Do you judge other women’s engagement rings?

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Anonymous wrote:Have never thought about it or noticed other people's rings unless it's large enough to stand out (3+ carat stone). And I don't judge either way, nor do I count other people's money. Some of the wealthiest, most pedigreed people I know (the family-stepped-off-the-Mayflower kind) leave their giant heirloom solitaires at home unless it's a special occasion and wear simple wedding bands - the person I have in mind lives in comfortably worn no-name jeans and drives an 11 year old Range Rover. She has a fantastic designer wardrobe and handbag collection, but you would never see it on her in daily life. Only idiots make snap assumptions based on outward appearances.

My family stepped off the Mayflower and I don't have a "giant heirloom solitaire at home."

Wondering why your friend has "a fantastic designer wardrobe and handbag collection, but you would never see it on her in daily life." In what life -- if not the daily kind -- is she wearing this stuff?

Mayflower poster doesn’t grasp the power of exponential growth, methinks.

I’m a Mayflower descendant, too. There are approximately 35 million Mayflower descendants worldwide, 10 million or so in the USA. We are common like diamonds and many of us are just working class stiffs.

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Anonymous wrote:I actually notice the smaller diamonds in a positive light and assume they have been married a long time/married young which I find very sweet. My sister's husband now makes close to 7 figures but 27 years ago when they were sophomores in college and dying to get engaged a .35 diamond was a huge splurge. She was give a huge upgrade right for their 10th. She wore it maybe 3 months and then went back to her tiny yellow gold ring. She said when she looked at her new ring she thought nothing and when she looked at her "real" ring she remembered that summer of college where they were obsessed with eachother and madly madly in love.

This is such a sweet story. Yes I feel that people with smaller diamonds are the ones who got married earlier and don’t have generational wealth. I would never judge a woman on the size of her diamond (big or small). Kind of silly that OP does.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, When I see a ring, particularly a big ring, I see a woman who needed an expensive gift in order to see her spouse as worth marrying. I see a woman who needs a husband who is still very traditional and needs a husband who earns her love through gifts she can show off to prove to her friends he will be able to keep her and provide for her.

You all are kind of depressing me. I have a huge ring that’s a family heirloom- it’s the only thing i have that belonged to my dead grandmother. It’s ridiculously large, but it was free which was only s little less than we could have afforded at the time. A couple shallow friends told me i should “make” my husband buy me something else because the ring was free. We preferred to spend money saving for a house down payment instead.
Sometimes when i feel like I’m going to be judged i rotate my ring so the diamond is in my palm and it looks like a plain band

I wish the judgement was in my imagination, but you’re definitely confirming my worst fears

Naaa PP dont turn your ring around because you are afraid of being judged. Ignore these ppl. You should be judging them.

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Anonymous wrote:I have a non-traditional ring with colored stones, and I notice other rings with colored stones. Tradtional diamond rings I don't usually notice unless there's something unusual about them, and I definitely don't notice difference the difference in the size of the diamond in traditional rings. To each her own.

Yes I definitely notice the different stones! I think that either they must be really rich or have a more unique style As a middle easterner who was raised to believe that jewelry is something that should hold value I think it’s great when women don’t wear diamond rings because their value doesn’t hold. That being said I have a diamond pave wedding ring lol. Don’t have a diamond engagement ring because the tradition is to receive a whole jewelry set (necklace, ring, bracelet and earring).

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I always notice rings. But I love gems; I think it goes back to my grandfather being a geologist. My first science fair project in early elementary was about how geodes form.

So I love looking at big rocks. I got my nails done yesterday and kept looking at the big diamond the woman next to me was wearing (it had to have been close to 3 carats). I love little rocks too. Mine is 1.5 carats.

Judge the women wearing them? No, lol. Judging means drawing a conclusion -- and to draw a conclusion, any kind of one --- based on a ring makes zero sense. Funny that some people on here think it does, but it isn't surprising.

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I admit that I am judgmental of women who still think an e-ring is a status symbol of some sort. It's not.

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Anonymous wrote:I admit that I am judgmental of women who still think an e-ring is a status symbol of some sort. It's not.

Yes it is. Whether you like it or not, it is.

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Anonymous wrote:I do.

Sometimes when I see a woman with a tiny diamond I wonder how cheap her husband must be to not bother to get her something nicer.

The larger the diamond the more I think her husband wanted to impress her/ show his love. Also that he’s rich.

No, but I've noticed them more as I approach my late 30s. I often notice white women with huge diamonds. Is it a cultural thing? I know many affluent, non-white women, and it's much less common to see one with a conspicuous diamond. Yet everywhere I go where you see middle class/somewhat affluent white woman, I notice the big ring. Sometimes I'll admire an interesting cut or setting, but most of the time they look a little garish to me.

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Yes. Tiny stones on older women look sad. I think bigger stones on younger women look gauche too.Once you've hit your 40s, you can wear 4cts plus and not look ridiculous.

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Anonymous wrote:I admit that I am judgmental of women who still think an e-ring is a status symbol of some sort. It's not.

Yes it is. Whether you like it or not, it is.

No, not with lab diamonds around.

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Anonymous wrote:I do.

Sometimes when I see a woman with a tiny diamond I wonder how cheap her husband must be to not bother to get her something nicer.

The larger the diamond the more I think her husband wanted to impress her/ show his love. Also that he’s rich.

No, but I've noticed them more as I approach my late 30s. I often notice white women with huge diamonds. Is it a cultural thing? I know many affluent, non-white women, and it's much less common to see one with a conspicuous diamond. Yet everywhere I go where you see middle class/somewhat affluent white woman, I notice the big ring. Sometimes I'll admire an interesting cut or setting, but most of the time they look a little garish to me.

Maybe in the US, those new money types. I have lived abroad and lots of white women (even those with wealthy husbands) either wear a plain gold band or at most 1ct.

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The bigger the stone, the smaller the peen.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes. Tiny stones on older women look sad. I think bigger stones on younger women look gauche too.Once you've hit your 40s, you can wear 4cts plus and not look ridiculous.

What's wrong with tiny stones?

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Anonymous wrote:Yes. Tiny stones on older women look sad. I think bigger stones on younger women look gauche too.Once you've hit your 40s, you can wear 4cts plus and not look ridiculous.

Not really though

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Anonymous wrote:The bigger the stone, the smaller the peen.

I know that you're joking but you make a point. There's so much judgement about the women wearing the ring, when it's the man who decides which rings to buy most of the time. I've known many men insisting on bigger/fancier/more expensive rings because to them the ring is an extension of their own status. I personally find this nauseating, and the reason why I don't judge a man's love by the ring they get their women.