of kids, and a couple play multiple travel sports. I understand commitment. But you are way out of line IMHO passing judgment on a parent for missing a game. Get a grip.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread underscores why I tend to avoid talking to moms.

I'm not a snob. I'm not aloof. I'm not shy. I'm not introverted. Rather, I recognize that so many moms are judgmental jerks...who tend to project their own insecurities, unhappiness, jealousy, etc. on other women for the most bizarre reasons. Did everyone catch the weird reference to soccer and being committed? That's classic weirdo mommy behavior.

Signed,

Mother of 4 who will smile and briefly chat before quickly moving along

What on earth are you talking about? Shes saying the oldest kid wants to play on a soccer team that requires the kids to be more committed than when they were younger. The parents can never get it together to get him to all the practices etc (and always blame it on having 3). so he’s getting dropped. Not fair to him. Make sense to me.

Could not agree more with the posters who are saying own your choices.

Life happens...whether you have 1 or 3 or a dozen kids.

I hate the way dcum judges parents of 3 or more. It's weird. Most of us juggle things and manage just fine.

Lastly: "the defining soccer game"? It's a little kid game. Period. You sound ridiculous. Soccer parents are the worst.

The kid is 8 - if he wants to play, he needs to show up. I'm not a 'soccer parent' - I just don't make my kids suffer the consequences of my decisions and had the number of kids I could handle.

Not judging having that many kids - IF YOU CAN HANDLE IT.

Missing a game shouldn't be the defining moment as to whether a kid can continue to play. Kids should be able to miss a practice or a game and still be on the team. The kid is 8 FFS. Eight.

FTR, I have a handful of kids, and a couple play multiple travel sports. I understand commitment. But you are way out of line IMHO passing judgment on a parent for missing a game. Get a grip.

OMG it was a freaking example. I'm not the coach and I don't make the decisions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread underscores why I tend to avoid talking to moms.

I'm not a snob. I'm not aloof. I'm not shy. I'm not introverted. Rather, I recognize that so many moms are judgmental jerks...who tend to project their own insecurities, unhappiness, jealousy, etc. on other women for the most bizarre reasons. Did everyone catch the weird reference to soccer and being committed? That's classic weirdo mommy behavior.

Signed,

Mother of 4 who will smile and briefly chat before quickly moving along

What on earth are you talking about? Shes saying the oldest kid wants to play on a soccer team that requires the kids to be more committed than when they were younger. The parents can never get it together to get him to all the practices etc (and always blame it on having 3). so he’s getting dropped. Not fair to him. Make sense to me.

Could not agree more with the posters who are saying own your choices.

Life happens...whether you have 1 or 3 or a dozen kids.

I hate the way dcum judges parents of 3 or more. It's weird. Most of us juggle things and manage just fine.

Lastly: "the defining soccer game"? It's a little kid game. Period. You sound ridiculous. Soccer parents are the worst.

The kid is 8 - if he wants to play, he needs to show up. I'm not a 'soccer parent' - I just don't make my kids suffer the consequences of my decisions and had the number of kids I could handle.

Not judging having that many kids - IF YOU CAN HANDLE IT.

Missing a game shouldn't be the defining moment as to whether a kid can continue to play. Kids should be able to miss a practice or a game and still be on the team. The kid is 8 FFS. Eight.

FTR, I have a handful of kids, and a couple play multiple travel sports. I understand commitment. But you are way out of line IMHO passing judgment on a parent for missing a game. Get a grip.

OMG it was a freaking example. I'm not the coach and I don't make the decisions.

And yet you feel compelled to pass judgment on a person's parenting, even going so far as to say she had no business having 3 kids. Ridiculous.

Shall we judge your parenting and reproductive choices when we catch you on a bad day or when you seemingly drop a ball?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread underscores why I tend to avoid talking to moms.

I'm not a snob. I'm not aloof. I'm not shy. I'm not introverted. Rather, I recognize that so many moms are judgmental jerks...who tend to project their own insecurities, unhappiness, jealousy, etc. on other women for the most bizarre reasons. Did everyone catch the weird reference to soccer and being committed? That's classic weirdo mommy behavior.

Signed,

Mother of 4 who will smile and briefly chat before quickly moving along

What on earth are you talking about? Shes saying the oldest kid wants to play on a soccer team that requires the kids to be more committed than when they were younger. The parents can never get it together to get him to all the practices etc (and always blame it on having 3). so he’s getting dropped. Not fair to him. Make sense to me.

