Mom leaves her baby in the car at daycare pickup wwyd?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Pediatricians say don't leave your child in a car.

Police say don't leave your child in a car.

Daycare directors/principals/teachers say don't leave your child in a car.

How about listen to these experts/professionals and DON'T LEAVE YOUR CHILD IN A CAR.

They have to say that so mouthbreathers don't live their kid in a car for 5 hours to play Keno and smoke Winstons.

Pretty sure the kid in question here will be just fine

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm pretty lax about this stuff, but it's never okay to leave a baby in a car alone. Tell the daycare, OP. Mom needs to suck it up with nap schedules like we all do. Get a snap n go or something.

I fully agree. I'm usually one to jump all over people being ridiculous but I would never leave a baby in a running car in a public place out of my sight. Tell the center. There's a reason it's illegal.

[Anonymous]

Can someone please explain to me how he child is any more at risk being left in the car for 2 minutes than being driven around in the first place!?!

Frankly, as a public transit user, I have no idea how moms convince them selves it's ok to drive their kids around daily in the first place. Getting rear ended or some other accident is definitely the real risk when it comes to putting your kid in a car. And don't get me started on moms speeding and running lights (which OP may very well do all the time for all we know!)

I mean sure, people leave their babies in the car while they go get high and forget about the baby, but that's not what's going on here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Pediatricians say don't leave your child in a car.

Police say don't leave your child in a car.

Daycare directors/principals/teachers say don't leave your child in a car.

How about listen to these experts/professionals and DON'T LEAVE YOUR CHILD IN A CAR.

They have to say that so mouthbreathers don't live their kid in a car for 5 hours to play Keno and smoke Winstons.

Pretty sure the kid in question here will be just fine

Yeah, this. As long as the mom doesn't screw around and gossip or something, it's fine.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It wasn't always convenient, but when I sometimes took older DD1 to daycare when I was on maternity leave with DD2, I absolutely always took DD2 out of the car with me to pick up DD1.

You people are absolutely crazy. You don't leave a baby or kid alone in a car, ever, period, end of story.

I agree. And who on earth gets in/out of the school in 2 minutes flat during pick up?

This is what I'm thinking - you should talk to the mom OP, and find out what kind of wizardry she employs to retreive a toddler from a building in 2 minutes. That is amazing. Report back on that.

As for the baby in the car, I wouldn't do it, but I don't think it's the kind of thing that requires heroic intervention from strangers unless you think the child is in imminent danger (i.e. clearly overheating, or someone other than the person you saw leave the car is heading toward it). I'd give the lady the benefit of the doubt that she's thought through all the possible consequences and is doing this in the safest way possible. Maybe she has an automatic starter to allow the car to run when it's completely not drivable. Hell maybe she has a baby monitor system set up. So yeah, another MYOB vote.

+1

I don't leave my kid in the car, ever, but in a situation like this, I wouldn't feel like I needed to take any action at all. This is not someone who might leave the baby in the car for an hour. And while I suppose it's possible that someone might stumble across the car and decide to steal it or kidnap the baby, it doesn't seem all that probable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Pediatricians say don't leave your child in a car.

Police say don't leave your child in a car.

Daycare directors/principals/teachers say don't leave your child in a car.

How about listen to these experts/professionals and DON'T LEAVE YOUR CHILD IN A CAR.

This.

[Anonymous]

People like the OP are exactly why I can't leave my baby in the car while I drop the older child off at preschool despite the fact that there is line of sight from her room out to the car lot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can someone please explain to me how he child is any more at risk being left in the car for 2 minutes than being driven around in the first place!?!

Frankly, as a public transit user, I have no idea how moms convince them selves it's ok to drive their kids around daily in the first place. Getting rear ended or some other accident is definitely the real risk when it comes to putting your kid in a car. And don't get me started on moms speeding and running lights (which OP may very well do all the time for all we know!)

I mean sure, people leave their babies in the car while they go get high and forget about the baby, but that's not what's going on here.

Yep. Total point. Kid is at more risk on the beltway being exposed to the off gassing from your foam carseat than the two minutes the car is parked and stationary.

I once saw a car double parked, hazard lights on, with a sleeping baby in the back seat. Know what I did? I stood there for the three minutes it took for the mother to come running downstairs and get in her car. Did I say anhthing? No. I just watched becuase god forbid, in a similar emergency, I would expect some other mother to do the same. They are all our kids. We are all in this together.

Except OP. She can take her bootstraps and use them to tie her children to her back.

[Anonymous]

I'll be the one useful poster here -- I would contact the director and ask that they send out a reminder not to leave children unattended in cars (running or not) in the parking lot. This is actually a huge liability risk on the part of the center - what if it's an older child who can get out of the car and then gets hit by another car? Our center actually recently sent out a similar email about this sort of thing, so it's not uncommon.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'll be the one useful poster here -- I would contact the director and ask that they send out a reminder not to leave children unattended in cars (running or not) in the parking lot. This is actually a huge liability risk on the part of the center - what if it's an older child who can get out of the car and then gets hit by another car? Our center actually recently sent out a similar email about this sort of thing, so it's not uncommon.

Yeah, this has been suggested at least twice already. Good idea though.

[Anonymous]

What I would do is the decide whether I felt I needed to say something to the center director, or my mind my business. I'm a grown adult and feel comfortable in my own decision-making in this situation. What I wouldn't do is create a post on DCUM for advice. Because IMO, the only reason for this kind of post is to shame the mom who left the kid in the car. We moms need to help each other instead of competing and judging.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What I would do is the decide whether I felt I needed to say something to the center director, or my mind my business. I'm a grown adult and feel comfortable in my own decision-making in this situation. What I wouldn't do is create a post on DCUM for advice. Because IMO, the only reason for this kind of post is to shame the mom who left the kid in the car. We moms need to help each other instead of competing and judging.

It's better than gossiping about it in the preschool. Especially if it turns out that she was WRONG. Maybe there was a grown up or responsible older kid in the car that the Op didn't see. Maybe another mom was watching the vehicle from her car.

It's better to see a concern like this voiced on an anonymous thread than whispers and gossip in the halls of a preschool...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'll be sure to find this thread and leave a "Bump" comment the next time a child is snatched from a car, or a child suffocates inside a car. And trust me, there will be a next time. So sad.

Here ya go. Cop's kid

Two Long Beach police officers are on paid administrative leave after a child was left in a hot car and died shortly afterward Friday.

Mom and other cop were "visiting" for 4 hours.

http://www.clarionledger.com/story/news/local/2016/10/02/coast-toddler-dies-hot-car/91434238/

The sad thing too is that baby was taken from the cop before and given back to her killer.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Ask the mom iif she wants me to stand by her car for the two minutes she is gone.

This is the right thing to do. And if you can't be bothered, MYOB. It takes a village. I'm sure this arrangement isn't this mom's first choice, but she has weighed the risk and deemed the alternative (waking the sleeping baby) worse than the outside risk. We all do this every day and are doing the best we can.

Pick up baby in car seat, put in snap and go, go inside. Really not that hard. We have all done it.

Unless the sun is very strong & the car is not shaded &/or left with the a/c on, the baby is far more likely to be injured or killed while crossing the parking lot in a stroller than kidnapped or otherwise harmed while left in the car for a few minutes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'll be sure to find this thread and leave a "Bump" comment the next time a child is snatched from a car, or a child suffocates inside a car. And trust me, there will be a next time. So sad.

What about the next time a child is killed in a parking lot? En route to or from where the parent's car is parked on the street & the school/store/post office/drycleaners?