Dating/marrying outside of your social class?

[Anonymous]

I work for a female law partner. She's married to a fireman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a masters degree and a white collar job but I happily date blue collar guys if they are smart and interesting and can fix stuff. I find competent people very sexy. Some white-collar guys seem so helpless when they have no practical skills. So I've dated cops, firemen, military, contractors, electricians, etc.

My DH is a surgeon. I think he is similar to a blue collar worker. I don't find him intellectually stimulating. I assume it would be the same if I were married to a plumber, construction worker, fireman, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a masters degree and a white collar job but I happily date blue collar guys if they are smart and interesting and can fix stuff. I find competent people very sexy. Some white-collar guys seem so helpless when they have no practical skills. So I've dated cops, firemen, military, contractors, electricians, etc.

My DH is a surgeon. I think he is similar to a blue collar worker. I don't find him intellectually stimulating. I assume it would be the same if I were married to a plumber, construction worker, fireman, etc.

My DH is a law firm partner. He has not once been to an art opening or the ballet. Just intellectually limited and not creative. I think it has to do with the person and the color of their collar. I used to have a construction worker/sculptor boyfriend who was wildly imaginative and intellectually stimulating. He would make art work out of discarded parts from his day job.

[Anonymous]

I think it has to do with the person and the NOT color of their collar.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a masters degree and a white collar job but I happily date blue collar guys if they are smart and interesting and can fix stuff. I find competent people very sexy. Some white-collar guys seem so helpless when they have no practical skills. So I've dated cops, firemen, military, contractors, electricians, etc.

My DH is a surgeon. I think he is similar to a blue collar worker. I don't find him intellectually stimulating. I assume it would be the same if I were married to a plumber, construction worker, fireman, etc.

.hahaha this is laughable. Pretty sure you wouldn't have married him if his salary was similar to blue collar. What a joke!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was wondering how often this happens? I know of two coworkers who are married to blue collar men. I was surprised when I found out. Felt a little sorry for them like the had to settle, but they are both pretty charming smart and nice. I immediately rule on guys based on education and or profession. I just didn't think differences like that could work. Am I wrong?

Dead wrong.

People attract to each other for different reasons. What you do for a living doesn't define who you are as a person.

Try to go out and actually live your life to meet people if that's your goal. Stop wasting time asking these kinds of questions on DCUM or else I'm going to have go with the "+1" responses for why you're single.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a masters degree and a white collar job but I happily date blue collar guys if they are smart and interesting and can fix stuff. I find competent people very sexy. Some white-collar guys seem so helpless when they have no practical skills. So I've dated cops, firemen, military, contractors, electricians, etc.

My DH is a surgeon. I think he is similar to a blue collar worker. I don't find him intellectually stimulating. I assume it would be the same if I were married to a plumber, construction worker, fireman, etc.

My DH is a law firm partner. He has not once been to an art opening or the ballet. Just intellectually limited and not creative. I think it has to do with the person and the color of their collar. I used to have a construction worker/sculptor boyfriend who was wildly imaginative and intellectually stimulating. He would make art work out of discarded parts from his day job.

I am a DH who is a law firm partner and my job is intellectual enough, thank you, and my clients appreciate my creativity. Sadly, though, I do not make art work out of discarded briefs or indentures. Have you thought about asking your husband about his job? His work may not be as accessible as the ballet, but perhaps you would appreciate him more if you understood what he puts into his work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was wondering how often this happens? I know of two coworkers who are married to blue collar men. I was surprised when I found out. Felt a little sorry for them like the had to settle, but they are both pretty charming smart and nice. I immediately rule on guys based on education and or profession. I just didn't think differences like that could work. Am I wrong?

Feel sorry for your narrow perspective. Pray, are you married yet? Any of those eligible education professional guys into you?

[Anonymous]

Pretty common. Probably more common that you realize, but a lot of people don't go out of their way to talk about it because they know how judge mental people like you can be.

[Anonymous]

I'm an early-thirties attractive woman with a couple of advanced degrees under my belt. A few years ago I met a man at a wedding who worked at a water treatment facility. Even though he was in his early forties, he surfed almost every day and spoke "surfer" (for example, "stoked"). Never in my wildest dreams would I thought I'd fall for him. But you know what? He made me laugh, he challenged me, we could talk for hours, and he was incredibly considerate. He had a way of lighting up a room and making anyone -- even a complete stranger -- totally at ease. Oh yeah, and he was amazing in bed. Unfortunately, he died about a year and a half later.

People are people. You figure out the qualities you need and search for them, not the job title.

[Anonymous]

There are definitely blue collar men. My FIL is the classic ignorant, bigoted, bitter blue collar white man that forms the backbone of the republican party. Due to his lack of education, he is unworldly, too stupid to know he is stupid, and believes all sorts of racist canards. I have met many cops, firefighters, plumbers etc like him. It is not very often that I meet white collar professionals who are so unintelligent and backwards.

[Anonymous]

Although I am pretty sure my family would flip out if I married someone less educated than myself/from a different class, I don't really care. I want a man who can make me laugh and give me butterflies in my stomach. I couldn't care less where he went to school or how much he makes. As long as both people are on the same page about things, I think the marriage ll work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are definitely blue collar men. My FIL is the classic ignorant, bigoted, bitter blue collar white man that forms the backbone of the republican party. Due to his lack of education, he is unworldly, too stupid to know he is stupid, and believes all sorts of racist canards. I have met many cops, firefighters, plumbers etc like him. It is not very often that I meet white collar professionals who are so unintelligent and backwards.

What about our current politicians and presidential hopefuls?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There are definitely blue collar men. My FIL is the classic ignorant, bigoted, bitter blue collar white man that forms the backbone of the republican party. Due to his lack of education, he is unworldly, too stupid to know he is stupid, and believes all sorts of racist canards. I have met many cops, firefighters, plumbers etc like him. It is not very often that I meet white collar professionals who are so unintelligent and backwards.

What about our current politicians and presidential hopefuls?

Their Republican candidates' supporters are overwhelmingly blue collar white males for a reason. Imagine those candidates every bit as bigoted and lazyminded minus the ability to string together a coherent sentence. Those are their supporters.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was wondering how often this happens? I know of two coworkers who are married to blue collar men. I was surprised when I found out. Felt a little sorry for them like the had to settle, but they are both pretty charming smart and nice. I immediately rule on guys based on education and or profession. I just didn't think differences like that could work. Am I wrong?

So how is this working out for you? Married? Children?