+1. I had someone say something like this to me when I was pregnant with my first son, after a daughter. I remember it to this day "I knew I was having 3 girls because that is all I wanted...I wouldn't want a boy". It was horrible to hear, and I know she regrets it now as she is the grandmother of 2 little boys she obviously adores. It is truly sad to me, as a mother to 2 boys and 2 girls. I'm incredibly close to each of them, in different ways, but they have each brought their own unique "self" for me to love. |
Yeah. No periods and pms and all of that. Less worry over all with boys. You worry about a daughter’s safety there entire lives (male predators, driving alone, Ubers alone, living alone, walking in the dark, etc) in a way you don’t with young adult/adult sons. |
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Sure, MAGA.
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| I wanted all sons as well. Don't have to worry about them getting pregnant if they are attacked. |
Sure. Buy them nose rings and blue hair dye too.
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Thats a BIG worry with having a daughter. As a woman, I have always had to live with caution and fear and I hate the same for my daughter. Women have way more options today than previous generations but this will never go away. It sucks. On the other hand, with a boy, I worry that no matter how hard I work on him and try to raise him with the right values, he could end up being the kind of man perpetrating such crimes against the opposite sex. Another thing with boys is that the world has changed so that women can be independent and expect equal partners of men but many men dont seem to have caught on to that fact and stepped up to it. Relationships have to have both partners working to keep the household afloat, a lot of men need and want that of their partners but shrug off a lot of the household and childcare stuff (both physical and mental load) onto their women. No wonder, women would rather be childless cat ladies and rightfully so. Am afraid that even with all that I try to teach my son, he'd end up mired in the manosphere toxicity |
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First, I’ll start with I am not a girly girl. I barely get my own hair done in the morning. I’ve had the same-ish bob style haircut since I was a teenager (minor changes each cut & style, but all variations of a bob)
I always pictured myself with two boys, and that’s exactly what I got. I couldn’t imagine doing girls hair and makeup and all that stuff. I love my boys. But if I would’ve had girls, I would’ve figured out how to do hair and makeup and love them just as much. I have watched Adolescence, and I don’t see why people are assuming this one drama means all boys are like that. There’s plenty of shows with mean high school girls, and I don’t assume all high school girls are mean. My oldest is a college freshman, he’s been dating the same girl for three years. They are best friends. They support each other. She is incredible and smart. My husband and I modeled appropriate family dynamics. If I cook dinner, he does the dishes. If he cooks dinner, I do the dishes. We both do housework. The boys have chores to do… My friends with younger children, they all have a mix of boys and girls. I’ve never heard any of them say they only want girls or only want boys. All of them say they want a healthy child. |
You’re normal, the coven here is not. You give me hope. |