Women lying/ gate keeping around where clothes are from

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Anonymous wrote:I had no idea so many women are so triggered by another woman asking where their dress is from. Is this an east coast thing? I guess some women are really competitive with other women instead of helpful and open. That is so unfortunate. This may be a really good way to test who is a good friend or not. Ask where their dress is from and if they answer, you have a genuine, caring person. If they don’t, you have a pretentious, competitive weirdo. Choose which type of friend you prefer.

Sorry you just found out how rude and obnoxious your nosy questions are.

Can you please explain why this is thought of as rude and obnoxious?

Serious question.

Is it just because you don’t want someone copy? Or do you feel it reveals how much money you spend on clothes (which of course doesn’t necessarily correlate to how much money you have)?
Other?

Because there can be a wrong answer. Maybe I don’t shop at a cool store, or maybe I spent too much or too little and now you’re judging for it. And the askers are definitely judging as demonstrated here. It’s a party, just relax and make polite conversation with people you don’t know.

It's because she's insecure and likely very judgmental since she assumes everyone else is judging her, when in reality they don't care enough about her to bother and are just making conversation.

Ok. If that’s your best attempt at making conversation you should probably practice more. Do you often social anxiety?

You should stop day drinking as a hobby and try something more productive.

Multiple people have said it’s weird, don’t do it, yet there’s you missing social cues thinking everyone else is the problem.

[Anonymous]

It's super weird to ask women, who you are not very good friends with, where they bought their clothes. Do you also ask what the square footage of their house is, OP? Or how much they paid for it? *giggles*

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Anonymous wrote:no one owes you information about where they shop and make purchases, OP. Stop being tacky and asking where things are from. Seriously.

It's not tacky lol.

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Anonymous wrote:It's super weird to ask women, who you are not very good friends with, where they bought their clothes. Do you also ask what the square footage of their house is, OP? Or how much they paid for it? *giggles*

Do you really not see how asking someone where a top is from and asking how much they paid for their house are totally different?

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Anonymous wrote:I had no idea so many women are so triggered by another woman asking where their dress is from. Is this an east coast thing? I guess some women are really competitive with other women instead of helpful and open. That is so unfortunate. This may be a really good way to test who is a good friend or not. Ask where their dress is from and if they answer, you have a genuine, caring person. If they don’t, you have a pretentious, competitive weirdo. Choose which type of friend you prefer.

Sorry you just found out how rude and obnoxious your nosy questions are.

Can you please explain why this is thought of as rude and obnoxious?

Serious question.

Is it just because you don’t want someone copy? Or do you feel it reveals how much money you spend on clothes (which of course doesn’t necessarily correlate to how much money you have)?
Other?

Because there can be a wrong answer. Maybe I don’t shop at a cool store, or maybe I spent too much or too little and now you’re judging for it. And the askers are definitely judging as demonstrated here. It’s a party, just relax and make polite conversation with people you don’t know.

It's because she's insecure and likely very judgmental since she assumes everyone else is judging her, when in reality they don't care enough about her to bother and are just making conversation.

Ok. If that’s your best attempt at making conversation you should probably practice more. Do you often social anxiety?

You should stop day drinking as a hobby and try something more productive.

Multiple people have said it’s weird, don’t do it, yet there’s you missing social cues thinking everyone else is the problem.

And multiple people have said it's not weird. It's really not that big of a deal either way.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It's super weird to ask women, who you are not very good friends with, where they bought their clothes. Do you also ask what the square footage of their house is, OP? Or how much they paid for it? *giggles*

Do you really not see how asking someone where a top is from and asking how much they paid for their house are totally different?

This. I'm the type that will gladly tell you where I bought something. But if you ask me how much I spent on my house? That's a little weird.

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Anonymous wrote:I had no idea so many women are so triggered by another woman asking where their dress is from. Is this an east coast thing? I guess some women are really competitive with other women instead of helpful and open. That is so unfortunate. This may be a really good way to test who is a good friend or not. Ask where their dress is from and if they answer, you have a genuine, caring person. If they don’t, you have a pretentious, competitive weirdo. Choose which type of friend you prefer.

Sorry you just found out how rude and obnoxious your nosy questions are.

Can you please explain why this is thought of as rude and obnoxious?

Serious question.

Is it just because you don’t want someone copy? Or do you feel it reveals how much money you spend on clothes (which of course doesn’t necessarily correlate to how much money you have)?
Other?

Because there can be a wrong answer. Maybe I don’t shop at a cool store, or maybe I spent too much or too little and now you’re judging for it. And the askers are definitely judging as demonstrated here. It’s a party, just relax and make polite conversation with people you don’t know.

It's because she's insecure and likely very judgmental since she assumes everyone else is judging her, when in reality they don't care enough about her to bother and are just making conversation.

Ok. If that’s your best attempt at making conversation you should probably practice more. Do you often social anxiety?

You should stop day drinking as a hobby and try something more productive.

Multiple people have said it’s weird, don’t do it, yet there’s you missing social cues thinking everyone else is the problem.

And multiple people have said it's not weird. It's really not that big of a deal either way.

