Mom leaves her baby in the car at daycare pickup wwyd?

[Anonymous]

When I was a kid in the 70's my mom left me in the car alone regularly and no one said a word or cared. How times have changed. Now you can have the cops called on you for it. Its overkill, really. Carjacking is pretty unlikely for one thing because you can lock your car remotely while its running and so you must be imagining a break in/steal not an actual carjacking. What other dangers are we imagining the child faces exactly. AC can be left running for 2 minutes. I am unclear as to the imminent danger the child faces in 120 seconds.

[Anonymous]

I do it almost daily. I know which spot to park in to not get caught too. Thankfully the school year is conducive to normal climate conditions and I'm capable of running in and out without getting distracted.

MYOB OP

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Anonymous wrote:Title says it all- there's a mom who has a napping baby in the car while she picks up her kid from daycare. She has to enter the building, go around the corner, sign out the kid, and get back to the car. Car is running. There isn't normally space right out front-but it's not a far walk. I timed it-child is unaccompanied in the car for about two minutes. Say something? Or MYOB.

Since you have the time to time her while she's away from the car, Why don't you ask her if she'd like for you to stay at the car and watch her sleeping baby while she runs in to grab her kid? That would probably be the best way to help out a fellow parent who appears to be juggling conpeting schedules for her kids.

OP, you could learn a lot from this poster and 00:27, who both came at this situation from a compassionate, helpful angle.

Too bad you are too self-absorbed to listen to them.

Are you really suggesting that I coordinate my daily schedule with this women so I can stand by her car for two extra minutes every day?

You're missing the point. You immediately think about how you can get this woman in trouble (timing her? Really?). A good person, like the PPs, would ask first how they can help this woman. Shame on you.

You're missing the point. I'm not timing her to get her in trouble. I'm timing her to make sure the baby isn't alone in a car for an unreasonable amount of time. And I'm not trying to "get her in trouble". Please grow up. I'm trying to gauge whether this behavior is sufficiently risky that I should raise it with her or have the center raise it with her. And I can't reorganize my life to make sure I coincide with her at daycare so I can stand by her car or check out her child (which would not even be permissible). So please stop obsessing about this-it's not going to happen.

Backpedal, rewrite, deflect, backpedal some more...

Or...just read my post where I said EXACTLY that.

"I don't want to spend my free time helping her out."

That's right, I don't. If you had bothered to read further you will also see why I timed her and it was not to "get her in trouble". I have my own family to take care of. I'm interested in the welfare of the kid, not interested in becoming part of her village, nor is it realistic. I guess the question, since I have to spell it out for dense and obsessive people like yourself is GOING FORWARD should I raise it with her/the center. Since, as previously noted, I cannot time my entire life to meet her at daycare and stand by her car.

Yeah, I mean, just because her child goes to your child's school, why should you be part of her village? Don't we know how important and busy you are?

Come on now, enough with the "village thing". The mother is 100% capable of watching her own child and it is 100% that mother's responsibility to do so. Op doesn't want the responsibility of watching the child (Op has her own kids to watch), she just feels uneasy seeing the child left alone in a running car. I can understand that.

I would make vague mention of it to the director and ask her to put out a letter reminding parents not to leave their kids alone in the preschool parking lot. No need to get all Cagney and Lacy with surveillance - just something vague "Oh, I think I saw someone leave a little one alone in their car the other day during pick up. Maybe you should put out a reminder about that?" The end. Done.

So now its my responsibility to care for my kids AND your 'uneasiness' threshold?

MYOB. There was nothing wrong here, the danger was minute. A carjacker going into a parking lot at a daycare center with other parents visible in cars???? The odds of being carjacked are already very small, infinitesimal in this situation.

All these people on their high horse here god. I hope you never get overwhelmed and make one slightly easier choice for the sake of convenience, if karma exists someone will definitely call CPS on you and ruin your life!

[Anonymous]

Eh...It's a relatively safe environment - other parents near by, only 2 minutes out of sight, what would change if baby cried - nothing, etc.

It's what you gotta do when you have more than 1 kid.

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Anonymous wrote:Would any of you leave a $1 million diamond necklace in plain view in your vehicle, and then leave your vehicle out in public?

No. No, you would not.

Ask yourself why you would be more careful with a piece of jewelry than with your child.

The jewelry probably has a higher resale value than some random used kid.

This! Nobody wants a random baby.

Right? No one's going to steal anything (baby or not) from a daycare parking lot with a bunch of people milling about.

I could see the concern if the car was parked in a deserted corner of a huge supermarket parking lot. Not a busy daycare!

Uh...what? Daycare is the PERFECT place to take a kid out of a car. Nobody would think anything of a crying toddler, and the person taking the baby would be saying something like, "Oh, you just woke up, pumpkin! Don't worry, we'll go inside and get Big Brother in just a second..."

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It wasn't always convenient, but when I sometimes took older DD1 to daycare when I was on maternity leave with DD2, I absolutely always took DD2 out of the car with me to pick up DD1.

You people are absolutely crazy. You don't leave a baby or kid alone in a car, ever, period, end of story.

