Dating/marrying outside of your social class?

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Anonymous wrote:I was wondering how often this happens? I know of two coworkers who are married to blue collar men. I was surprised when I found out. Felt a little sorry for them like the had to settle, but they are both pretty charming smart and nice. I immediately rule on guys based on education and or profession. I just didn't think differences like that could work. Am I wrong?

"There are no blue collar men, only blue collar jobs." - a quote from my dad, a line cook who put 3 kids through college, and we are now a doctor, a lawyer, and university professor.

Your father is a great man.

See I think this is the whole point. Is this person blue collar financially but smart, driven, creative, intellectual, curious ? Or is this person blue collar socially/class-wise. Great people so shitty jobs sometimes- or for many years. It is the people and their class/culture that makes the difference

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Anonymous wrote:I have a masters degree and a white collar job but I happily date blue collar guys if they are smart and interesting and can fix stuff. I find competent people very sexy. Some white-collar guys seem so helpless when they have no practical skills. So I've dated cops, firemen, military, contractors, electricians, etc.

My DH is a surgeon. I think he is similar to a blue collar worker. I don't find him intellectually stimulating. I assume it would be the same if I were married to a plumber, construction worker, fireman, etc.

My DH is a law firm partner. He has not once been to an art opening or the ballet. Just intellectually limited and not creative. I think it has to do with the person and the color of their collar. I used to have a construction worker/sculptor boyfriend who was wildly imaginative and intellectually stimulating. He would make art work out of discarded parts from his day job.

Well THAT guy sounds HOT. but let me tell you most of them are not like that. They look down on art, creativity, and intellectualism. Hang out and really talk to people for a while. It is a cultural thing and source of pride for them. Flame away.

You seem rather sheltered.

Plenty of white collar workers are quite backwards, culturally. I've knew a truck driver with a degree from an art school (Incidentally, that's why you shouldn't go to art school). He was quite well-read and articulate, but was never able to get much of a career going due to his curious and easily distractable nature. Many highly intelligent people end up in humble walks of life due to their lack of focus, and lack of interest in conventional definitions of "success."