Families would rather have daughters than sons

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Anonymous wrote:DH and I have a DD, DS, DD in that order. Our DS is just so much harder. He's not as loving or as helpful as the girls. He's also wilder and has more little boy energy. We're a bit more worried about shepherding him into adulthood. There is space in society for less ambitious women, but there isn't for less ambitious men. I honestly don't know anyone who doesn't want their dh to make equal or more money than they do. While we're very glad to have one of each, we were THRILLED that baby 3 was a girl and not a boy.

Also, as another anecdote, the moms I know who have only sons aren't as happy with their lives as those who have only daughters. They're all overwhelmed with how wild little boys are. Or they have leaned into "boy mom life." My closest friend can't stop talking about being a #boymom. Her boys are just insane and have taken over the house. Last time I was there for a BBQ and she had her sons peeing off the deck instead of going in to use the bathroom. She said it's because they trash the bathroom and pee on the floor and walls. (FFS, my son would never do that!)

Is he on trend to be 6’2+ with nice hair and athletic?

Low ambition but golden-retriever energy in a tall package is a very successful at life archetype

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH and I have a DD, DS, DD in that order. Our DS is just so much harder. He's not as loving or as helpful as the girls. He's also wilder and has more little boy energy. We're a bit more worried about shepherding him into adulthood. There is space in society for less ambitious women, but there isn't for less ambitious men. I honestly don't know anyone who doesn't want their dh to make equal or more money than they do. While we're very glad to have one of each, we were THRILLED that baby 3 was a girl and not a boy.

Also, as another anecdote, the moms I know who have only sons aren't as happy with their lives as those who have only daughters. They're all overwhelmed with how wild little boys are. Or they have leaned into "boy mom life." My closest friend can't stop talking about being a #boymom. Her boys are just insane and have taken over the house. Last time I was there for a BBQ and she had her sons peeing off the deck instead of going in to use the bathroom. She said it's because they trash the bathroom and pee on the floor and walls. (FFS, my son would never do that!)

Sounds like you're just not a great parent to your son either. Most of you posting on here probably aren't.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think the perception is that girls are easier to manage behaviorally. Im not saying that it’s true, but that is what people think.

Ask any teacher. Girls are easier to manage than boys. Boys can make up for it by being held back a year in school though.

The girls might be quieter but they are being ridiculously cruel and toxic to the other girls around them all day long with the looks, comments, gossip, sneering, put down, and sarcasm. I have 2 boys and 1 girl and the boys are infinitely easier and nicer to each other. The teachers are ignoring what they either don't see or claim not to see.

[Anonymous]

We are one and done and our child is a girl. I would never say this out loud but I definitely wanted a girl and do not have a desire to have a boy. I know it's wrong and I should value boys and girls. I don't know, I guess I feel I can relate more to a girl? But I sense my DH feels the same way. It isn't rational or fair, I know that

[Anonymous]

Daughters don't always have great relationships with their mothers as teens or adults.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Watch the Netflix series “ Adolescence.”

It exposes what boys are really like today, and also why no one wants to have one.

The best description of Adolescence I read is that it's wishful porn, tapping into an irrational and unrealistic fear in left wing progressives when in real life the threat to women comes from quite different places.

[Anonymous]

I wanted one of each but didn’t care that much. Ended up with one of each. Love them both fiercely but the boy has always been easier to parent. Just an easy personality. What I have seen from friends is that boys tend to be more difficult as young children and girls are more difficult as teens but there are so many exceptions to this and it is not at all universal. Some of what makes my
DD difficult will, I believe, serve her very well in adulthood. It makes me sad that some parents actively don’t want kids of a certain gender.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wanted one of each but didn’t care that much. Ended up with one of each. Love them both fiercely but the boy has always been easier to parent. Just an easy personality. What I have seen from friends is that boys tend to be more difficult as young children and girls are more difficult as teens but there are so many exceptions to this and it is not at all universal. Some of what makes my
DD difficult will, I believe, serve her very well in adulthood. It makes me sad that some parents actively don’t want kids of a certain gender.

My boys were never wild or unmanageable. And I can count on one hand how many times they came home crying about social issues at school. The girls are completely different. Constantly evolving friend groups, social drama, exclusion, bullying, it never seems to stop.

[Anonymous]

I feel like the girl moms are a bit much. I literally had one tell me ( a mom of only boys) that only girl's stay in touch after marriage and that my son was "just mine until marriage". What a horrible thing to say to a toddler mom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Watch the Netflix series “ Adolescence.”

It exposes what boys are really like today, and also why no one wants to have one.

What’s with the boy hate? Most boys I know are great. I wanted girls as that’s what I knew. I got boys, adjusted quickly and boys are great.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think the perception is that girls are easier to manage behaviorally. Im not saying that it’s true, but that is what people think.

Ask any teacher. Girls are easier to manage than boys. Boys can make up for it by being held back a year in school though.

Many teachers now don’t teach or put structure in their classroom. Girls are not easier to manage nor should you hold back kids. The problem is play based preschool and parents don’t prepare kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel like the girl moms are a bit much. I literally had one tell me ( a mom of only boys) that only girl's stay in touch after marriage and that my son was "just mine until marriage". What a horrible thing to say to a toddler mom.

Those same moms are spending a lot of time engineering a play group for their daughter designed to create a pecking order and exclude other girls. They plan for this play group to last until at least 6th grade.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We are one and done and our child is a girl. I would never say this out loud but I definitely wanted a girl and do not have a desire to have a boy. I know it's wrong and I should value boys and girls. I don't know, I guess I feel I can relate more to a girl? But I sense my DH feels the same way. It isn't rational or fair, I know that

You missed out. Little boys are the best!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Daughters don't always have great relationships with their mothers as teens or adults.

True, but statistically the grandkids are closer to the daughter’s parents than the sons. Not always, but more often.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Daughters don't always have great relationships with their mothers as teens or adults.

Take your misogynistic BS elsewhere, you sexist disgusting MAGA.