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Anonymous wrote:Would any of you leave a $1 million diamond necklace in plain view in your vehicle, and then leave your vehicle out in public?

No. No, you would not.

Ask yourself why you would be more careful with a piece of jewelry than with your child.

Way more people interested in stealing a diamond necklace than a baby. Like, way way way way more people. I am an intelligent human capable of understanding that while a diamond necklace and my baby may both be extremely valuable to me (the baby is MORE valuable) they are not equally valuable/appealing to anyone else in the entire world. I would also leave the pineapple trivet I kept from my Grandmother after she died out in the open in my car despite that being priceless to me, because I understand the market value of a 50 year old brass pineapple trivet.

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Anonymous wrote:Would any of you leave a $1 million diamond necklace in plain view in your vehicle, and then leave your vehicle out in public?

No. No, you would not.

Ask yourself why you would be more careful with a piece of jewelry than with your child.

The jewelry probably has a higher resale value than some random used kid.

This! Nobody wants a random baby.

Right? No one's going to steal anything (baby or not) from a daycare parking lot with a bunch of people milling about.

I could see the concern if the car was parked in a deserted corner of a huge supermarket parking lot. Not a busy daycare!

Uh...what? Daycare is the PERFECT place to take a kid out of a car. Nobody would think anything of a crying toddler, and the person taking the baby would be saying something like, "Oh, you just woke up, pumpkin! Don't worry, we'll go inside and get Big Brother in just a second..."

Don't worry about going inside..."Big Brother" is already everywhere.

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Anonymous wrote:It wasn't always convenient, but when I sometimes took older DD1 to daycare when I was on maternity leave with DD2, I absolutely always took DD2 out of the car with me to pick up DD1.

You people are absolutely crazy. You don't leave a baby or kid alone in a car, ever, period, end of story.

I agree. And who on earth gets in/out of the school in 2 minutes flat during pick up?

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Anonymous wrote:Would any of you leave a $1 million diamond necklace in plain view in your vehicle, and then leave your vehicle out in public?

No. No, you would not.

Ask yourself why you would be more careful with a piece of jewelry than with your child.

The jewelry probably has a higher resale value than some random used kid.

This! Nobody wants a random baby.

Right? No one's going to steal anything (baby or not) from a daycare parking lot with a bunch of people milling about.

I could see the concern if the car was parked in a deserted corner of a huge supermarket parking lot. Not a busy daycare!

Uh...what? Daycare is the PERFECT place to take a kid out of a car. Nobody would think anything of a crying toddler, and the person taking the baby would be saying something like, "Oh, you just woke up, pumpkin! Don't worry, we'll go inside and get Big Brother in just a second..."

So....is this predator getting out of his car, opening every car until he magically finds one with a baby inside, and then transferring baby to his car? LOL.

Or is he approaching on foot, trying to open car doors? If he can't get it open, is he bashing in the window? "don't mind me...locked myself out!"

In front of a group?

Yeah, ok.

Thieves aren't hanging out in busy daycare parking lots waiting to snatch your Honda Pilot and/or your kid

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Anonymous wrote:It wasn't always convenient, but when I sometimes took older DD1 to daycare when I was on maternity leave with DD2, I absolutely always took DD2 out of the car with me to pick up DD1.

You people are absolutely crazy. You don't leave a baby or kid alone in a car, ever, period, end of story.

I agree. And who on earth gets in/out of the school in 2 minutes flat during pick up?

I get in and out of my daycare in less than that. Small classroom.

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Anonymous wrote:It wasn't always convenient, but when I sometimes took older DD1 to daycare when I was on maternity leave with DD2, I absolutely always took DD2 out of the car with me to pick up DD1.

You people are absolutely crazy. You don't leave a baby or kid alone in a car, ever, period, end of story.

I agree. And who on earth gets in/out of the school in 2 minutes flat during pick up?

This is what I'm thinking - you should talk to the mom OP, and find out what kind of wizardry she employs to retreive a toddler from a building in 2 minutes. That is amazing. Report back on that.

As for the baby in the car, I wouldn't do it, but I don't think it's the kind of thing that requires heroic intervention from strangers unless you think the child is in imminent danger (i.e. clearly overheating, or someone other than the person you saw leave the car is heading toward it). I'd give the lady the benefit of the doubt that she's thought through all the possible consequences and is doing this in the safest way possible. Maybe she has an automatic starter to allow the car to run when it's completely not drivable. Hell maybe she has a baby monitor system set up. So yeah, another MYOB vote.

[Anonymous]

I'll be sure to find this thread and leave a "Bump" comment the next time a child is snatched from a car, or a child suffocates inside a car. And trust me, there will be a next time. So sad.

[Anonymous]

Pediatricians say don't leave your child in a car.

Police say don't leave your child in a car.

Daycare directors/principals/teachers say don't leave your child in a car.

How about listen to these experts/professionals and DON'T LEAVE YOUR CHILD IN A CAR.

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Anonymous wrote:I'll be sure to find this thread and leave a "Bump" comment the next time a child is snatched from a car, or a child suffocates inside a car. And trust me, there will be a next time. So sad.

That'll show us.