Could not agree more with the posters who are saying own your choices.

Life happens...whether you have 1 or 3 or a dozen kids.

I hate the way dcum judges parents of 3 or more. It's weird. Most of us juggle things and manage just fine.

Lastly: "the defining soccer game"? It's a little kid game. Period. You sound ridiculous. Soccer parents are the worst.

The kid is 8 - if he wants to play, he needs to show up. I'm not a 'soccer parent' - I just don't make my kids suffer the consequences of my decisions and had the number of kids I could handle.

Not judging having that many kids - IF YOU CAN HANDLE IT.

Missing a game shouldn't be the defining moment as to whether a kid can continue to play. Kids should be able to miss a practice or a game and still be on the team. The kid is 8 FFS. Eight.

FTR, I have a handful of kids, and a couple play multiple travel sports. I understand commitment. But you are way out of line IMHO passing judgment on a parent for missing a game. Get a grip.

OMG it was a freaking example. I'm not the coach and I don't make the decisions.

And yet you feel compelled to pass judgment on a person's parenting, even going so far as to say she had no business having 3 kids. Ridiculous.

Shall we judge your parenting and reproductive choices when we catch you on a bad day or when you seemingly drop a ball?

Who are you talking to? Why are you taking this so personally?

[Anonymous]

The only thing I complain about is how infrequently hotels build suites with 2 bedrooms. I've been looking in Santorini and can't find any.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The only thing I complain about is how infrequently hotels build suites with 2 bedrooms. I've been looking in Santorini and can't find any.

Yep.
We are a family with 4 kids, and that's why we didn't do any international travel (not including Canada) until our oldest two were in their mid teens and we felt comfortable with them being in a completely separate room (no connecting door) than us. We went to a major city in Europe and got 3 hotel rooms; the younger two were in a room that had a connecting door to our room.

[Anonymous]

LOL we have four and are constantly covering and giving rides for people with only one or two kids and working moms. this thread is a joke.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:LOL we have four and are constantly covering and giving rides for people with only one or two kids and working moms. this thread is a joke.

well not to the 10+ people agreeing with the OP, but ok.

and we get it, you don't want to work.

[Anonymous]

Yawn. Go away, OP. Envy is unbecoming.

[Anonymous]

I have three and I’m constantly covering for moms of two - child care, rides to activities, having the sibling tag along so mom can have downtime. It’s kind of funny actually.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yawn. Go away, OP. Envy is unbecoming.

I never understand comments like this. Are you totally incapable of reading comprehension?

Reminds me of the SAHM/WOHM conversations.

WOHM: I work by choice - financially we're great, but it has other benefits for me and for our family.
SAHM: YOU'RE JEALOUS!

Like, I literally could be you but I'm not. Not sure you understand the definition of jealousy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yawn. Go away, OP. Envy is unbecoming.

I never understand comments like this. Are you totally incapable of reading comprehension?

Reminds me of the SAHM/WOHM conversations.

WOHM: I work by choice - financially we're great, but it has other benefits for me and for our family.
SAHM: YOU'RE JEALOUS!

Like, I literally could be you but I'm not. Not sure you understand the definition of jealousy.

Jealousy is the only explanation for such vitriol and sweeping false generalizations. Sorry you don’t like it. Work on yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yawn. Go away, OP. Envy is unbecoming.

I never understand comments like this. Are you totally incapable of reading comprehension?

Reminds me of the SAHM/WOHM conversations.

WOHM: I work by choice - financially we're great, but it has other benefits for me and for our family.
SAHM: YOU'RE JEALOUS!

Like, I literally could be you but I'm not. Not sure you understand the definition of jealousy.

Jealousy is the only explanation for such vitriol and sweeping false generalizations. Sorry you don’t like it. Work on yourself.

But that's... not... what... jealousy...
oh, never mind.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yawn. Go away, OP. Envy is unbecoming.

I never understand comments like this. Are you totally incapable of reading comprehension?

Reminds me of the SAHM/WOHM conversations.

WOHM: I work by choice - financially we're great, but it has other benefits for me and for our family.
SAHM: YOU'RE JEALOUS!

Like, I literally could be you but I'm not. Not sure you understand the definition of jealousy.

Because you are acting jealous. You can say that you aren’t, but it sure seems like you are.
Why would you be mad that someone complains on an anonymous message board about something you never had and would never want?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:LOL we have four and are constantly covering and giving rides for people with only one or two kids and working moms. this thread is a joke.

Ditto.

What's one more kid when you already have a handful?