Do you judge other women’s engagement rings?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t judge, but ai notice and I concoct a backstory in my head. If someone has a small diamond, I assume they married young. If they at like me, early 40s with preschoolers, I wonder what fun things they did with alll the time before they had kids.

I have a largeish ring. It tells you I spent my 20s making money and met my husband in my mid-30s.

I married young by your standard (at 23 and had a 1 ct back then); we did so many things in our 20s with kids (my kids traveled to 35+ countries); I am in early 40s and my youngest one is in HS now, the others are in college. I upgraded my ring to a 3 ct when I turned 40. So what is your point?

Grey hair is trying soooooo hard to make herself important and special. Giant eye roll from another woman who didn’t wait until menopause to have children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I do.

Sometimes when I see a woman with a tiny diamond I wonder how cheap her husband must be to not bother to get her something nicer.

The larger the diamond the more I think her husband wanted to impress her/ show his love. Also that he’s rich.

I wear a plain, thin white gold band. What judgement would you make if you saw me?

You have excellent taste and are either very rich or very poor. Could go either way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Literally could not care less about other women's engagement rings. Well, if they are friends, I'm happy if their rings make them happy.

I do judge their levels of kindness, morality, and whether they are interesting and fun people, but that's another thread.

This.

I love it when people judge and make comments. Easy to weed those people out of my life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t judge, but ai notice and I concoct a backstory in my head. If someone has a small diamond, I assume they married young. If they at like me, early 40s with preschoolers, I wonder what fun things they did with alll the time before they had kids.

I have a largeish ring. It tells you I spent my 20s making money and met my husband in my mid-30s.

I married young by your standard (at 23 and had a 1 ct back then); we did so many things in our 20s with kids (my kids traveled to 35+ countries); I am in early 40s and my youngest one is in HS now, the others are in college. I upgraded my ring to a 3 ct when I turned 40. So what is your point?

Lol. First PP, I just want to make sure you know that women can continue to work after they marry. So while I married in my 20s, I also spent my 20s making money- but with my partner and best friend at my side. And like second pp, we travelled extensively with our kids. An extra plane ticket for a kid is like $800- so if you're in an income that allows you to travel, bringing along a kid or two won't break the bank.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t judge, but ai notice and I concoct a backstory in my head. If someone has a small diamond, I assume they married young. If they at like me, early 40s with preschoolers, I wonder what fun things they did with alll the time before they had kids.

I have a largeish ring. It tells you I spent my 20s making money and met my husband in my mid-30s.

I married young by your standard (at 23 and had a 1 ct back then); we did so many things in our 20s with kids (my kids traveled to 35+ countries); I am in early 40s and my youngest one is in HS now, the others are in college. I upgraded my ring to a 3 ct when I turned 40. So what is your point?

Grey hair is trying soooooo hard to make herself important and special. Giant eye roll from another woman who didn’t wait until menopause to have children.

NP here. You think having a kid at 38 = “waiting until menopause”?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband gave me a large family diamond. I judge all of you who have to go out and shop for one.

Me too. So trashy!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t judge, but ai notice and I concoct a backstory in my head. If someone has a small diamond, I assume they married young. If they at like me, early 40s with preschoolers, I wonder what fun things they did with alll the time before they had kids.

I have a largeish ring. It tells you I spent my 20s making money and met my husband in my mid-30s.

I married young by your standard (at 23 and had a 1 ct back then); we did so many things in our 20s with kids (my kids traveled to 35+ countries); I am in early 40s and my youngest one is in HS now, the others are in college. I upgraded my ring to a 3 ct when I turned 40. So what is your point?

Grey hair is trying soooooo hard to make herself important and special. Giant eye roll from another woman who didn’t wait until menopause to have children.

NP here. You think having a kid at 38 = “waiting until menopause”?

+1. I had kids in my 20’s and that comment struck me as unnecessarily bitchy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Literally could not care less about other women's engagement rings. Well, if they are friends, I'm happy if their rings make them happy.

I do judge their levels of kindness, morality, and whether they are interesting and fun people, but that's another thread.

This.

I love it when people judge and make comments. Easy to weed those people out of my life.

Agree with both of you. Can't believe people worry about this stuff.

[Anonymous]

This is a 2-year-old post and just as dumb today as the day it was posted in 2018.

[Anonymous]

Yeah I’m aware of big/ gaudy rings. Makes me think you’re into status symbols which indicates an insecurity. Labels, big rings, status symbol cars, they’re all an indication of how you judge yourself. And no, it’s not that I don’t own any because I’m also subject to consumerism and societal pressure in my profession/income bracket, but as time goes on I see what it’s all about and it feels shallow and ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I do.

Sometimes when I see a woman with a tiny diamond I wonder how cheap her husband must be to not bot

her to get her something nicer.

The larger the diamond the more I think her husband wanted to impress her/ show his love. Also that he’s rich.

I judge people with big diamonds because now I wonder who they exploited to get that diamond. Who did it hurt? I don't have a big one but, I regret getting it now I know more.

So, I am judging you for being so shallow.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I do.

Sometimes when I see a woman with a tiny diamond I wonder how cheap her husband must be to not bot

her to get her something nicer.

The larger the diamond the more I think her husband wanted to impress her/ show his love. Also that he’s rich.

I judge people with big diamonds because now I wonder who they exploited to get that diamond. Who did it hurt? I don't have a big one but, I regret getting it now I know more.

So, I am judging you for being so shallow.

I mean...smaller diamonds can also be blood diamonds. Do you still wear yours?

[Anonymous]

Anything less than 5 carat is trash?

[Anonymous]

I judge people who wear blood diamonds. A simple gold band looks most classy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I judge people who wear blood diamonds. A simple gold band looks most classy.

But how can you tell if they are blood diamonds, ethically sourced, or lab diamonds?