How do I tell the foodie hosting me I'm a very picky eater?

[Anonymous]

Decline the invitation and tell her you have an appointment with your psychiatrist

She will understand and so do we

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Decline the invitation and tell her you have an appointment with your psychiatrist

She will understand and so do we

Bwahahahaha

[Anonymous]

OP, you did the right thing in declining. I know people like your friend who are VERY into food and very pushy and inquisitive about other people's eating habits. And when those people cook for you, the situation becomes a weird mix of their ego and their desire to share or to "enlighten you." Your friend specifically said as much.

If you were my friend, I'd make a plain grilled chicken for you or else just ask for specific menu ideas. I'd rather cook something my guests can eat and will enjoy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If she's your friend, doesn't she already know that you're a very picky eater. I mean she's watched you sit there and eat crackers and plain naan -- how much more indication does she need that your family (or maybe just you) are not the ones who will enjoy a Mexican meal?

I'd decline this dinner and then maybe go out with her separately (not for food -- coffee or drinks) and tell her straight up that you love spending time with her and her family, but these are your food issues and they aren't about to change, and you don't feel like you want to be at her house being scrutinized for what you do/don't eat or being "taught" who to eat good food. She'll either accept that and invite you over next time and say "I'm doing chicken and potatoes, is that ok" or she'll be offended and will wonder how you were ever friends, and that'll be the end of dining with her.

+1

This is good advice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Decline the invitation and tell her you have an appointment with your psychiatrist

She will understand and so do we

Bwahahahaha

Not liking certain foods means you need to see a psychiatrist?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Decline the invitation and tell her you have an appointment with your psychiatrist

She will understand and so do we

Bwahahahaha

Not liking certain foods means you need to see a psychiatrist?

Perhaps, when it causes anxiety in social situations.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Eat before you go; take small portions and move your food around a lot while you're there.

This is what I would do. Or decline. I'm not sure I consider your restrictions as dietary restrictions (maybe the first). Rather, they fall into preferences.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Decline the invitation and tell her you have an appointment with your psychiatrist

She will understand and so do we

You're a jerk. Seriously.
Just b/c OP has food preferences -even if super picky and not like yours or mine- doesn't mean that she needs to see a shrink.

I repeat: you're a jerk.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Decline the invitation and tell her you have an appointment with your psychiatrist

She will understand and so do we

You're a jerk. Seriously.
Just b/c OP has food preferences -even if super picky and not like yours or mine- doesn't mean that she needs to see a shrink.

I repeat: you're a jerk.

Yup.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP are you an albino 7 year old? Because your taste range is so limited that you sound like a child--or a person with an actual mental health issue or a person from the middle of nowhere who lacks any sort of imagination.

Some people are just like this, PP. It's just the way they are built. They aren't TRYING to have difficulty with textures and flavors. I'm sure if they had a choice, they would choose to be more like everyone else, and eat foods that everyone else eats. They really aren't being poverly sensitive, just to piss you off.

It's usually a texture thing. The difference between a smooth texture and a solid texture say, is really off putting. It makes them lose their appetite or want to throw up. So things like gravy and sauce aren't appetizeing at all. Imagine being really hungry, and going to a meal that is supposed to be delicious food, and instead it is something really, really unappetizing. And this happens All. The. Time.

Don't you think if people had a choice, they would choose to love to eat food like everyone else does? Why do you think they are doing it, just to be immature? Would you also say that about people who have asthma? (Why can't you just run like everyone else?) Or migranes (you are so immature -- you are just doing this to get attention). Or about people who were born gay? (Why can't you just be hetero like everyone else?)

Have some compassion, for Christ's sake.

(I'm not a picky eater. But my adult brother is, and my son is. It happens, and isn't due to being raised poorly. Some people just are more sensitive than others, to texture and taste and smell).

Being a picky eater due to texture, etc is NOT a medical condition like asthma. It is a neurosis. It is along the spectrum of anorexia. Your brother has an untreated eating disorder--and apparently you're allowing your son be neurotic too. There are therapists that could reverse this--but it is a persistent neurosis, particularly if you pretend it's just 'a family trait' and indulge it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think you need to either go willing to be a good sport or decline. Foodie or not, extreme pickiness isn't something a host should have to deal with.

+ 1
If it is not something that could potentially kill you, "i don't like it" does not qualify as a dietary restriction.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm an extreme picky eater too and the one time I posted about it here, I got so many "troll" or "suck it up" replies, I'm afraid you'll get no helpful replies.
If it were a close friend, I'd explain the situation and see if we came up a plan together. If not, I would just politely decline or arrange to go to a restaurant (of the other person's choice) instead.

This is not a "situation" this is extreme preferences that you really don't have the right to impose on someone else.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you did the right thing in declining. I know people like your friend who are VERY into food and very pushy and inquisitive about other people's eating habits. And when those people cook for you, the situation becomes a weird mix of their ego and their desire to share or to "enlighten you." Your friend specifically said as much.

If you were my friend, I'd make a plain grilled chicken for you or else just ask for specific menu ideas. I'd rather cook something my guests can eat and will enjoy.

+100 A truly gracious hostess provides some simple foods rice lettuce bread etc and then says NOTHING about what others are eating. When the others comment on the lovely goats balls and penis she says thank you we like it. End of story

[Anonymous]

You do not owe hostess an explanation. A simple sadly spices don't agree with me will do. Followed by a nice compliment. She is not your mommy forcing broccoli into your mouth nor is she your teacher helping you develop your palate.
Wow. Pretty unsophisticated pushy and obnoxious rude snobs on this thread.

[Anonymous]

But op do not define yourself as picky. Just say simple