Families would rather have daughters than sons

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I somehow always knew I didn’t want boys. But a few years ago it all clicked after listening to an interview on WAMU.

It was with an author who had investigated and exposed the manosphere and incel movement. Let me google it.

Didn’t find the interview, but here’s her book

https://www.npr.org/2021/03/13/976379494/manosphere-world-of-incels-exposed-in-laura-bates-book-men-who-hate-women

[Anonymous]

Just wait until your firstborn launches…

As a boy mom, it’s really hard to watch your son build a new life far from home and imagine what the future will look like when grandchildren are born and you only see your beloved son and his family once or twice a year.

Sigh.

I imagine it might be different with a daughter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just wait until your firstborn launches…

As a boy mom, it’s really hard to watch your son build a new life far from home and imagine what the future will look like when grandchildren are born and you only see your beloved son and his family once or twice a year.

Sigh.

I imagine it might be different with a daughter.

Why? That daughter could be building a new life in California or London too, not necessarily around the corner from you.

[Anonymous]

I just wanted to be a parent, and get to know my child and raise them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just wait until your firstborn launches…

As a boy mom, it’s really hard to watch your son build a new life far from home and imagine what the future will look like when grandchildren are born and you only see your beloved son and his family once or twice a year.

Sigh.

I imagine it might be different with a daughter.

Why? That daughter could be building a new life in California or London too, not necessarily around the corner from you.

Sure.

But most girls are more communicative and connected with their moms/families (except in Dcumlandia where so many women grow up resenting their mothers…and openly hate their MILs).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just wait until your firstborn launches…

As a boy mom, it’s really hard to watch your son build a new life far from home and imagine what the future will look like when grandchildren are born and you only see your beloved son and his family once or twice a year.

Sigh.

I imagine it might be different with a daughter.

My sons stayed in DC area for work. I see them all of the time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wanted all sons.

Of course, I wanted a healthy child and we kind have loved any gender—-but my preference was boys.

I have 2 boys and my sister has 3 boys. She always wanted a daughter. I never did.

Yeah. No periods and pms and all of that. Less worry over all with boys. You worry about a daughter’s safety there entire lives (male predators, driving alone, Ubers alone, living alone, walking in the dark, etc) in a way you don’t with young adult/adult sons.

Thats a BIG worry with having a daughter. As a woman, I have always had to live with caution and fear and I hate the same for my daughter. Women have way more options today than previous generations but this will never go away. It sucks.

On the other hand, with a boy, I worry that no matter how hard I work on him and try to raise him with the right values, he could end up being the kind of man perpetrating such crimes against the opposite sex.
Another thing with boys is that the world has changed so that women can be independent and expect equal partners of men but many men dont seem to have caught on to that fact and stepped up to it. Relationships have to have both partners working to keep the household afloat, a lot of men need and want that of their partners but shrug off a lot of the household and childcare stuff (both physical and mental load) onto their women. No wonder, women would rather be childless cat ladies and rightfully so. Am afraid that even with all that I try to teach my son, he'd end up mired in the manosphere toxicity

My sons are not like that and neither are any of their friends. They are empathetic, kind and intelligent men (18 and 20) that respect women. Your fears are a bit whacky. My kids do a lot of community service as well, and were raised with good ethics/values. They and their friends give me hope that we can have new leadership in this country in coming years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:First, I’ll start with I am not a girly girl. I barely get my own hair done in the morning. I’ve had the same-ish bob style haircut since I was a teenager (minor changes each cut & style, but all variations of a bob)
I always pictured myself with two boys, and that’s exactly what I got. I couldn’t imagine doing girls hair and makeup and all that stuff. I love my boys. But if I would’ve had girls, I would’ve figured out how to do hair and makeup and love them just as much.
I have watched Adolescence, and I don’t see why people are assuming this one drama means all boys are like that. There’s plenty of shows with mean high school girls, and I don’t assume all high school girls are mean.
My oldest is a college freshman, he’s been dating the same girl for three years. They are best friends. They support each other. She is incredible and smart. My husband and I modeled appropriate family dynamics. If I cook dinner, he does the dishes. If he cooks dinner, I do the dishes. We both do housework. The boys have chores to do…
My friends with younger children, they all have a mix of boys and girls. I’ve never heard any of them say they only want girls or only want boys. All of them say they want a healthy child.

Same. I preferred going to the field and kicking a ball with my sons, playing sports, physical activity to tea parties and spa days. I have two sons and I wanted a healthy baby. Period. But- if asked- I did have a preference for sons. I have two that are best friends and the easiest to raise- excellent in school and well-behaved, funny. They are 18 and 21 now and crack me up. I love it when they are home—so funny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Watch the Netflix series “ Adolescence.”

It exposes what boys are really like today, and also why no one wants to have one.

It’s fiction, and you are wrong that no one wants to have boys. We aren’t all man haters

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just wait until your firstborn launches…

As a boy mom, it’s really hard to watch your son build a new life far from home and imagine what the future will look like when grandchildren are born and you only see your beloved son and his family once or twice a year.

Sigh.

I imagine it might be different with a daughter.

Why? That daughter could be building a new life in California or London too, not necessarily around the corner from you.

Sure.

But most girls are more communicative and connected with their moms/families (except in Dcumlandia where so many women grow up resenting their mothers…and openly hate their MILs).

I’m not at all connected to my family. I adored my mil and cared for her till her death.

[Anonymous]

I started having kids 20 years ago (I have four, boys and girls) and this has been a frequent topic of articles and conversations since well before then. The most common theme is, "boys are much more likely to be diagnosed with x,y,z"

I think it is extremely weird to have strong feelings about your child's sex. If you are open to having children, you are taking a HUGE leap of faith and committing to accepting whatever comes. Male-female is the least of it.

As far as stereotypes go, I want to add that my most hyperactive, handful, athletic, active child is a girl and my calmest, most grounded, peace-maker child is a boy. You get what you get.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I somehow always knew I didn’t want boys. But a few years ago it all clicked after listening to an interview on WAMU.

It was with an author who had investigated and exposed the manosphere and incel movement. Let me google it.

Didn’t find the interview, but here’s her book

https://www.npr.org/2021/03/13/976379494/manosphere-world-of-incels-exposed-in-laura-bates-book-men-who-hate-women

Thanks! Ordered last week and read much of it over the weekend.

The book, along with this thread, make me so thankful I never had boys!

However, with all I’ve learned recently, I do fear for my three daughters’ future. Men are awful!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I started having kids 20 years ago (I have four, boys and girls) and this has been a frequent topic of articles and conversations since well before then. The most common theme is, "boys are much more likely to be diagnosed with x,y,z"

I think it is extremely weird to have strong feelings about your child's sex. If you are open to having children, you are taking a HUGE leap of faith and committing to accepting whatever comes. Male-female is the least of it.

As far as stereotypes go, I want to add that my most hyperactive, handful, athletic, active child is a girl and my calmest, most grounded, peace-maker child is a boy. You get what you get.

This is so true but apparently too rational and emotionally mature for some posters

[Anonymous]

It's definitely a complicated time to be a boy.

Girls are WAY easier. If we had a boy first we may not have had a second kid.

That said, we have one of each and love them both.

[Anonymous]

White moms teach yall kids to drive and give right of way. You and your kids never do. Saw a white mom not say anything to her nerdy looking teen who was going the wrong direction. Whose getting y'all pregnant?