Ok so don’t be like op and get hurt if people blow off your question because now you know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wonder if opinions on this question are related to profession at all?

100%. Definitely age / generation too

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Anonymous wrote:no one owes you information about where they shop and make purchases, OP. Stop being tacky and asking where things are from. Seriously.

There's nothing rude or tacky about asking, but you should do it in a polite way like "May I ask where you got that?" They can say no or they don't remember or it was a gift or whatever.

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Anonymous wrote:It's super weird to ask women, who you are not very good friends with, where they bought their clothes. Do you also ask what the square footage of their house is, OP? Or how much they paid for it? *giggles*

Do you really not see how asking someone where a top is from and asking how much they paid for their house are totally different?

This. I'm the type that will gladly tell you where I bought something. But if you ask me how much I spent on my house? That's a little weird.

Who asks someone what they paid for their house? That’s what Zillow and Redfin are for.

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Anonymous wrote:I had no idea so many women are so triggered by another woman asking where their dress is from. Is this an east coast thing? I guess some women are really competitive with other women instead of helpful and open. That is so unfortunate. This may be a really good way to test who is a good friend or not. Ask where their dress is from and if they answer, you have a genuine, caring person. If they don’t, you have a pretentious, competitive weirdo. Choose which type of friend you prefer.

Sorry you just found out how rude and obnoxious your nosy questions are.

Can you please explain why this is thought of as rude and obnoxious?

Serious question.

Is it just because you don’t want someone copy? Or do you feel it reveals how much money you spend on clothes (which of course doesn’t necessarily correlate to how much money you have)?
Other?

Because there can be a wrong answer. Maybe I don’t shop at a cool store, or maybe I spent too much or too little and now you’re judging for it. And the askers are definitely judging as demonstrated here. It’s a party, just relax and make polite conversation with people you don’t know.

It's because she's insecure and likely very judgmental since she assumes everyone else is judging her, when in reality they don't care enough about her to bother and are just making conversation.

Ok. If that’s your best attempt at making conversation you should probably practice more. Do you often social anxiety?

You should stop day drinking as a hobby and try something more productive.

Multiple people have said it’s weird, don’t do it, yet there’s you missing social cues thinking everyone else is the problem.

And multiple people have said it's not weird. It's really not that big of a deal either way.

Ok so don’t be like op and get hurt if people blow off your question because now you know.

I actually don't ask questions like this but have no issue if someone asked about what I am wearing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because Anthropologie is basic and people in Brooklyn want to be more unique.

This.
I can't tell you how everytime I meet with some hipster living in Brooklyn they feel a need to demonstrate their unique personality. I'm not talking about the long-timers in Bayridge who grew up there. I'm talking about the new settlers.

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Anonymous wrote:I had no idea so many women are so triggered by another woman asking where their dress is from. Is this an east coast thing? I guess some women are really competitive with other women instead of helpful and open. That is so unfortunate. This may be a really good way to test who is a good friend or not. Ask where their dress is from and if they answer, you have a genuine, caring person. If they don’t, you have a pretentious, competitive weirdo. Choose which type of friend you prefer.

Sorry you just found out how rude and obnoxious your nosy questions are.

Can you please explain why this is thought of as rude and obnoxious?

Serious question.

Is it just because you don’t want someone copy? Or do you feel it reveals how much money you spend on clothes (which of course doesn’t necessarily correlate to how much money you have)?
Other?

Because there can be a wrong answer. Maybe I don’t shop at a cool store, or maybe I spent too much or too little and now you’re judging for it. And the askers are definitely judging as demonstrated here. It’s a party, just relax and make polite conversation with people you don’t know.

It's because she's insecure and likely very judgmental since she assumes everyone else is judging her, when in reality they don't care enough about her to bother and are just making conversation.

Ok. If that’s your best attempt at making conversation you should probably practice more. Do you often social anxiety?

You should stop day drinking as a hobby and try something more productive.

Multiple people have said it’s weird, don’t do it, yet there’s you missing social cues thinking everyone else is the problem.

And multiple people have said it's not weird. It's really not that big of a deal either way.

Ok so don’t be like op and get hurt if people blow off your question because now you know.

I actually don't ask questions like this but have no issue if someone asked about what I am wearing.

You might be in the wrong if you ask, but you won't ever be wrong if you don't ask at all. And what's the point? Are people running out to Anthropologie to buy that dress they just heard about? What if you run into the person again wearing that dress? Awkward.

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Anonymous wrote:Because Anthropologie is basic and people in Brooklyn want to be more unique.

This.
I can't tell you how everytime I meet with some hipster living in Brooklyn they feel a need to demonstrate their unique personality. I'm not talking about the long-timers in Bayridge who grew up there. I'm talking about the new settlers.

That's bc most came from some small town and are not unique at all but try really hard to look like they are.

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Anonymous wrote:Because Anthropologie is basic and people in Brooklyn want to be more unique.

This.
I can't tell you how everytime I meet with some hipster living in Brooklyn they feel a need to demonstrate their unique personality. I'm not talking about the long-timers in Bayridge who grew up there. I'm talking about the new settlers.

It’s Bay Ridge.