Someone lied about a position DS had - she got in, DS didn't. Appropriate to tell school?

[Anonymous]

You people are so gullible. If I wanted to create a made up scenario that brought out righteous indignation, rooted in insecurity, this would be the scenario.

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Anonymous wrote:I like how this girl has been strung up and yet no one knows what she actually put on her college application. You don't know anything - you saw Facebook. MYOB.

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[Anonymous]

OP, sorry if you updated and I missed it, but....if this is a school leadership position, the faculty adviser for the organization involved needs to know that the girl is claiming a position she never held. The adviser might do nothing, since the girl and your son both are done with HS and moving on to college. But any decent adviser would probably both tell the girl to alter her public resume and remove the lie because it reflects on the organization. Nothing might happen at all, but it would be due diligence to tell the adviser of the organization in which this girl falsely claims leadership.

Your son, not you, should tell the adviser, and should not even mention his application to the same school or anything like that. No longer relevant. Just a straight-up, "This is online as Sally's resume, and it claims a position that she didn't hold. It doesn't affect me directly especially as we're now done with high school, but it does bother me that someone is claiming a position with our group that she never held, and I think that you as the adviser need to know about it so you can decide if you want to contact her about correcting it."

Anyway, your son should tell the adviser and be sure to do it in a way that reflects that he is not mad or doing it personally but is alerting the adviser to someone misrepresenting the organization.

[Anonymous]

There is no reason to revive this thread.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I like how this girl has been strung up and yet no one knows what she actually put on her college application. You don't know anything - you saw Facebook. MYOB.

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What she put on the college application doesn't matter. She's still lying in a very public forum about doing something she never did. Even if the faked leadership position was never mentioned by her as part of her college application, the lie is still out there on her resume for all to see. She needs to be called out on it. I don't get the sympathy for someone who is flat-out claiming an achievement that's not hers.

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Anonymous wrote:Eh, since we're anonymous - I'll admit that I would probably send an anonymous email or letter to the school alerting them of her lies. I wouldn't point out that my son actually held the positions, and my goal wouldn't be getting my son into the school. But I just have an overactive "righteous" reaction and it would eat me up thinking they might not be aware of her lies. I'd have to send the letter and let them decide to research/act on it or not.

And I'd feel smug if she got her acceptance rescinded.

I know, I'm a bad person. But it is the truth.

That doesn't make you a bad person. Bold, however.lol

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Anonymous wrote:A girl was admitted to a school my son was rejected to. She has a personal website with a resume on it and on it she lists that she has a fairly substantial leadership position that is actually my son's. The resume is also filled with, likely, other lies and exaggerations (my son knows her pretty well and can tell that some of them are made up, but has no proof for anything other than that leadership position). He came to me asking for advice and showed me the resume, but I don't know what to do.

The school is not his first choice and he is not upset about his rejection. He was already committed to his first choice. He is, however, upset to see a liar get away with it and to see the benefit of an elite school education wasted on this girl.

Yes, and I'll tell you why. Honesty counts. Especially when that title belongs to your son. You need to show your son that you will defend him in these situations. Even if it goes nowhere, your son will respect you for it. It sets a great example as well.

A number of kids are cheating these days, doing what this girl is doing or checking off a box that gives them a racial advantage, even of they are not of that race but it can't be proven (think Hispanic or Native American - it's not like they look for documentation).

For all of you who are saying otherwise....I'm surprised at so many who have no sense of morality. Very disturbing.

Race is documented in previous school registration form. They could easily find out if they wanted to. I would like to think most people wouldnt take a risk. Also, dont some college have interviews?

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I just cannot believe how many people think the OP shouldn't do anything or let it go. I guess it explains the state of the world today.

OP, I would definitely send the institution a letter explaining that your son holds that position and that you would like to alert them to any error on the girl's part. How do you know you're son won't be considered a liar if someone believes this girl's posted resume.

You will not be doing this for your son but for all of us who are trying to live and raise our children with integrity. It matters.

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Anonymous wrote:I would tell my son to let it go. He was not in competition with this girl for the same college.

If he could not let it go I would tell him to speak directly to the girl.

Basically, I am not an indignant and self-righteous blowhard like the PP and don't want him to become one.

Yes. Basically you lazy and morally deficient and raising your dc to be just like you. Thanks a lot.

[Anonymous]

Notice that the person who revived this dead thread, advocating for "telling on her," is insulting other posters.

That should tell you all you need to know.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would tell my son to let it go. He was not in competition with this girl for the same college.

If he could not let it go I would tell him to speak directly to the girl.

Basically, I am not an indignant and self-righteous blowhard like the PP and don't want him to become one.

Yes. Basically you lazy and morally deficient and raising your dc to be just like you. Thanks a lot.

NP here just wanting to point out what an indignant and self-righteous blowhard you actually come across as.

Lazy and morally deficient? All because of what someone may or may not have put in her college application? There's too much speculation for you and OP to be so outraged.

[Anonymous]

I'm OP and I dropped this thread because the situation got serious (as in, personal threats). It turned out the girl did lie but I cannot say more.

[Anonymous]

I think that OP was probably threatened with a lawsuit for slander or libel or other damage to reputation claim. It is enough to make most people reconsider whether this is a fight they want to wage, especially since her own son is going to college and she wants to be able to pay for that, and enjoy those years -- and not pay for, and get caught up in, some ongoing and protracted litigation instead.