Do you judge other women’s engagement rings?

[Anonymous]

Judge like "that's pretty/that's not my taste/that would look crazy on me/how does that not bother her" - yes.

Judge in the sense that I'm jealous or think that she is more or less loved based on the size/presumed cost? No.

And if I ever had a predisposition to do the second, it was beaten out of me by reality - the richest couple I know opted for moissanite, and the second richest confessed hers was CZ after she lost it when we were out together one night.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I do.

Sometimes when I see a woman with a tiny diamond I wonder how cheap her husband must be to not bother to get her something nicer.

The larger the diamond the more I think her husband wanted to impress her/ show his love. Also that he’s rich.

I'm used to DCUM being shallow and having no perspective outside it's UMC bubble, but this is hilariously petty. I hope that, in the two years since OP shared this insightful line of questioning, she's found that her impressive love rock was a fake when she went to hock it after her rich husband left her for the newer model.

I love looking at other people's jewelry, but I'm more impressed by uniqueness or something that fits someone's personal style than by size.

[Anonymous]

I assume women with huge diamonds are high maintenance and that their husbands will get tired of that eventually.

[Anonymous]

I judge because "diamonds are cold" and a thing from the past. In the past when we thought they were worth something or showed something. We know better now and if you still get one I'm wondering what you want to say because they sure don't way that you are rich, special or that that your loves is somehow special.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I do.

Sometimes when I see a woman with a tiny diamond I wonder how cheap her husband must be to not bother to get her something nicer.

The larger the diamond the more I think her husband wanted to impress her/ show his love. Also that he’s rich.

That's fine, bitch, judge away. I have priorities and they don't include a stupid rock that's not even close to worth what your tiny dicked husband paid for it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Seriously?! Why would anyone even think of judging someone's degree of love for their spouse on the basis of an engagement ring?

I’m not judging love, I’m judging taste, income, and basic style. No one thinks love has any thinks to do with it. Go back to first grade.

[Anonymous]

When I see a woman with a tiny diamond I think “why even bother?” Just wear a nice band and call it a day. It’s such an odd choice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I assume women with huge diamonds are high maintenance and that their husbands will get tired of that eventually.

I assume they give better blow jobs than I do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When I see a woman with a tiny diamond I think “why even bother?” Just wear a nice band and call it a day. It’s such an odd choice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I judge women who show off huge stones. So much money wasted on a status symbol.

A little bit this. I think its likely either she is shallow or her husband thinks she’s shallow. But I really shouldn’t. I have a good friend with a big ring and its because her husband is from a family of women that wear pretty big gaudy jewelry so I think his meter is iust off as to what a normal size is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t judge, but ai notice and I concoct a backstory in my head. If someone has a small diamond, I assume they married young. If they at like me, early 40s with preschoolers, I wonder what fun things they did with alll the time before they had kids.

I have a largeish ring. It tells you I spent my 20s making money and met my husband in my mid-30s.

I married young by your standard (at 23 and had a 1 ct back then); we did so many things in our 20s with kids (my kids traveled to 35+ countries); I am in early 40s and my youngest one is in HS now, the others are in college. I upgraded my ring to a 3 ct when I turned 40. So what is your point?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I do.

Sometimes when I see a woman with a tiny diamond I wonder how cheap her husband must be to not bother to get her something nicer.

The larger the diamond the more I think her husband wanted to impress her/ show his love. Also that he’s rich.

I wear a plain, thin white gold band. What judgement would you make if you saw me?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The priest that married is said:

The more bridesmaids in a wedding party, the bigger odds they will divorce.

The same has been said about women that demand a huge diamond. The bigger the ring, the less happy the marriage.

... totally OT, but how is this possibly true? I have a big Catholic family with 3 sisters. Add a couple close friends and SILs and my wedding party was unintentionally huge.

Just like ring size, I think this is a total red herring

[Anonymous]

Small diamond assume married young. Big diamond I assume second marriage or it was an upgrade.

I find it charming to see middle aged or older women who are weathly but have smallish diamonds. Odds are it is their original ring and they didn't feel the need to upgrade- which is lovely

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The priest that married is said:

The more bridesmaids in a wedding party, the bigger odds they will divorce.

The same has been said about women that demand a huge diamond. The bigger the ring, the less happy the marriage.

... totally OT, but how is this possibly true? I have a big Catholic family with 3 sisters. Add a couple close friends and SILs and my wedding party was unintentionally huge.

Just like ring size, I think this is a total red herring

Probably makes the bride (and maybe groom also) more likely to be high maintenance. Obviously not every single person with a big wedding party is going to be high maintenance or materialistic, but I’m sure there’s some correlation there.