My cleaning lady stole my engagement ring (and other jewelry) - what to do?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Alright, so what happened when you asked her about the missing box of jewelry, OP?

I am guessing the cleaning lady said "No, I haven't seen it but I will keep an eye out for it. Have you checked little Larla and little Larlo's room? I often find your vibrator in there, I guess they think it's a "toy"...."

Do you always answer questions directed at other people?

No. (NP)

Now that's funny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. My cleaning lady encouraged me to file a police report and check my cameras (she is aware of them, but does not know that we don't have one in our master).

No luck finding it so far.

So are you willing to admit now that it wasn't the cleaning lady?

[Anonymous]

TRUE STORY- A decade ago a new American Ambassador arrived at his post in Bangkok Thailand. While moving into the official residence his wife discovered some of her jewelry missing.
The new Ambassador fired the entire domestic staff, some of has been employed for over thirty years.
A week later the Ambassadors' wife found her missing jewelry-she had put it away and didn't remember.

[Anonymous]

Backstory: OP lost her ring (probably down a drain while washing dish), didn't want to admit that it was her fault so used her cleaning lady as a scapegoat, created thread on DCUM about it as "proof" for her husband.

Be more careful with your valuables and stop misplacing them. And ffs stop blaming the poor cleaning lady. At this point based on all the "evidence", I'd be more inclined to believe that you made the whole thing up for an insurance claim at your cleaners expense... if the ring was worth more than it's sentimental value.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:TRUE STORY- A decade ago a new American Ambassador arrived at his post in Bangkok Thailand. While moving into the official residence his wife discovered some of her jewelry missing.
The new Ambassador fired the entire domestic staff, some of has been employed for over thirty years.
A week later the Ambassadors' wife found her missing jewelry-she had put it away and didn't remember.

Wow, way to be diplomatic there, Ambassador. And I bet he never apologized to all the hard working people he unceremoniously shitcanned upon arrival.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. My cleaning lady encouraged me to file a police report and check my cameras (she is aware of them, but does not know that we don't have one in our master).

No luck finding it so far.

So are you willing to admit now that it wasn't the cleaning lady?

Can you check the cameras to see if they captured anyone in the hall outside of your bedroom or coming from that direction? (if you are able/placement)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Backstory: OP lost her ring (probably down a drain while washing dish), didn't want to admit that it was her fault so used her cleaning lady as a scapegoat, created thread on DCUM about it as "proof" for her husband.

Be more careful with your valuables and stop misplacing them. And ffs stop blaming the poor cleaning lady. At this point based on all the "evidence", I'd be more inclined to believe that you made the whole thing up for an insurance claim at your cleaners expense... if the ring was worth more than it's sentimental value.

This is laughable. If I had to create a DCUM thread to prove something like this to my husband, I have lost more than jewelry during the course of this marriage. What a joke.

[Anonymous]

Our iPad went missing years ago. We were confident the cleaning lady stole it.

A year later, we moved. Found the iPad wedged between the headboard and the wall.

[Anonymous]

Housekeepers are statistically the most honest employees.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Backstory: OP lost her ring (probably down a drain while washing dish), didn't want to admit that it was her fault so used her cleaning lady as a scapegoat, created thread on DCUM about it as "proof" for her husband.

Be more careful with your valuables and stop misplacing them. And ffs stop blaming the poor cleaning lady. At this point based on all the "evidence", I'd be more inclined to believe that you made the whole thing up for an insurance claim at your cleaners expense... if the ring was worth more than it's sentimental value.

This is laughable. If I had to create a DCUM thread to prove something like this to my husband, I have lost more than jewelry during the course of this marriage. What a joke.

Yes, but what isn't laughable is that you completely skirt the issue of whether you've apologized to your cleaning lady. You've been absolutely bratty about her, confirming over and over that she's the only possible person who could take it, you've talked with her and she's encouraged you to check your video footage which she thinks would show who stole it, and file a police report (neither of which is a suggestion of someone who was guilty), but you haven't apologized to your cleaning lady for being a classist ass by assuming it had to be the hired help because you, your mother, your sister, your children are all completely above reproach, but probably the most honest and hard-working person of the entire lot is not.

If you can't swallow your pride to apologize to her, make sure you give her a big tip or a big holiday bonus this year to make up for impugning her honesty to save your own family face. And get on searching those video records. Sheesh, it's been 2 weeks and you haven't done it yet? Either this jewelry is real crap and only has sentimental value but not real value, or you are so jaded with your own wealth that you don't care if you've lost expensive jewelry. You didn't insure it and you aren't making any real effort to report it to the police or search your own video records to find it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here.
There is literally no other explanation. Only my parents and my close cousin who is like a sister have visited me. They are even more unlikely than a non-related family member like the cleaner. We have not had anyone else visit during the last several weeks when these items went missing. I've searched EVERYWHERE.

Your parents, your close cousin, your husband or your children are as likely as your cleaning lady. Or you lost them.

Unless you have hard evidence that the cleaning lady did it, you need to leave it alone.

[Anonymous]

I still think it was the cousin. Any chance any of the jewelry was family heirlooms-- maybe ones that there had been debate about who would inherit?

[Anonymous]

My mom is a housekeeper. She is around thousands and thousands of $ worth of jewelry. She has found lost rings, earrings, etc that her clients have lost or things that roll under the bed. Lost money, everything. My mom is so honest and always returns the items. Her clients have kept her for years- decades.

There is one client who (according to my mom) is passive agressive and always asks her "have you seen my X? It was here the last time you were here" about items all the time. Stupid things like cups, mugs, inconsequential items. My mom feels like she is being accused of stealing. She usually finds the item in random spots.

[Anonymous]

I had a workman in my home and after he left an expensive piece of equipment was gone too. I was convinced he took it. Called his boss and everything. Two days later I found it in a tote bag I'd packed it in to take somewhere with me. That plan had gotten canceled so the tote bag just sat there in my room.

The second I found it, I called the guy's boss and apologized profusely - his job was safe because he had worked there for years. My next call was to a neurologist to make an appointment to have my memory tested. Losing things and blaming others is an early sign of Alzheimers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Housekeepers are statistically the most honest employees.

My housekeeper found my diamond eternity band that had been missing for 2 years, I thought I had lost it and was so close to filing an insurance claim. They just found it moving furniture to vacuum. And left it on top of my dresser. I will never fire them! They could have kept it, I never would have been the wiser. Some are very, VERY honest.